Older Adults May Skip Bathing for Reason's that We've Never Thought Of
Do you have an older friend or relative who isn't bathing as much as your think they should? Does this worry you? If this is the case, you aren't alone. Older adults often don't bathe as frequently as younger people do - particularly in the US.  Read more on  the Egosancares blog to learn about some of the reasons that this may be happening and what, if anything, you can or should do about it: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig William Dayton, Film Composer ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 27, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Fear of Baths and Showers Common for Many Who Live with Dementia: Here's Help
One of the great challenges for dementia caregivers is that of giving baths or showers when the person in their care is fearful of the process. At least a certain amount of cleanliness is important to good health as well as feeling good overall. Hard as this can be there are ways that make it easier to accomplish this task.  Read more on the Egosancares blog about people with dementia and how to approach bathing: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig William Dayton,...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 26, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Life Might Be Returning to Semi-Normal but Caregiving Tech Keeps Coming
Dear Readers: My first column of this nature was written not long after COVID stopped caregiving life as we knew it. Caring for our vulnerable older population quickly became a scramble to figure out technology and products that could help us live within our new limitations. Our situation has improved regarding COVID but the jump-start for products to serve caregivers and older adults has continued. Because of this, I’d planned on an update for mid-summer and, well, midsummer is here, so here you go... Continue reading on Inforum to read about these new products and services for older adults and caregivers and learn ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 25, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Caring for Aging Parents Who Didn ’t Care for You
Photo credit Christian Fregnan Years ago, a journalist (we’ll call her Nancy) requested an interview with me to discuss common caregiving issues for an article she was writing. We bonded during our chat, and Nancy shared some of her own experiences trying to cope with her aging parents’ needs. In addition to notoriously difficult decisions that come with caregiving, like whether Dad should continue driving or if Mom needs more help at home, Nancy was also struggling with years and years of toxic family history. Continue reading on Agingcare for suggestions on how to handle aging parent care when the people you ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 24, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Elderly Parents
Photo credit Abigail Keenan Guilt does serve a purpose in life. If we are mean, then we should feel guilty. If we owe someone an apology, then we should be mature enough to extend one. But guilt is a complicated emotion. As family caregivers, we take on the expectations of our culture, our religion, our family. And then we take on the expectations of our toughest critic: ourselves. Negative thinking can easily become a damaging habit for stressed caregivers. Many of us wind up emotionally overwhelmed... Continue reading on Agingcare for more about caregiving and guilt: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal St...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 23, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

When People Live with Dementia Should You "Play Along" with Their Reality?
It was not unlike any other day, but on this particular afternoon, Dad was adamant. He was waiting for his medical degree from the University of Minnesota and couldn’t understand why it was taking so long to arrive. So, I did what I usually did—waited a few days to see if this episode of delusional thinking would pass. It did not. So, I used my computer to create a facsimile of a medical degree with my father's name on it. I printed it out, scribbled some “signatures” on the bottom, put it in a mailing envelope and brought it to the nursing home the following day. He was delighted. I added it to the...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 21, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Surprising Changes that May Indicate Dementia
Photo credit Brian Josh Riemer When the average person thinks of dementia, generally Alzheimer’s disease comes to mind. At the same time, the person will likely think of memory loss. Both of these conclusions are understandable since Alzheimer’s is the most common form of dementia and memory issues are often, though not always, the first symptom of that disease. Surprising then, to many people, is the fact that there may be earlier indicators of potential Alzheimer’s disease or other types of dementia than frequent memory lapses. If we feel that dementia may be in our future ... Continue reading...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 20, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Did You Know Pull-ups and Diaper Briefs Need Preparing to Maximize Efficiency? They Do!
