How to Ditch Perfectionism

I was sitting in a coffee shop with my friend, watching her scroll through Facebook. “I don’t want to deal with another summer. I can’t handle the bikini selfies.” Summer is still several months away, but I understand the sentiment. On Facebook, everyone seems perfect. Even the photographs themselves are perfectly lit with photo editing software or phone apps that let you clear blemishes or play with exposure. Whether my friend and I are uncomfortable because of seemingly unattainable ‘yoga bodies’ or because destination weddings are a trend, perfection seems not only achievable, but expected. Being a perfectionist can seem like the perfect faux put-down. It’s like the old job interview question where you’re expected to tell the interviewer your personal flaw. Perfectionism is always a go-to answer. I’m just too good, it seems to say in the background of a self inflicted put-down. Yet, for all the stigma a perfectionism problem may have, it truly is a difficult trait to manage. Perfectionism is linked to both depression and anxiety and can hinder people from moving forward in life. The typical perfectionist personality is displayed by someone who likes a sense of order and control. They are driven, critical, and hold high performance standards. Most perfectionists are eager to please others and have type-A personalities which focus on organization, ambition, and management skills. Disappointment can come easily and striving is often the outcome. Differ...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Anxiety and Panic Habits Happiness Mindfulness Motivation and Inspiration Perfectionism Personal Personality Ambition Organization Self Consciousness Worry Source Type: blogs