Mom Lives with Daughter but It ’s No Longer Working Out

Photo credit Melanie Wasser Dear Carol: My mother developed vascular dementia, personality issues, and speech problems after a stroke three years ago. She lives with me, and because of her difficult personality, my daughter no longer wants to bring my grandchildren here to visit. I retired early to care for Mom, but now I feel trapped. Nothing I do for her is right. I’ve suggested that she might have a better life if she moved to assisted living and, surprisingly, she isn’t resistant — though I know she’ll complain about them, too, if she moves. My sisters live out of the area, so they are limited to what they can do. We have a highly-rated assisted living facility in town, but thinking about moving Mom to any kind of care makes me feel like a selfish failure. I know that I’m depressed and burned out but I don’t know how to fix it. — CL. Continue reading on Inforum to learn more about the need to end a live-in situation with a parent Support a caregiver or jump-start discussion in support groups with real stories - for bulk orders of Minding Our Elders e-mail Carol                  Related StoriesTransitioning from Home Care to Memory Care Takes Thoughtfulness and OrganizationAcceptance Of Couple's Reality May Need to Precede the Ability To Feel Gratitude Don't Let Dad's Post-Stroke Stubborness Put You Off 
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