Preparing a diaper brief or pull-up isn't something that most people think about. You just take it out of the package, smooth it out, and well, put it on the person who will wear it. Of course, this works. But if you want the most out of the product there are a few quick steps that you can take first that could make a very big difference.   Continue reading on Egosancares blog to learn more about diaper style and pull-up prep to make the products more efficient. You can view breif videos if you choose: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver an...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 19, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Placing Spouse In Care Facility Brings Both Guilt and Relief
Photo credit Joe Hepburn Dear Carol: My husband developed Parkinson’s disease years ago, but I was able to care for him at home. Once he began to experience hallucinations and other mental symptoms, he was diagnosed with dementia with Lewy bodies. By then, I knew these challenges, along with his physical decline, were more than I could handle long-term. Our kids had wanted me to place him in a care facility for years and I refused, but last month I did just that. Thankfully, my husband’s content with his care and I am, too. I spend a couple of hours with him each day and then return for supper most evenings. I&...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 18, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

End the Stigma: Childhood Abuse Led to Incontinence and Bullying for this Person
This young adult has been incontinent since the early teen years due to severe abuse while in care. The expected bullying by peers was endured but even some teachers were little better. There are far more people living with incontinence than most of us realize. Egosan has invited them to tell their story to help end the stigma that they endure.  Continue reading on Egosancares blog to learn more about the determined young person and how life can be lived fully even with incontinence: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly o...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 17, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Hospice Care: Help During End Stages of Life
Photo credit Kelly Sikkema “No one needs to die in pain.” That is what the social worker told me as I signed the papers that would put my father on hospice care. That is the mantra of hospice providers. As a family caregiver entering the new and scary realm of end-of-life care, it became my mantra, too. I had no choice but to believe these words since my dad had already suffered so much, especially in the weeks leading up to this decision. Continue reading on Agingcare to learn more about hospice and how it can help us as we help a loved one transition from this life: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share T...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 16, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Caregiver or Care Partner? How Terminology Evolves With Awareness
Decades ago, when I began my caregiving life, I just did what I did. I’m not sure I was referred to as anything other than the daughter, the niece, or the mom, and I was too busy to care. However, as my elders became more dependent I began to hear myself, at least in medical settings, referred to as “the caretaker.” Somehow, that word made me grind my teeth. My loved ones were not a patch of land. They were not a house. They were not an object. Yet the term “caretaker” brought such images to mind.As the years went by, however, I slowly began to notice a change... Continue reading on Healt...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 15, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

3 Triggers for Alcohol Abuse in Elderly
Photo credit Drew Beamer Alcohol abuse can occur at any age, but in the past most doctors looked for the signs in younger people.  There's also a bias in society at large, including some doctors, that people who abuse alcohol will be of a certain type. It can be hard for a doctor to look at a sweet, grandmotherly woman and think that perhaps the "occasional" glass of wine she admits to drinking may actually be a good portion of a bottle on nightly basis. But things are changing. Now, the NIH Senior Health site is promoting awareness of alcohol abuse among the senior population. Continue reading on Hea...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 14, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

9-Year Study Concludes Preventing or Managing Diabetes Prevents Cognitive Decline
As far back as 2006, the New York Times was reporting on the deepening link between diabetes and Alzheimer's disease. Now, new results from a study led by researchers from the University of California San Francisco show that there is a link between the risk of cognitive decline and the severity of diabetes. An article on the UCSF website reports on a 9-year long study by researchers Continue reading on HealthCentral to learn more about how long diabetes and dementia have been connected and how strong the connection is: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life prese...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 13, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Could Loneliness Be a Symptom of Preclinical Dementia?
