Three Tips for Lasting Love

Relationships can be complicated. Yet they can be simplified and enjoyed through avoiding common mistakes. By applying the suggestions below, we can create the kind of marriage or that most of us really want — an emotionally and spiritually fulfilling one that lasts a lifetime. Whether you’re married or single, you can foster good relationships with others by putting into practice these three tips: Tip 1: Don’t Complain. Ask Nicely for What You Want, Instead. When you feel like complaining to your partner about something the latter is or isn’t doing, first say nothing. Become aware of exactly what’s bothering you. You may find it helpful to take a few breaths. Maybe close your eyes briefly or relax in any way that suits you. Before speaking, turn your complaint into a wish for specifically what you’d like your mate to do. Instead of complaining or sulking, ask kindly for just what you’d like to occur in the future. For example, don’t say, “You never bring me flowers.” Do say, “I’d love it if you’d surprise me with flowers sometimes. Why do this? Your partner probably wants to please you. But he or she can’t read your mind. You need to say just what will make you happy. Criticism can create distance and defensiveness. Positive, direct expression of our thoughts, feeling and needs fosters a close relationship. Tip 2: Keep Your Agreements We build trust by keeping agreements. Trust often breaks down bec...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Marriage and Divorce Relationships Dating Love Source Type: blogs