Time-Consuming Administrative Work Is an Essential Part of Caregiving
Photo credit Ayo Ogunsiende Dear Carol: I visit my dad in assisted living and my mom in memory care several times a week. They're reasonably happy given their health challenges and are active and well cared for. I manage their health care including their prescriptions and I accompany them to their medical appointments. Additionally, I take care of their finances including insurance and taxes. Yet when Mom asks why I don’t stay with her longer when I visit, or my brother wonders why I don’t spend hours every day with each of our parents, I feel guilty. It’s hard to explain to others how time-consuming and emotionally ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 23, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Helping Older Adults Who Won ’t Accept In-Home Caregivers
Photo credit Berhard Grossgasteiger Hiring in-home care for my elderly neighbor, Joe, was quite an ordeal. The company we chose and their professional caregivers were great, but the quality of care they provided wasn’t the issue. The problem was that Joe resented anyone but me helping him. He locked one in-home care aide out of his home, let another inside but was rude to her, and thoroughly enjoyed one young man but only because they could discuss golf together. I’m not the first family caregiver to struggle with getting a senior to accept home care. Families hire these services to provide valuable respite...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 22, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Sometimes a Sibling Can Feel Shut Out of Caregiving
Photo credit Christian Fregnan There are countless reasons why some family caregivers wind up being solely responsible for their aging parents’ care. It’s important to understand that every family’s dynamics and history are unique, and each family member has their own reasons and motivations for choosing to participate in or walk away from caregiving. I’ve spoken with many siblings who have felt barred from receiving updates and partaking in decision-making. These are a few of the most common reasons these family members have been excluded from caregiving.  Family caregivers take their role very serious...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 21, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Need Help Making Sense of Medicare? This Free Service Can Help.
Sponsored  Selecting the right health insurance plan is essential for retirees as well as caregivers who are helping their loved ones.  However, Medicare, the default government program that provides health insurance for Americans over 65 is notoriously complex to navigate. Aside from the alphabet soup of coverage options, you’re faced with having to understand, what makes Medicare confusing is that, unlike typical healthcare coverage, Medicare is not one single plan but is divided into a variety of public and private options.  You have to select the right combination to get the best coverage for your ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 20, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Minimizing Grief for a Surviving Spouse with Dementia
Photo credit Cristian Newman My struggle with this dilemma began when my father started receiving hospice care. At this point in my caregiving journey, both my parents had dementia and shared a room in a nursing home. For many years, they had lived in their own private rooms on the same floor, but the end was near for both of them. We felt they needed to be together during this time, and their money was nearly gone from the expense of two nursing home rooms. At first, I did not want Mom to know that Dad was going on hospice care since I knew she’d immediately think “death.” This correlation is what most people focus ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 19, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Siblings Who Care More About Their Inheritance Than Mom and Dad ’s Care
Photo credit Matheus Ferrero Ah, siblings. Some are a joy—our very first and forever friends in life. Others are more of a nuisance, a source of drama that comes and goes over the years. But when a parent falls ill or needs additional help as they age, these family relationships are truly put to the test. Some adult children work seamlessly together to find the best care solutions for their aging parents. However, some siblings don’t contribute at all, leaving the heavy lifting, sacrifices, and difficult choices up to one adult child, often a daughter. Still, others are involved sporadically, only deigning to give thei...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 18, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

How Do I Get Dad Out of His Cluttered, Unsafe Home?
Photo credit Shim d'Silva People want to stay in their own homes. You hear it and read about it all the time. And there's some merit to that. Most of us can relate to the fact that relocating is emotionally charged. Add the fact that our parents get sick and tired of suffering the indignities of aging and often feel bossed around by everyone from the government to their kids, and you can understand why they often get stubborn. Where they live may be, in their minds, their "last stand."  Many elders do well in their homes. They graciously accept the help they need, have cleaning people come in, and are even able...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 17, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