Loneliness as a dementia risk, particularly Alzheimer’s disease (AD), has long been considered solid science. It’s hard to quantify loneliness, as it’s not as simple as whether a person has opportunities to interact with others. Yet, the difficulty of defining loneliness has not kept researchers from studying its impact on health. For example, the National Institutes of Health (NIH) reports study results showing that "After adjustment for other risk factors, older persons with feelings of loneliness were more likely to develop dementia” than people without such feelings. For this reason, a...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 12, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Person-Centered Care Means Respecting Personality Traits and Mental Health
Photo credit James Williams Dear Carol:  My grandma’s in a nursing home and now that we’re vaccinated, we get to see each other. When she was home, she was always content with making art, listening to music, and seeing friends and family. Now, she has fewer choices, of course. At first, the nursing home staff encouraged her to go to the dining room for meals, but that stresses her, so they eventually let her do what she wanted which was to eat in her room. They told me they are respecting her choice which I know is true. When she’s alone, she can still enjoy music and TV, and she has family and frien...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 11, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Caregiver or Care Partner? What Evolving Terminology Means
Decades when I began my caregiving life, I just did what I did. I’m not sure I was referred to as anything other than the daughter, the niece, or the mom, and I was too busy to care. However, as my elders became more dependent I began to hear myself, at least in medical settings, referred to as “the caretaker.” Somehow, that word made me grind my teeth. My loved ones were not a patch of land. They were not a house. They were not an object. Continue reading on HealthCentral for my feelings about the terms caregiver vs. care partner - and they continue to keep evolving: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers S...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 10, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Considering a Nursing Home for a Loved One? What to Know
The people we love and care for often reach a point where we can no longer be sole care providers and we need to look at options. This is painful because up to this point we’ve likely been partners in their care but haven’t had to make forceful decisions. Now, things have changed. Because so many people have a negative view of nursing homes... View the full slideshow on HealthCentral for tips about what to consider before placing someone in a nursing home: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I do...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 9, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Home Care and In-Home Care: What's Covered, What's Not?
Home care can be helpful in supporting individuals of all ages to safely live at home for as long as possible and/or to recover from an unexpected health crisis. Additionally, home care can be a welcome source of support when family members can no longer provide care alone. These care providers are available for anything from simple household chores and companionship to complex care. But what exactly is meant by the terms  View the slideshow in HealthCentral to learn more about home care and what might be covered - or not - by insurance: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I h...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 8, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

“I Promised My Parents I'd Never Put Them in a Nursing Home”
Photo credit Caleb George Back when our loved ones were younger and healthier, many of us promised in good faith that we would never put them in a nursing home. Doing so would be unthinkable—like abandoning them in their time of need. So, we naively pledge to care for them ourselves until the very end. We assure them that they’ll be able to live out their remaining years at home with family tending to their needs. This is admirable yet unrealistic thinking. Recent research shows that the average duration of caregiving... Continue reading on Agingcare to learn more about his common (and heartbreaking) dilem...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 7, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Caregiving With Siblings: Resolving Issues While Caring for Parents
Photo credit Uriel Soberanes Issues between brothers and sisters often seem to come to a head when a parent begins requiring care. While siblings who have always had a healthy relationship generally find ways to work through their disagreements, many who never truly got along can find themselves frustrated, hurt and even completely estranged from one another in the end. In either scenario, objective, professional advice can be helpful for those families who are experiencing conflict at a time when everyone should be cooperating. Continue reading on Agingcare to learn more about coping with sibling conflict while ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 6, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Ongoing Stigma Associated with Incontinence Can Contribute to Isolation
When people carry shame because of their incontinence challenges they tend to avoid the company of others. Often, that's because they dread the idea that someone can "guess their secret." The key to helping them is to help everyone understand that incontinence is like any other physical challenge that may change our lifestyle - not something that people choose but certainly not something to be ashamed of. Once incontinence is accepted as something that can happen to anyone, people like the couple in this Egosan story can stop isolating and live their lives.  Continue reading about the isolation that can be c...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 5, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Adult Children Should be Alert for Potential Decline in Parents ’ Money Management Abilities
Photo credit Josh Appel Dear Readers: Whether regarding scams, elder abuse, or dementia, older adults’ money management has been a hot media topic lately. Since I hear from readers about this, as well, I thought it may be helpful to provide some resources for adult children to consider. Read on: While many people well into their 80s and beyond are capable of handling their own money, most make plans for a time when that could change. Financial management skills are likely to decline, though with significant variances between people. These factors alone don’t signal dementia... Continue reading on Inforum f...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 4, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Keeping Your Head Above Water As a Caregiver Takes Some Planning
Caregiving can come upon us gradually - what I call the "sneak up effect." You do a little here. A little there. It's all fine because you want to help your older adults stay safe and healthy and, if possible, happy. What can happen, though, is that you get so busy doing, doing, doing that you don't stop to think about the toll it's taking on you. This is where burnout starts. If you start early, it's easier but even if you haven't some things can change that may help protect you from complete burnout. Read more on Egosancares blog about how caregivers can keep from going under: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Sha...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 3, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Managing Incontinence with Dementia a Challenge
While incontinence isn't something people take lightly, for most, once an adjustment is made and people have learned how to manage the situation, life goes on pretty much as usual. Enter dementia, though, and that changes. People who live with dementia gradually lose their ability to make judgments. They also have little short-term memory so their ability to change incontinence wear, or even understanding the purpose of incontinence products, disappears. That leaves caregivers with the challenge of trying to keep both the person and the household free of urine and in later cases, feces. Often, because the person with demen...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 2, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Is Dementia Making Bath or Shower Time a Battle? What Can You Do To Make It Better?
