Adult Child Shouldn't Try to Replace Parent's Deceased Spouse

Dear Carol: After my mom died last year I stepped in to take care of my 83-year-old dad. I know that I spoiled him at first because of his devastation over losing Mom, but now he’s used to my taking over the “wife” role. I pay his bills, take him shopping, cook his meals, clean, and spend nearly every day, all day, with him. When I’m leaving to go back home to my husband, who is retired and has his own health problems, Dad wants to know when I’ll be back. He knows the answer will be tomorrow, but he asks anyway. Dad's healthy and strong, but he needs some assistance, yet he fights my suggestions. How do I get off of this merry-go-round? – CT Read full column on Inforum about how to wean Dad from so much daughter care: Purchase Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories – paperback or ebook An amazing book of stories that will touch your heart and encourage you, especially if you are a caregiver. Carol  Bradley Bursack also has an excellent website devoted to the elderly and their caregivers. - Carol Heilman   *Great Christmas gift! Related articles Was Your Thanksgiving Day a Dress Rehearsal? (Minding Our Elders®) Tax Expert Tips for Family Caregivers (Minding Our Elders®)                Related StoriesAmerican Advisors Group $1500 Do Something Good GrantProtection for Nursing Home Residents: Will New Rules Remain?9 Tips for ...
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