6 Tips for De-Escalating an Argument

Arguments are a part of most relationships, friendships, and workplaces. Humans are social creatures, and inevitably we will come across a person’s perspective or a topic area with which we disagree. While we try our best to be respectful, it can be difficult keeping things neutral. If arguing is a normal part of life, how do we do it better? How can we de-escalate an argument, keeping a minor disagreement from turning into a major blowout? The tips below aren’t meant to help you win an argument, but rather to help defuse the argument. Each argument is unique, but many share common traits. Arguing well, and learning to keep arguments from blowing up into something bigger, is a good skill to learn for any relationship — whether it be romantic, with friends, or at work. 1. Take a breath and pause Most people’s normal immediate reaction is to quickly respond to what was just said by the other person. Force yourself to ignore that reaction, and instead slowly count to 3: 1… 2… 3… This allows you time to collect your thoughts and consider alternative ways of responding. For instance, we often want to defend ourselves from a personal attack, and use the opportunity to attack the other person back. Neither strategy is likely to help move the argument toward a mutually-agreeable resolution. Instead, take a moment to think of why those people with whom you disagree with are saying what they are, and what they would like to hear that may a...
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