3 Ways Your Personal Baggage Can Actually Help Your Relationship

Cheers to the damaged people. How many times has someone cited baggage as a reason for breaking up with you? How many times have you been let down because you were too complicated, too messed up, or just too plain difficult to love? Whatever Follows Your “I AM” Is What You Attract Into Your Life Ouch. My guess is many, many times — perhaps not with this exact wording, but people with baggage are used to having potential partners run for the hills when they’ve deemed them too complex, emotionally trying, or difficult. Most people have a low pain tolerance for other people’s baggage. But baggage is actually not something to be self-conscious about or to obsess over. It isn’t stuff that makes you unlovable. It makes you a human being. Any person who isn’t willing to fight the good fight with you isn’t worth your time. You’ve seen more of life and been through a multitude of experiences that have strengthened you. We are a culmination of deeply human experiences that we’ve chosen to label as baggage. It’s trite and absurd. Instead of being embarrassed about your “baggage,” use it to fuel your power and shape your character. You have the unique ability to radically accept the person you are in a relationship with because you know what it means to go through the most difficult of challenges. As Andrea Miller writes in the author’s note of her new book, Radical Acceptance, “Together, we can spark a Radical Acceptance movement, leading to mu...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Publishers Relationships Self-Help YourTango Andrea Miller baggage Breaking Up Challenges compassionate damaged people Emotional Resilience Empathetic Empathy Experiences Gigi Engle Happy Couples history Human Experiences Source Type: blogs