5 Convincing Ways Controlling Partners Deceive You

Scary. Many readers have let me know that my pieces about the signs of controlling behavior and the steps to take in leaving a controlling partner have resonated with them. Unfortunately, emotionally abusive relationships are far too common, and I have also received many messages from people who have seen themselves — or more often, their partners — in these posts. EVERY Single One Of These 10 Things Is Emotional Abuse — Yes, Really In addition to being difficult to break away from, controlling behavior can sometimes be difficult to spot, especially early in a relationship. Although friends and family might express concern, you may initially mistake the warning signs of controlling behavior as more positive — or even flattering — characteristics of the person you’re with. You may see them as encouraging signs of where your relationship is headed. Controlling people often know how to fly under the radar and how to make themselves look good. They can be skilled in manipulating the people they are dating into thinking that their friends and family must be wrong or jealous or overprotective. Controlling people may try to leave trails of “evidence” that they are good partners, and fool you into thinking that they only have your best interests at heart. And they can be adept at making you doubt and second-guess your instincts when your alarm bells do finally go off. Following are some of the types of things that many of us look for — a...
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