Love Bombing as a Narcissistic Attachment Style

Getting hit by a love bomb feels glorious! The lavish attention and affection seems to answer our prayers. We’ve found Mr. or Ms. Right — our soul mate; unsuspecting that we’ve been targeted by a narcissist. The bomber abruptly changes colors and loses interest, and our dream comes crashing down. The rejection is excruciating, especially at the height of romance. It’s a traumatic shock to our heart. We feel duped, betrayed, and abandoned. We’re confused and try to make sense of the nightmare that was once a dream. What we thought was real was in fact a mirage. We search for answers, doubt and blame ourselves, often losing trust in ourselves and the opposite sex. Sometimes, partners are ghosted by their disappearing suitor, are dumped by text, email, or a phone call. If they’re rejected in person, they’re bewildered by the coldness of the narcissist, who just recently expressed love and promised an amazing future together. They may discover that they’ve been disposed of for a new prospect, cheated on, or two-timed all along. It’s devastating and can be hard to let go, because all of their memories are happy and wonderful. It takes time to accept the truth of who the bomber really was. Denial protects victims from the painful truth that relationship was not what they imagined. Love Bombing and Narcissistic Supply Research shows that love bombers have low self-esteem and are often narcissists; although not all narcissists are love bombers, and some non-narc...
Source: Psych Central - Category: Psychiatry Authors: Tags: Abuse Codependence Narcissism Relationships & Love Attachment Style controlling behavior Emotional Abuse Emotional Intimacy Idealization and Devaluation love bombing Manipulation Narcissistic Personality Disorder narcissistic suppl Source Type: news