5 Ways to Help Your Partner Feel More Secure in the Relationship

If your partner seems needy, there’s a major reason for it. Loving someone with an ambivalent attachment style can be difficult, which is why you’ll need some solid relationship advice for how to handle it. In any relationship, one partner may require more attention and be “needier” than the other partner is. However, this neediness may actually stem from a deep-rooted pain and your partner’s inability to express their needs properly due to your differing attachment styles. What You’re Like in Relationships, Based On Your Attachment Style So what is attachment theory? Attachment theory, which was pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby, suggests your attachment “style” shapes how you relate to people in adulthood. But the roots of attachment, whether secure or insecure — like anxious attachment or ambivalent attachment — stem from your developmental years in childhood and how you were cared (or not cared for) in your family. So if you perceive your partner as needy or overreacting, or you feel like your every action is under the microscope, it may have something to do with the way your partner was taught to respond to being hurt or upset. You may feel your partner is hyper-critical of you or your relationship, but it is likely that their behavior stems from an ambivalent attachment adaptation that developed long before you ever met. While attachment theory is not the only factor in how you develop relationships, it is part of ...
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