How to Stop Making Problems – Start Making Not-Problems

Archbob / Pixabay I don’t know about you, but I have a little tendency (or maybe a big tendency) to take a situation and then start making problems. For example, let’s say I have a friend comes with the problem and asks for my help. I give them my advice, but I make it into a problem for me. How? I become tied to their outcome. I start worrying about whether they will take my advice are not. Will they go off the deep end? Will their problems get worse? Will they continue to have this problem? And so on. The answer is maybe yes and maybe no. The way to make it a Not-Problem is to realize it doesn’t matter. Each person is on their own path. You can give help, advice, and love, but they must walk their own path. And you must walk yours. Worry over future negative outcomes = “creating problems.” Do you ever do this? Let’s examine the simple solution to make Not-Problems. Example of Making Problems. Let’s say you notice a physical symptom in your body – an ache, a pain, a rash, hair falling out, whatever. Making it a problem would be imagining all the different disastrous outcomes that could result from that one symptom. Most of us can do this at lightning speed. And not only that, but we can imagine several possible disaster storylines stemming from any initial situation, even good ones! For example, “Gee, everything is going my way today. I wonder when the other shoe will drop?” It’s Natural Don’t get down on yourself, though. Negative thinking is actu...
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