What Is More Important: Will or Skill?

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them-a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.” – Muhammad Ali Recently, I was in conversation with the mother of a 20-something daughter who was finding it challenging to help her fly the nest and take responsibility for her own independence. The young woman has a part time job but doesn’t make enough money to enable her to move out. Rather than seeking additional employment, she spends much of her off time sequestered in her room on her phone, watching videos or talking with friends. Not much of an in-person social life. “The will is stronger than the skills,” her frustrated mom commented. She elaborated that her daughter claims to want to be on her own, but seems lost in the maze as she attempts to find her way. Mom offers her independent living skills, making tried and true suggestions from her own personal and professional experience. Sometimes the ideas land in fertile soil, but more often, bounce off well-constructed shields the young woman has erected.   How do parents teach their children to be proficient so that when they are on their own, they can maneuver through the world successfully? Consider basic abilities you have gleaned over the years: Bathing, dressing, grooming and feeding yourself (called ADLs — Activities of Daily Living in the lingo of the healthcare field)...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Children and Teens College Family Parenting Personal Psychology Success & Achievement entering adulthood Financial Independence Personal Growth Personal Responsibility Self Discipline Young Adult Source Type: blogs