Sound Advice for When You ’ re Feeling Useless

My friend is in the hospital, too sick for any food or flowers I might bring. Too sick for songs or stories. Too sick for silly nostalgia: “Remember our sailing lesson?” sounds random and rude. Right now it all comes down to cells and drugs and doctoring. Unable to provide those, I feel useless. Feeling useless — worse yet, telling you I do — makes me feel even more useless: not just basically useless as in being neither a magician nor a physician but now also a whiny baby making everything all about me. Feeling useless is an under-discussed form of suffering which, I think, drives depression. It measures, like calipers, the distance between whom and what and how and where we are and whom and what and how and where we would be, could be, should be if we were smarter, stronger, richer and otherwise superior. And/or if we were best pals with a deity, if we were omniscient and omnipotent. That span between reality and possibility can poison every circumstance. However healthy and happy we and our loved ones are, surely somewhere more health and happiness exist. Against the hard rock of serious illness and such crises, would-haves-should-haves seem unbearable. As surgeons study charts whose symbols might as well be runes while citing malfunctions in body parts we never even knew existed, every word we say sounds cringey, clanging, clownish. As familiar faces twist in pain or gaze uncomprehendingly at us, we realize that however much we love them, however f...
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ConclusionThe CFQL-2 is a brief, reliable scale that effectively measures psychosocial aspects of QoL and is sensitive to changes in QoL in families of children with ASD or related neurodevelopmental disorders. Child externalizing behavior is strongly associated with reductions in multiple aspects of child and family psychosocial QoL.
Source: Research in Autism Spectrum Disorders - Category: Psychiatry Source Type: research
So in this "fellowship" that i resigned from recently, I asked long time ago whether tail was covered.I was told yes. When I signed paperwork after resigining I was told that I'd be covered for the premium for the tail. When I was like what?! That's not what I was told. I was told that "it would be covered if I finished the fellowship." That seems shady and illegal. Obviously paying thousands of dollars for tail would be reasonable on an attending salary, but now it seems they are pissed I... Tail coverage
Source: Student Doctor Network - Category: Universities & Medical Training Authors: Tags: Pain Medicine Source Type: forums
Publication date: Available online 16 November 2019Source: Journal of Contextual Behavioral ScienceAuthor(s): Alan K. Davis, Frederick S. Barrett, Roland R. GriffithsAbstractPrior research has shown that acute subjective psychedelic effects are associated with both spontaneous and intended changes in depression and anxiety. Psychedelics are also theorized to produce increases in psychological flexibility, which could explain decreases in depression and anxiety following a psychedelic experience. Therefore, the present cross-sectional survey study sought to examine whether psychological flexibility mediated the relationship...
Source: Journal of Contextual Behavioral Science - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: research
Publication date: Available online 17 November 2019Source: Pharmacological ResearchAuthor(s): Victor Fattori, Tiago H. Zaninelli, Fernanda S. Rasquel-Oliveira, Rubia Casagrande, Waldiceu A. VerriAbstractWe now appreciate that the mechanism of resolution depends on an active and time-dependent biosynthetic shift from pro-inflammatory to pro-resolution mediators, the so-called specialized pro-resolving lipid mediators (SPMs). These SPMs are biosynthesized from the omega-3 fatty acids arachidonic acid (AA), eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA), docosapentaenoic acid (DPA), or docosahexaenoic acid (DHA). Despite effective for a fractio...
Source: Pharmacological Research - Category: Drugs & Pharmacology Source Type: research
This study aimed to investigate the mechanism of action of ginger extract and its compound, 6-shogaol, on pancreatic islets as well as on expressions of TRPV-1 and NMDAR2B in the spinal cord of streptozotocin (STZ)-induced mice model of PDN.Materials and methodsSixty-four 5–6 months old male-Balb/C mice were induced with 110 mg/kgBW STZ i.p., while eight mice were used as control group. Mice with blood glucose level ≥200 mg/d, that suffered hyperalgesia and allodynia were classified as PDN mice. Hot plate and von Frey filament tests were performed once a week until termination. At day 28 after considered as PDN,...
Source: Journal of Ethnopharmacology - Category: Drugs & Pharmacology Source Type: research
ConclusionThe authors recommended short implants whenever the height of available bone permits optimum implant placement. The authors concluded that both treatment options are considered viable clinically and radiographically. However, short implants have shown reduced postoperative discomfort, minimal invasiveness, and reduced cost.
Source: Journal of Evidence Based Dental Practice - Category: Dentistry Source Type: research
ConclusionLimited available evidence suggests that patients with RAS may experience a reduction in the number of ulcers, DOU, NOE, and UP when using a SLS-free dentifrice as compared to using a dentifrice containing SLS.
Source: Journal of Evidence Based Dental Practice - Category: Dentistry Source Type: research
This study is an attempt to investigate the effects of intrathecal administration of Melissa officinalis on the pain induced by heat and formalin.In this experimental study, seventy male Wistar rats with an average weight of 270-320 g were randomly divided into 5 groups: control; sham, that received 25 μl of saline through the spinal catheter; and three experimental groups, that received 5, 10 or 20 mg/kg Melissa officinalis via the spinal catheter respectively. Five days after catheterization of the spinal cord from the lumbar region under anesthesia, the effects of Intrathecal administration of Melissa officinalis on ...
Source: Journal of Acupuncture and Meridian Studies - Category: Complementary Medicine Source Type: research
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Conclusions and ImplicationsAlthough group differences were not found when considering parent-reported sleep problems, more frequent sleep problems were positively associated with increased forgetting by children with DS relative to those who were TD. Although future experimental work is needed to determine causality, these results suggest that improved sleep in children with DS might reduce forgetting, ultimately improving long-term recall memory.
Source: Research in Developmental Disabilities - Category: Disability Source Type: research
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