The Challenge of Smoothing Transition to Facility Care for 95-Year-Old Grandma
Photo credit Nickolas Nikolic Dear Carol: My mother, 74, has been caring for my 95-year-old grandmother, but Grandma’s developed health problems that​ we can’t manage so we’re moving her to a nursing home. The place has a good reputation and one of Grandma’s friends is there and likes it. Even so, we’re guaranteed to hear nothing but complaints since at the best of times that’s how Grandma is. How do we approach what will be an increased onslaught of complaining?  – EL Continue reading on Inforum for more about coping with a complaining elder who is moving to a care facility: Minding Our Elders:...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 16, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Egosan Products provide Superior Protection and Preserve Skin Health: Why? Technology!
Caring for someone with dementia and incontinence is beyond challenging which is why the very best adult diaper briefs are essential. You'll find options on store shelves and you'll probably try the widely advertised brands, too. But are they performing? Egosan hears from people working in assisted living facilities as well as private caregivers and family caregivers and the overwhelming response is once they've tried Egosan they are sold. Breathable exterior, aloe-infused linings, superior absorption, and urine storage due to high-tech design mean fewer wet bedsheets and clothes.  Read about how this technology has ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 15, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Communicating with a Person Who Can No Longer Speak
Photo credit Simon Godfrey ...Instinctually, the husband decided he would do what he’d always done: he climbed into her bed with her and held her. He cuddled with her, stroked her face, and told her he loved her. He spent hours just snuggling and holding her. Slowly, his wife responded. This angry, difficult woman became easier for the staff to handle. She was friendly, cooperative, and generally happy—much like she had been before the dementia-related behaviors and mood swings set in. She was still unable to communicate effectively with her husband and the nursing home employees, but she finally seemed to find s...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 14, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Nighttime Incontinence Challenge Defeated by Egosan's Breakthrough Technology
Egosan has always recognized that nighttime incontinence is one of the biggest challenges for both caregivers and for those who themselves live with incontinence. Their new X-dry is so technologically advanced that it's hyper absorbent offering 8-hours of protection.  Continue reading on Egosancares blog for more information about how this new product is constructed: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your book as a life preserver and am reading it slowly on purpose...I don't want it to end.” ...Craig William Dayton, Film Composer For overnight or long-term protection ...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 13, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Pregnancy and Childbirth Can Substantially Increase Your Risk of Developing Incontinence
Incontinence often begins with a few leaks when we laugh, cough, sneeze, or even exercise. For many women, that is where it stops. For some, whether right after the birth of a child or later on after menopause, these "leaks" happen when we find we can't always make it to the bathroom on time. For some, though, those unfortunate "leaks" turn into experiencing their bladder spontaneously emptying. Embarrassing? Oh, yeah. Messy? Most definitely. Your next thought is, How do I handle this?"  Read more on Egosancares blog to learn about the different types of incontinence that might affect you after childbirth or beyond.&...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 4, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Failing New Year's Resolutions 101
Discussions with Elders about Housing  (Source: Minding Our Elders)
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 3, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Caregiver and Elder-Friendly Products, Services, and Technology
Photo credit Timothy Muza Dear Readers: While I occasionally mention outstanding products or services in my regular Q&A columns, the recent changes to caregiving due to COVID triggered a more serious look at some of the tech and services I’ve noted through my work. So, here’s the next installment of new and/or not yet mentioned ideas for you to consider. Unless I say otherwise, these mentions are not meant as an endorsement. Adaptive clothing and aids: General clothing... Continue reading on Inforum for more technology and services that have come my way: Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 2, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs

Eight Tips to Help Caregivers Improve Their New Year
No caregiver can be expected to anticipate every need or provide a perfect solution when there is none. No caregiver should put aside long-term needs like rest, relaxation, healthy food, and socialization for the sake of another. The unwarranted guilt that can lead caregivers to abuse themselves is not good for anyone, including the care receiver... View the complete slideshow on HealthCentral for tips on how to improve your New Year. Yes, I know that this is a dream but these are things to think about. Maybe life can look a little better. :-) Minding Our Elders: Caregivers Share Their Personal Stories. “I hold onto your...
Source: Minding Our Elders - January 1, 2022 Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs