5 Signs You’ve 'Gotten Over' Your Child’s Premature Birth and Forgiven Yourself

For me, it seemed like I was working toward an impossible goal. I knew I had to heal. I knew I had to “get over” my life-threatening pregnancy and my daughter’s premature birth and forgive myself. The truth is that you never really “get over” your baby’s premature birth ― you just learn to move on from it. This was a requirement; not just for me to move past it, but so that my family could move on despite our setbacks. The need to move on and enjoy life does not accurately explain what I really mean. What I really mean is that I needed to give myself permission to enjoy life again. For almost three years, I had been feeling guilty about enjoying anything for myself. I always felt the need to make sure that all of my children (and I have 3 boys in addition to my daughter!) were happy all of the time. While this will always be my goal as a mother, as it is for most, I completely neglected my own personal needs and goals. I always felt the need to go above and beyond with the boys, because I owed it to them for “putting them through” so much stress during my pregnancy and while my daughter was in the NICU (Neonatal Intensive Care Unit). I owed them three years of time ― including my pregnancy through my daughter’s third birthday, which is when I finally started to relax and realize that we all survived. I truly believed that it was all my fault. After all, it was my body that failed and led to my daughter almost dying and...
Source: Healthy Living - The Huffington Post - Category: Consumer Health News Source Type: news