Replying to comments
Perhaps the best way to get caught up is to just reply to comments. Yes....2 1/2 months and I'm still busy with grief, paperwork, banks, finances, research, cables.....calvinnme wrote:Both of my parents died earlier this year within two weeks of one another. They were past 90, so I can't say it was a complete surprise, yet it was a shock and it was very sudden. Yes, the sluggish rate that the system moves at as far as insurance, settling estates, etc. was quite a shock. My dad died last, and the first issue we hit was his death certificate. Nobody at the hospital wanted to sign off on it. He died alone in his room in ...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - October 2, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Source Type: blogs
Widow's brain
Well, there ' s a new term that I had never heard! But it explains so much of what I ' ve been going through. You can google it. I thought this was a good article (click here)A few days after he passed away, I received a sympathy card from a dear elderly friend who lives about 150 miles away. I couldn ' t figure out how on earth she had heard of his passing. I picked up the phone to call her and thank her for her sweet note. She said that I had called her the day after he passed away. I had absolutely no recollection of making that phone call. I still don ' t remember it. And I proba...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - August 10, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Source Type: blogs
Widow's brain
Well, there's a new term that I had never heard! But it explains so much of what I've been going through. You can google it. I thought this was a good article (click here)A few days after he passed away, I received a sympathy card from a dear elderly friend who lives about 150 miles away. I couldn't figure out how on earth she had heard of his passing. I picked up the phone to call her and thank her for her sweet note. She said that I had called her the day after he passed away. I had absolutely no recollection of making that phone call. I still don't remember it. And I probably neve...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - August 10, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Source Type: blogs
No one ever knows how to grieve.
I think I've grieved every loss in a different way. My dad passed away 26 years ago. That was the first, the hardest, the longest. Mom died 6 years ago. I lost my best friend, my counsel, my support. And I grieved harder than when dad went.Last fall my son died. I honestly thought I would die. But then my other son got so upset that I had to snap out of it and "be here" for him.And now hubby. How do I grieve his passing? There have been many wonderful moments in our life. I posted the bad ones here. I posted the reality of diabetes. I truly want to just forget all...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - July 27, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Source Type: blogs
It's over
He passed away Monday evening.Because he was on hospice care, I kept a log in their manual. I ' ll post what I wrote:7/169:55 am I called hospice. No one had called or come out since Friday night when we registered with them. We had requested pain meds and anti-anxiety meds. And this morning, we need to refill his nitroglycerin tabsHe got up and walked down the hall without oxygen to the kitchen. I fixed him breakfast. We sat at the table and chatted. He went to the bathroom, changed his shirt, brushed his teeth, shaved, took his meds and put his contacts in. I thought, " wow! w...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - July 18, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Source Type: blogs
It's over
He passed away Monday evening.Because he was on hospice care, I kept a log in their manual. I'll post what I wrote:7/169:55 am I called hospice. No one had called or come out since Friday night when we registered with them. We had requested pain meds and anti-anxiety meds. And this morning, we need to refill his nitroglycerin tabsHe got up and walked down the hall without oxygen to the kitchen. I fixed him breakfast. We sat at the table and chatted. He went to the bathroom, changed his shirt, brushed his teeth, shaved, took his meds and put his contacts in. I thought, "wow! we'r...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - July 18, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Source Type: blogs
Why do you wait til someone is dying to visit them?
Isn't that a good question? I think it's to relieve the guilt on the part of the visitor, not anything for the patient. My last post was Wednesday. Thursday, both of his daughter, son, his wife and 3 of 4 kids came to visit. My sister, her hubby, my brother, his wive and 2 kids came. It was a complete total zoo.....and NOT what he needed that day.But I can't deny them. I can't tell them this is not a good time. So I let groups of 4 in at a time. UGH!His son, the PharmD - the guy who has a doctorate in pharmacology, acted like I didn't exist. Seriously! He told his dad that ...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - July 14, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Source Type: blogs
100% blockage of heart
The actual words the doctor used were "100% blockage of natural vessels". What are "natural vessels"? They are the veins in your heart that you are born with. That is what his angiogram showed. The 3 bypass veins have some blockage. They are too fragile to put a stint in. In order to clean out the plaque, they would have to go in with a DRILL and literally drill out the plaque. Instead they are going to use drug therapy to try and increase the blood flow in his heart.Which is at 30%. So during the angiogram they were not able to stint anything.He probably had another heart attack aro...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - July 11, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Source Type: blogs
He had a heart attack this morning.
It was major. I woke up about 5:30 am and he was coughing so hard I thought he was vomiting. I went in to check on him and he said, "I think you are going to have to take me to the hospital." I said to let me get dressed. When I went back he had tried to get up to put his shoes on and he couldn't and said I needed to call 911. Which I did.They took him to the local ER and I was right behind them. They did a heart enzyme test called torponin. I had never heard of it. Normal is .02 and he was at an 8. By 2 pm that had gone up to 81 and it will continue to rise for 24 -26 hours aft...
Source: Wife of a Diabetic - July 10, 2018 Category: Endocrinology Tags: heart attack Source Type: blogs