Note: Corrected and reposted from Tuesday because of a missing link: Caregivers often say that getting their spouse or parent who lives with dementia to bathe or shower is the biggest battle all day. Yet, once we understand the reasons behind their resistance - and also become a bit more flexible, perhaps - this particular challenge can become less frustrating.  Read more on Egosancares blog for some tips on how to make bathing and showering a little easier for someone who lives with dementia? Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading i...
Source: Minding Our Elders - July 1, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Could Loneliness Be a Symptom of Preclinical Dementia?
Loneliness as a dementia risk, particularly Alzheimer’s disease (AD), has long been considered solid science. It’s hard to quantify loneliness, as it’s not as simple as whether a person has opportunities to interact with others. Yet, the difficulty of defining loneliness has not kept researchers from studying its impact on health. For example... Continue reading the article on HealthCentral to learn more about how feeling lonely could be a sign of early dementia: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpos...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 30, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Is Dementia Making Bath or Shower Time a Battle? What Can You Do To Make It Better?
Caregivers often say that getting their spouse or parent who lives with dementia to bathe or shower is the biggest battle all day. Yet, once we understand the reasons behind their resistance - and also become a bit more flexible, perhaps - this particular challenge can become less frustrating.  Read more on Egosancares blog for some tips on how to make bathing and showering a little easier for someone who lives with dementia? Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig Wi...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 29, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Why Older Adults May Shower or Bathe Less Than You Think Necessary
In the US, at least, the average person is used to bathing or showering nearly every day. It's so reflexive that many of us don't even think about why or if it's necessary. We just do. Older people may become less rigid about this regular hygiene for any number of reasons, some related to aging bodies and others related to lifestyle. It might help you (and them) if you learn why this is so and if it's a problem - or not. Read more on Egosancares blog to gets some insight into this common situation: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading i...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 28, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Dad with Dementia Knew His Wife Died but Now Can ’t Remember
Photo credit Tim Doerfler Dear Carol: Mom died two years ago, and while my dad had already been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, he seemed to accept her death because she had been in terrible pain from cancer. Recently, though, he’s started asking for her as if she’s still alive and it’s heartbreaking. When I remind him that she died, he grieves as if it’s new information. Later, he’ll ask for her again as though we never discussed it. It’s breaking my heart to see him keep repeating this new-to-him grief. I know that you’ve said before that people should not contradict someone wi...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 27, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Caregiving Can Take a Toll on Your Marriage
...My husband and I have been married 25 years and have raised two children. Just as we were thinking that we’d be able to travel because the kids are old enough to be on their own, my in-laws started having one health problem after another. I know that this isn’t my husband’s fault, and I also understand that if it were my parents I’d be scrambling with trying to help them out. However, I do think that my husband should pressure his siblings to do more. Yes, his siblings live out of town and we live in the same community, but his siblings aren’t that far away. His parents are still in their h...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 26, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

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Emergency-room doctor Kevin Haselhorst had an epiphany while he tried valiantly to save an elderly man who’d been through one-too-many traumas. His book, “Wishes To Die For: A Caregiver’s Guide to Advance Care Directives,” was the first step toward a new advocacy. Dr. Haselhorst continues to work toward helping people understand the importance of healthcare directives and the ability to make their own decisions about end-of-life care. Curious about more of Dr. Haselhorst’s views, the Candid Caregiver contacted him through email for the following interview. The Candid Caregiver: ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 25, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Becoming a Caregiver Can Be Challenging: Here's Help
When someone else's welfare depends on us the feeling of responsibility can be slightly (or extremely) overwhelming. Additionally, it's easy for us to lose our own sense of self and even our health.  Read more on Egosancares blog about how to start off as a caregiver keeping all aspects in mind so that you can survive what can be a challenging journey more or less intact: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig William Dayton, Film Composer Egosan wants to help you li...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 24, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Free Live Training for Families Who Have an Aging Parent with Memory Loss Presented by Dr. Leslie Kernisan
