What Prompts You to Quarrel?
“We are never so much disposed to quarrel with others as when we are dissatisfied with ourselves.” – William Hazlitt
Sometimes you just want to pick a fight. You might not even know why you feel so inclined to argue, only that you do. Once the words blurt from your lips, though, it’s hard to take them back without some pain on the part of you or the other person or persons. There’s good reason for the recommendation to think before you speak. Still, what really prompts you to want to quarrel? Is it organic, something external or internal?
To look at why we quarrel it may be instructive to first examine what...
Source: World of Psychology - February 27, 2017 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Suzanne Kane Tags: Anger Relationships Self-Help Anger Management argument Communication Conflict Resolution Defensiveness Source Type: blogs
Another weird turmeric story
Again, as with my Romeo the cat story, I didn’t think I’d be writing a post about my most recent experience with turmeric, so I didn’t take any photos to document what happened. But I decided to write about it anyway, because my experience might be of help to others who might find themselves in a similar predicament.
A few months ago, right before the Xmas holiday, an odd-looking, spot appeared on my left arm, seemingly from one day to the next (I probably just hadn’t noticed it). It had a crust on it, and it was a bit oozy (I’ll spare you too many details!).
I didn’t know what it was...
Source: Margaret's Corner - February 24, 2017 Category: Cancer & Oncology Authors: Margaret Tags: Blogroll Source Type: blogs
Why We Put Off Life ’s Most Important Things
No question about it. Life is messy, complicated, complex and full of surprises. There’s always a lot to do and the feeling that there isn’t enough time to deal with what needs to be done. In fact, however, we are our own worst enemy when it comes to taking care of some of life’s most important decisions. Why do we put off what’s necessary, often inevitable, and can make such a difference? It often has a root in fear.
Fear of failure
Perhaps the biggest reason most people delay making a decision and taking action on something important is fear of failure. The thought of failing miserably, profoundly, publicly is so...
Source: World of Psychology - February 17, 2017 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Suzanne Kane Tags: Brain and Behavior General Habits Happiness Inspiration & Hope Motivation and Inspiration Self-Esteem Self-Help Success & Achievement Failure Fear Perfectionism self-confidence Source Type: blogs
Freedom of Association Takes Another Hit
To see how little is left of one of our most important rights, the freedom of association, look no further than totoday ’s unanimous decision by the Washington State Supreme Court upholding a lower court ’s ruling that florist Baronelle Stutzman was guilty of violating the Washington Law Against Discrimination (WLAD) when she declined, on religious grounds, to provide floral arrangements for one of her regular customer’s same-sex wedding. The lower court had found Stutzman personally liable and had awarded the plaintiffs permanent injunctive relief, actual monetary damages, attorneys’ fees, and costs.This breathtak...
Source: Cato-at-liberty - February 16, 2017 Category: American Health Authors: Roger Pilon Source Type: blogs
A Wood-Chopping Process
Meet Psych Central’s odd(est) couple — Gretchen Rubin and Nick Saban.
Rubin is a New York Times best-selling author, producing self-improvement tomes like The Happiness Project and Happier at Home. Saban is Alabama’s head football coach, collecting national championships like you and I collect stamps. Or parking tickets.
Eyebrows arched, you are likely wondering what Rubin — noted happiness guru — and Saban — noted joyless taskmaster — have in common. For the record, Rubin is not designing a new defensive scheme to neutralize still-galloping Clemson’s Deshaun Watson. And Saban is not...
Source: World of Psychology - February 8, 2017 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Matthew Loeb Tags: Creativity Habits Happiness Industrial and Workplace Personal Relationships Self-Esteem Self-Help Stress Success & Achievement Failure Gretchen Rubin Nick Saban Rejection risk-taking Source Type: blogs
Funtabulously Frivolous Friday Five 173
Just when you thought your brain could unwind on a Friday, you realise that it would rather be challenged with some good old fashioned medical trivia FFFF…introducing Funtabulously Frivolous Friday Five 173.
Question 1
What arm do most people hold their babies?
+ Reveal the Funtabulous Answer
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The Left
The phenomenon, which is called left-side bias or left-cradling bias, encourages the right side of the brain to process emotions and ability to monitor the baby. It occurs 70-85% of the time in humans.
However, human...
Source: Life in the Fast Lane - January 20, 2017 Category: Emergency Medicine Authors: Neil Long Tags: Frivolous Friday Five ADHD anxiety bee stings depression dixon of dock green left cradling bias mees lines narcissistic personality OCD phonism rheumatoid arthritis whinnie-the-pooh Source Type: blogs
Is Fear Holding You Back?
I wonder how many times in your life you have avoided doing something because of a fear of Bee’s?
And yes I do mean those rather cute yellow and black flying insects who hang around in hives helping humankind survive by pollinating about a third of our food.
Unless by some strange fluke you have an irrational phobia of Bee’s brought on by watching mad Uncle Earnest cover his genitalia in honey and proceeded to march naked into a cluster of hives never to return when you were a child, my guess is, never.
I live in Orlando and there isn’t a large metropolitan city on earth that receives as many lighting strikes per yea...
