Learn Ways to Communicate Without Yelling

As a therapist, I sit in the presence of individuals, couples and families who share stories about the challenges in their interpersonal relationships. What remains with me, after decades of being a privileged listener, is a litany of complaints about how yelling is the primary means of communication between them and if not a direct reaction to disagreement, it becomes the default mode when the temperature rises.  As a human being who does my level best to take the professional hat off in my own interactions outside the office and sometimes failing miserably, I know all too well, the temptation to increase the volume of my voice if I feel I am not being heard. The paradox is that many put shields up when they feel aurally assaulted and don’t hear all that is said. People often respond better to whispers than roars. I’m an example of that as well. I grew up in a household that was primarily peaceful. I can count on a few fingers the number of times when conflict was verbalized between my parents and between them and myself. In my nearly 12-year-marriage that ended when my husband died, such was not the case. He was intimately acquainted with anger, since his childhood home was fraught with it, and he carried it like a bag of rocks into our relationship. Although much of our decade-plus-two was loving, major aspects were toxic and was lacking the emotional safety everyone deserves. After Michael died, I wore the mantle of single parent to my then 11-year-old s...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Anger Communication Anger Management Conflict Source Type: blogs

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CONCLUSIONS: Considering the age group in which rectal prolapse is most commonly seen, and the change in bowel habits, chronic constipation and irritation chronic seen in rectal prolapse may be responsible for the development of rectum cancer, therefore endoscopic screening should not be overlooked in rectal prolapse cases. KEY WORDS: Anorectal emergencies, Colon cancer, Rectal prolapse. PMID: 31723051 [PubMed - in process]
Source: Annali Italiani di Chirurgia - Category: Surgery Tags: Ann Ital Chir Source Type: research
CONCLUSION: The etiology of chronic groin pain post hernia repair is related in part to nerve injury. This is supported by the high frequency of sensory symptoms and numbness in these patients. However other factors including the role of tissue injury and inflammatory postoperative changes need to be considered. KEY WORDS: Chronic postoperative pain, Inguinal hernia repair, Open surgery, Laparoscopic surgery. PMID: 31719216 [PubMed - as supplied by publisher]
Source: Annali Italiani di Chirurgia - Category: Surgery Tags: Ann Ital Chir Source Type: research
Publication date: Available online 15 November 2019Source: Trends in Food Science &TechnologyAuthor(s): Ryoiti KiyamaAbstractBackgroundGreen tea is produced from the tea plant Camellia sinensis without fermentation, and contains characteristic constituents, which are associated with health-promoting effects such as physiological, immunological, neurological and psychological effects, and protective effects against diseases, such as cancer, cardiovascular diseases and diabetes. Catechins, such as catechin, epicatechin, epigallocatechin, epicatechin-3-O-gallate and epigallocatechin-3-O-gallate, and other green tea consti...
Source: Trends in Food Science and Technology - Category: Food Science Source Type: research
CONCLUSIONS: Both STX3451 and STX2895 provide new approaches for inducing cell death and lowering tumour burden in NF2 as well as in NF1, which both have limited treatment options. PMID: 31730023 [PubMed - in process]
Source: BMC Pharmacology and Toxicology - Category: Drugs & Pharmacology Tags: BMC Pharmacol Toxicol Source Type: research
CONCLUSIONS: The matrices and the questionnaire have a great diagnostic performance which seems interesting for a use as a screening tool for occupational exposures. These results have yet to be confirmed by large-scale studies. PMID: 31727556 [PubMed - as supplied by publisher]
Source: Revue des Maladies Respiratoires - Category: Respiratory Medicine Tags: Rev Mal Respir Source Type: research
The objective of this paper is to synthesise current knowledge on ALK rearrangement and its impact on the management of advanced NSCLC. Several inhibitors of the tyrosine kinase of ALK (crizotinib, ceritinib, alectinib) have been approved as first line therapies in patients with advanced ALK positive NSCLC, which are associated with a better median progression-free survival than conventional chemotherapy. Unfortunately, the emergence of drug resistance leads to tumor progression. In patients with oligoprogressive disease if local ablative therapy can be effected, continuing with the same ALK tyrosine kinase inhibitor is on...
Source: Revue des Maladies Respiratoires - Category: Respiratory Medicine Tags: Rev Mal Respir Source Type: research
Abstract The Editor-in-Chief has retracted this article [1] because an investigation by Keio University has concluded that there are inaccuracies in the data reported. PMID: 31730223 [PubMed - in process]
Source: Aging Clinical and Experimental Research - Category: Geriatrics Authors: Tags: Aging Clin Exp Res Source Type: research
Publication date: Available online 16 November 2019Source: Artificial Intelligence in MedicineAuthor(s): Anam Mustaqeem, Syed Muhammad Anwar, Muhammad MajidAbstractIn the last few years, hospitals have been collecting a large amount of health related digital data for patients. This includes clinical test reports, treatment updates and disease diagnosis. The information extracted from this data is used for clinical decisions and treatment recommendations. Among health recommender systems, collaborative filtering technique has gained a significant success. However, traditional collaborative filtering algorithms are facing ch...
Source: Artificial Intelligence in Medicine - Category: Bioinformatics Source Type: research
Publication date: Available online 15 November 2019Source: Fuß &SprunggelenkAuthor(s): Hubert Hörterer, Sebastian Felix Baumbach, Mareen Braunstein, Ulrike Szeimies, Wolfgang Böcker, Markus Walther, Hans PolzerZusammenfassungSchmerzen am Ansatz der Achillessehne stellen mit einer Lebenszeitinzidenz von 6% ein häufiges Krankheitsbild dar. Mittels klinischer Untersuchung, Röntgen und MRT können die Pathologien entsprechend ihrer Lokalisation in drei verschiedene Kompartimente (retro-, intra-, prä-achillär) eingeteilt werden. Führt die konservative Therapie nicht zu einer ausr...
Source: Fuss and Sprunggelenk - Category: Podiatry Source Type: research
Publication date: Available online 15 November 2019Source: Biotechnology ReportsAuthor(s): Pradeep Kumar, Balwant Singh, Vikram Thakur, Abhishek Thakur, Nandita Thakur, Deepak Pandey, Duni ChandAbstractTaxol® (generic name Paclitaxel) is a chemotherapeutic drug, effective against head, neck, breast, lung, bladder, ovary, and cervix cancers. Rising demands in chemotherapy and limited supply of natural taxol have ultimately increased the cost of the drug. Semi synthesis using taxol precursors is not able to meet the global supply and has intensified the need to find alternative ways of taxol production. In the present st...
Source: Biotechnology Reports - Category: Biotechnology Source Type: research
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