3 Steps to Break Your Painful Relationship Patterns

“Until you heal your past, your life patterns and relationships will continue to be the same; it’s just the faces that change.” – Unknown First of all: honey, you are not broken. We are all works in process. There is nothing inherently wrong with you. We all end up in a loop here and there. Sometimes it’s because we haven’t healed pain from the past. And sometimes it’s because we’ve healed our pain but still hold on to past habits. When we do this, past habits will promote the replaying of past events and, therefore, the pain will return. This happens at a psychological and practical level. The type of beliefs we have about reality will shape the way we perceive it, react to it, and interpret it. This is a neurological reality that has been proven scientifically: the brain creates concepts and finds ways to validate them. This is the way prejudice is built, but is also the way you expect sweetness and tartness out of an apple. The moment you read the word “apple,” you already started generating the necessary enzymes to digest one and enjoy its flavor. You already started reacting to something that isn’t even here, based on the concepts (beliefs) the brain (mind) has constructed on it according to previous experiences. This is one of the many ways science has validated that “life is an illusion.” This is great news. It means we can choose, in a way, what kind of illusion to believe in and, consequently, co-create in our lives. Past experie...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Publishers Relationships Tiny Buddha Ashe Emotional Baggage Memory past experiences Relationship Patterns thinking habits Source Type: blogs