Source: A Daring Adventure - January 17, 2017 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tim Brownson Tags: Life Coaching Source Type: blogs
Revenge really is sweet: study shows the mood-enhancing effect of retaliation
By Alex Fradera
When we feel ostracised, we’re more likely to behave aggressively. Previous research suggests that vengeance on those who we think have wronged us can be driven by a sense of justice, and may activate neural reward centres. But being ostracised can also lead to generalised aggression, even lashing out at unrelated people, so there seems to be more going on. In new research in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, David Chester and C. Nathan DeWall tested the idea that social rejection, by making us feel wounded and unwanted, triggers a need to repair our mood by whatever means available, including...
Source: BPS RESEARCH DIGEST - January 5, 2017 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: BPS Research Digest Tags: Anger Emotion Morality Social Source Type: blogs
Long and Winding Road
I feel emotionally exhausted, but I did have a huge moment when I realized why I have suddenly been saying things to people that there is no way I would have previously said. They are always very honest statements, and right now, I am being nothing but totally honest. I see no reason not to be, I care less than I did about sparing someone ' s feelings. I feel like people DESERVE to know the truth, and that I must be the truth teller.I am not sure how this occurred to me yesterday, perhaps I was reflecting, but I felt good, really good. Actually, I felt great, so free. It was strange since I just lo...
Source: bipolar.and.me - December 23, 2016 Category: Psychiatry Source Type: blogs
The movie Dangal will improve the sex ratio more than the PCPNDT Act
The falling sex ratio in India has been a matter of concern, which is why the government of India passed the PCPNDT Act , with the hope that this would help to increase the number of girls . The intention was that the Act would stop people from resorting to sex selective abortions.Sadly, the act has had previous little impact . It has become a very punitive act , which focuses on punishing doctors who are allegedly performing sex selective abortions. 9 times out of 10, the doctors who've been hauled to court for flouting the Act is not because they have been caught performing sex selective abortions , but because they have...
Source: Dr.Malpani's Blog - December 5, 2016 Category: Reproduction Medicine Source Type: blogs
Accepting the Gift of Criticism
In conclusion, the sting of criticism can often be reduced when you remain calm and learn how to listen to what is really being said. When you continue to show respect to the person who is criticizing you — no matter how irrational and angry he may be — you are also allowing yourself to better accept the gift of mutual understanding and self-knowledge. (Source: World of Psychology)
Source: World of Psychology - November 25, 2016 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tracy Shawn, MA Tags: Friends General Self-Esteem Self-Help Communication Constructive Criticism Friendship Hard Truth Judgment Personal Growth Source Type: blogs
Music
Songs of the Sea by Dave BradleyIn case you didn’t know, I’m a science journalist by day, a photographer on my days off, and a musician by night. Always been in love with music, since my first rattle and toy guitar as a tot, been fretting guitar strings in earnest since I was about 12 years old and jamming with friends, but it’s only in the last decade or so that I have performed live and written and recorded my music. Some of my songs are available on Google Play, Youtube, ReverbNation, SoundCloud, Tradiio, Gumroad, Beat100, and other outlets including Spotify, Deezer, Pandora, Amazon mp3, Loudr&...
Source: David Bradley Sciencebase - Songs, Snaps, Science - November 17, 2016 Category: Science Authors: David Bradley Tags: Music album dave bradley guitar Source Type: blogs
How to Reject Rejection: Ice Cream Not Included
“It’s not you; it is me,” she cooes. You grimace, swallowing the bitter words.
From romance to career advancement, rejection is a cold, cruel mistress. It pierces our identity, plunging us into a well of despair. We question our value, lamenting life’s unfairness. Even cruelty. Some internalize its pain while others lash out on an unsuspecting family member or significant other.
The common denominator: You were wronged. And it hurts.
But instead of sulking or scowling, here are strategies to compartmentalize rejection for what it is: a temporary setback.
Honor the feelings. Rejection stings; it deflates our self-wo...
Source: World of Psychology - November 14, 2016 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Matthew Loeb Tags: General Grief and Loss Happiness Inspiration & Hope Motivation and Inspiration Personal Self-Esteem Compassion Confidence Coping Skills Hurt Feelings Personal Growth Rejection Resilience Source Type: blogs
Office Space: When the Nine to Five Feels Longer
Welcome to the grown-up version of the principal’s office.
“Matt, in here now. We need to talk. Immediately,” my supervisor barked.
Sheepishly, I shuffled in. Fearful of my supervisor’s explosive temper, I cowered in his corner office.
“Sit down,” he grunted. I braced for Hurricane Reid. Moodier than your favorite Hollywood starlet, Reid’s face would contort into a blazing fury before unleashing his latest tirade. My only question: Would he drizzle me with spittle this time?
As these deep thoughts penetrated my synapses, Reid’s booming voice echoed throughout the building. Or so it seemed.
Following the la...
Source: World of Psychology - November 7, 2016 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Matthew Loeb Tags: Anger Bullying Industrial and Workplace Inspiration & Hope Motivation and Inspiration Personal Stress Boss Criticism Employment Management Office Morale Resentment Tantrum toxic people work stress workplace bully Source Type: blogs