A rare opportunity for you this Thursday evening. Geriatrician Leslie Kernisan, MD is presenting a free webinar. In Dr. K's words: "Have you been worried about the safety or wellbeing of your parent with memory loss? Or felt frustrated, because they're refusing to consider the changes that seem necessary? Such as stopping driving? To help concerned families, I'm offering a FREE live online workshop, in which I'll explain what to do and what to say, to ease your parent into needed changes and help them be safer. To learn more and save your seat, click here: https://betterhealthwhileaging.mykajabi.com/free-memory... ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 22, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

How To Stay Positive While Caregiving
...My dad is in the middle stages of Alzheimer’s disease. Meanwhile, my mom is recovering from cancer surgery, and the prognosis isn’t good. I’m trying my best to be a good caregiver for both of them and stay positive while doing it, but it’s hard. I recognize that we’re fortunate in that my parents are able to hire an agency that supplies a rotation of in-home caregivers. The other side of it is that I have a brother and a sister, both living hundreds of miles away from our parents and me, so they can’t help out much. They try to be sympathetic and appreciative of what I’m doing, ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 22, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Free Live Training for Families Who Have an Aging Parent with Memory Loss with Dr. Leslie Kernisan
A rare opportunity for you this Thursday evening. Geriatrician Leslie Kernisan, MD is presenting a free webinar. In Dr. K's words: "Have you been worried about the safety or wellbeing of your parent with memory loss? Or felt frustrated, because they're refusing to consider the changes that seem necessary? Such as stopping driving? To help concerned families, I'm offering a FREE live online workshop, in which I'll explain what to do and what to say, to ease your parent into needed changes and help them be safer. To learn more and save your seat, click here: https://betterhealthwhileaging.mykajabi.com/free-memory... ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 22, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Constipation In Older Adults Is About More Than Discomfort
Constipation plagues many older adults (and some younger ones, well). It's something that nearly anyone has had problems with from time to time. Yet chronic constipation can lead to some serious health problems such as an impacted bowel and, believe it or not,  future issues with fecal incontinence. Read more about causes of fecal incontinence on Egosancares blog:  Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig William Dayton, Film Composer Egosan wants to help you live...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 21, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Is Dad ’s Slipping Memory Due to Dementia or Stress?
Photo credit Lotte Meijer Dear Carol: My dad’s 79 and I’ve been worried about his memory. Mom’s got Alzheimer’s and he’s been her only caregiver for six years so that pushes him to the limit. I know that’s part of his problem, but I’m worried about him getting dementia.  I kept after him until he finally said that he’d talk to his doctor about his memory. Well, he did that, and the doctor did an office test but said that he’s fine, just stressed. I’ve read where in-office tests aren’t all that good, so what do I do now?  Dad’ healthy but I ha...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 20, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Father ’s Day As a Caregiver: Remembering Dad Before Dementia
My dad developed instant dementia due to a failed brain surgery. The irony, of course, was that this surgery was supposed to correct the results of a World War II brain injury and prevent the possibility of dementia. This abrupt change was devastating to my family and very difficult for us to accept. One day he was my dad. He was growing older and frailer, of course, but he was still Dad. After he came out of surgery, he was a man plagued by paranoia and hallucinations; a man who had no way of differentiating between our reality and the warped version his brain created. A new aspect of his personality had surfaced... Conti...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 19, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

A Parent with Both Dementia and the Inevitable Incontinence Can Be Hard On the Relationship
Inviting an aging parent who is living with dementia to live with you is a generous gesture. Making the effort to understand how to communicated and help someone living with dementia takes dedication. Add incontinence that this person has no understanding of and your caregiving efforts just become more complex.  Read more on Egosancares blog about this adult daughter and her effort to protect her home from too much damage which she lovingly (but with a certain amount of frustration) takes care of him: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am r...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 18, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

When the Caregiver Has a Chronic Condition
Discussions with Elders about Housing: Tips to Make Them BetterAnxiety During Social Outings May Have Worsened for People with Dementia  (Source: Minding Our Elders)
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 17, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Different Stages of Alzheimer's and the Caregiver's Role
