True Narcissists Aren ’t Who You Think They Are

You went on a few dates with a guy who talked about himself incessantly and didn’t ask a single question about you. Clearly a narcissist. Your coworker is constantly telling you that your way is wrong. She always seems to have her own agenda, and kisses up to your supervisor, while putting others down. All. The. Time. Clearly a narcissist. Your childhood friend only talks about his own problems, and always needs help with something. Anytime you need help, he suddenly disappears. Clearly a narcissist. A friend of a friend is known as the one-upper, as in she’s constantly in competition mode. Whatever you’ve done, she’s done it better, faster and with more ease. Oh, and she’s always running late and rarely apologizes. Clearly a narcissist. Your college roommate was cocky and rude, and always treated his girlfriends like crap. Clearly a narcissist. These are all examples of irritating and awful qualities and actions. But narcissists they don’t automatically make. For instance, in some cases there could be plausible explanations — like your date was super nervous and tends to babble when he’s nervous, said Rebecca Nichols, LPC, a psychotherapist specializing in relationship issues throughout the life cycle, including dating, marriage and divorce. “Narcissism is having a moment,” she said. “It has become trendy to define perceived self-centered or selfish behavior as narcissism.” One reason is that it’s a quick, easy way to explain bad behavior, ...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Men's Issues Narcissism Personality Relationships Self-Esteem Self-Help Narcissist Narcissistic abuse Narcissistic Personality Disorder Source Type: blogs