Why She Left

A couple of years ago I wrote a post explaining why someone like Nigella Lawson, smart, beautiful and successful, might stay with a man who is abusive.Today, based on that list, I will share some of the reasons why someone might opt to end a relationship with an abuser:She's concerned about the impact living in such a poisonous environment is having on her children.She's seen her children fall victim to some of the tactics used on her.She knows now what this is- she's had support from people and professionals who've helped her to identify the mind games and manipulation. She has the support of those who have known and cared for her all her life.She knows that she deserves a better life.She's almost 40 and the thought of waking up at 45 still living like this turns her stomach.She's still afraid, but has clarity of thought, is still guilty about her children but is free from obligation to a grown adult. She's liberated from focussing on his concerns, needs, complaints, wants. She's giving nothing more.She has had enough of the incidents, explosions, hurts and humiliations.She started to keep track of what was happening.The emotional bond she once had to him has broken. That last link finally snapped.She welcomes change, knows things will be hard but will improve with time.She would rather be alone than with the wrong person.She's immune to the apologies, promises that he loves her, that he'll change and do whatever it takes to make things OK. The fals...
Source: The Voyage - Category: Child Development Tags: abuse DV family Source Type: blogs