5 Red Flags and Blind Spots in Dating a Narcissist

People are drawn to narcissists because they can be charming and charismatic. In fact, one study showed that their likable veneer was only penetrable after seven meetings. I’ve had a number of clients who claimed that the courtship with their narcissistic spouse was wonderful, and that abuse only began following the wedding. However, with greater insight, these clients admitted that there were signs that they’d overlooked. Blind Spots When Dating a Narcissist There are unconscious explanations why you might attracted to a narcissist. Here are some reasons why you might not recognize a narcissist: Sexual attraction. The greater the physical attraction and sexual intensity, the easier it is to ignore red flags. Individuals who can see auras maintain that sexual energy literally obfuscates mental and emotional energy — why lust is blind.   Seduction. Narcissists are skilled manipulators. Some can be quite seductive, and not just sexually. They may be adept listeners and communicators or allure you with, flattery, self-disclosure, and vulnerability — just the opposite of what you might expect from a narcissist. Idealization. Often narcissists are very accomplished, successful, good-looking, powerful, and/or multi-talented. It’s easy to idealize them and want to share in the benefits of their exceptionalism, especially if you feel inferior. People with low self-esteem, such as codependents, are more likely to idealize someone they admire. They may be drawn to ...
Source: Psych Central - Category: Psychiatry Authors: Tags: Abuse Codependence Domestic Violence General Narcissism Relationships & Love Self-Esteem Trauma Dating Lust Narcissistic Abuse Narcissistic Personality Disorder narcissistic supply seduction Sexual Attraction Source Type: news