Discussions with Elders about Housing: Tips to Make Them Better  (Source: Minding Our Elders)
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 16, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Alzheimer's Is Only One Type of Dementia
Discussions with Elders about Housing: Tips to Make Them BetterDaughter Wants to Help Mom Give Dad Wonderful Last Father’s Day  (Source: Minding Our Elders)
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 15, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Discussions with Elders about Housing: Tips to Make Them Better
As you watch your parents or other beloved elders age, sometimes worry becomes inevitable. Should they have housing upgrades? Can they continue to live independently? Your intention isn’t to take over their lives, but you may genuinely want to start the conversation about possible future changes. How do you do this without causing a backlash? If you and your parents have frequent, casual conversations about options as they age, you’ll have an easier time with the transition than if you leave the topic until there’s a crisis. When you begin the talks, Continue to HealthCentral to view the complete slide sh...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 14, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Daughter Wants to Help Mom Give Dad Wonderful Last Father ’s Day
Photo credit Seth Hays Dear Carol: Father’s Day is coming up and my mom wants to make Dad’s day special because it’s probably his last one. My brother and I want this too, but how to make it work is where we disagree with Mom. Dad’s been in a nursing home because of several health problems, but terminal cancer is what will take him soon. The problem is that Mom’s physically frail herself and worse, her decision-making is shaky, so we feel that she’s being unrealistic. Dad’s in pain and he tires easily. He needs a wheelchair, and Mom’s apartment has steps. He’s also...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 13, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Managing Life with Someone Living with Dementia and Incontinence Can Be Challenging: Some Tips
Helping someone we love live their best life while they experience dementia symptoms is challenging at best. Learning the tools for managing life with the diseases is crucial for all concerned. The Alzheimer's Association has excellent information for you on their site.  When incontinence is also part of the picture (as it often is in advanced stages), there are steps that you can take that can make life a little easier there, tool  For some tips on this difficult topic continue reading on Egosancares blog: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserv...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 12, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Preventing Caregiver Burnout Can Be Challenging But It's Easier Than the Alternative
Preventing caregiver burnout means an ongoing interest in self-care that will help protect your own health which also benefits your loved ones. Is doing so hard. Very. Does it seem impossible? Often. Yet sometimes even a tiny tweak in how we do things can help us maintain a sense of self and some sanity. While this isn't enough, it's at least something.  Read more on Egosancares blog for suggestions that might help you take better care of yourself: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.&...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 11, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Has Your Older Adult Experienced Sudden Personality Changes? Possible Causes
When someone we care about suddenly acts like a different person we're rightfully alarmed. Medications are frequently the cause and this can happen with anyone at any age. Since older adults generally have more fragile systems, these reactions may occur in that age group more often. Additionally, a urinary tract infection (UTI) might cause a similar reaction in an older adult. While any time you see this, it's essential to contact a medical professional, if you're mostly looking for information, you can read more on the Egsancares blog: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your bo...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 10, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Communicating with Your Older Parents Can Be Smoother With the Right Approach
As adult children, we often worry about our older parents. Our deepest wish seems to be for them to stay "safe." But what does "safe" mean to them and to you? Do you agree on the importance of safety? What about their choices and preferences? Read more on Egosancares blog to learn a few tips that might make your communication go more smoothly: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig William Dayton, Film Composer Egosan wants to help you live your life f...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 9, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Older Adults Can Experience Cognitive Issues from Some Medications
Photo credit Freestock.org Most older adults take at least a few medications, many of which can extend or enhance their quality of life. For that reason, we don't want to negate the good that some of these can do when we talk about risks. But, there are risks. One of these is that the effects of the medication can cause issues with an older adult's brain.  Read on for more information of some of the medications to watch for: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig Wil...
Source: Minding Our Elders - June 8, 2021 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs