ADHD: On Time, but Half an Hour Late
Sometimes you can do everything right and still get it all wrong.It seems the only thing I can count on reliably is myADHD tendency to embarrass myself. It’s even more reliable than death and taxes. I make plans. I execute them. Then they execute me.My regular hairstylist is out on maternity leave, so I’ve been seeing a colleague of hers. She does a good job, and I am intensely thankful to get a professional cut on my schedule at the same location. She’s a nice girl and very courteous, too, which makes me want to return the favor by being on time.You can probably guess where this is going.Between ADHD, To...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - December 7, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Life Usually Has Other Plans
For the past week, I’ve been stressing out over an upcoming event:my return to the dating pool. I can’t say that my swim went well. First, I paced back and forth on the pool deck, eyeing the water suspiciously. Then I stuck a toe in, but quickly retreated to a safe distance. Wet! It was much too wet. Then I shook myself off, scheduled my swim, awaited my moment, and dressed for the occasion. I even took a selfie to send to my daughters before I took the plunge.In the photo, I ’m so nervous in my bathing suit, I don’t recognize the man looking back at me. There’s something wrong with his face. ...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - November 10, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Family Goodreads Writing Source Type: blogs

The Best-Laid Schemes
This month, no, my life isn ’t going as planned. It brings to mind a certain poem:❝But, Mousie, thou art no thy-lane,In proving foresight may be vain;The best-laid schemes o ’ mice an’ menGang aft agley,An ’ lea’e us nought but grief an’ pain,For promis ’d joy!~“To a Mouse, on Turning Her Up in Her Nest With the Plough”, Robert Bruns, November 1785I know. It ’s not the most upbeat outlook, and Steinbeck repurposed it better, but life certainly does have a way of uprooting our carefully built nests. In response, I could get frustrated, or I could get creative. I ...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - November 10, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Writing Source Type: blogs

Worry Is a Waste of Imagination
(Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey)
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - October 28, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Goodreads Visualizing Writing Source Type: blogs

What Do I Get out of Blogging about Mental Health?
I was recently contacted by a college student who requested an email interview. I share the answers below because the interviewer asked excellent questions.If you follow my blog, then you’ll already know that I have been diagnosed withClinical Depression (Major Depressive Disorder),Adult ADHD, andChronic Tic Disorder (Tourette’s). What you may not know is what I get out of blogging about my experiences with these conditions. This was the one of the questions the interviewer asked that made me think.Why on earth do I do this?My family resents my writing or is horrified by it. My friends don’t read it. It&r...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - October 27, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Journaling Suicide Writing Source Type: blogs

That Time When Ducks Cured My Depression
Sometimes taking care of your own depression can be accomplished by taking care of somebody else.I ’ve been incrediblystressed and depressed lately, so when my 2nd oldest daughter, Cathryn, suggested last month that we celebrate the birthday of my youngest daughter, the Brownie, with a trip into the mountains, I thought it was a fantastic idea. Fresh air up in the clouds sounded like the perfect salve for my soul.My spirits are often lifted by a change of scenery and some exercise. There was only one problem: the Browniehates hiking.With mild cerebral palsy and a learning disability, “simple” hikes become...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - October 21, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Family Goodreads Visualizing Source Type: blogs

Nothing like ADHD …
❝Nothing like ADHD and a good fight to the death to make time fly.” – Rick Riordan,The Lost Hero (The Heroes of Olympus, Book 1)  (Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey)
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - September 20, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Writing Source Type: blogs

Three-Digit Phone Number for Suicide Prevention Signed into Law
A few weeks ago, local Utah politicians (Rep. Chris Stewart and Sen. Orrin Hatch) helped get a suicide prevention bill onto President Trump's desk that he signed into law. It tasks the government with creating a three-digit number that works as a shortcut to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) for suicide and mental health crises, much like 911 for medical emergencies. It also authorizes an investigation into the effectiveness of both the lifeline and the Veteran Crisis Line.If you would like to see changes to either of these services, now is a very good time to contact your congress critters and give...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - September 4, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Goodreads Suicide Source Type: blogs

Helping to Prevent Suicide Only Takes Moments
September isNational Suicide Prevention Awareness Month. This means that your social media timelines will suddenly be filled with celebrities sharing the national hotline. The cynic in you may roll your eyes. These celebrities will care very, very deeply in 280 characters; lots of their "show somebody you care" posts will gets thousands of likes and reposts, but where were they on August 31st? Where will they be on October 1st? Chasing a new cause, probably. Mounting their social media steed and charging to the next virtue signal over the hill beyond while shouting, "Don't forget to like and retweet!"Wi...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - September 4, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Family Goodreads Suicide Source Type: blogs

Begins to Hope Again
“But a sanguine temper, though forever expecting more good than occurs, does not always pay for its hopes by any proportionate depression. It soon flies over the present failure, and begins to hope again.” – Jane Austen, Emma ch.18 (Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey)
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - September 4, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Goodreads Writing Source Type: blogs

Shaking Things Up to Fight Depression
*Feeling like the daily grind is getting you down? I felt that way lately, and here’s how I turned things around. *One sign of depression is that you lose interest in things that you used to find engaging. This is different thanan ADHD whiplash pivot into a new pursuit. It’s more like your love for a favorite pastime dies with a weary sigh. I’ve been through that type of phase many times in my life. I gave up reading Science Fiction& Fantasy once. Stopped enjoying anime for many years. Stopped watching favorite TV programs here and there. I even stopped playing the tinwhistle, something I have enjoyed...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - August 31, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Family Goodreads Journaling Source Type: blogs

Six Steps to Tame Way Too Many Projects
Too tight; too long. With added arch supports, they fit even worse. I bought these Rowley Slims Vans in the 00s because they looked cool, and I thought I ’d get back into skateboarding, but I never bought a skateboard. I couldn’t even wear the shoes more than every once in a while. They hurt my arches because they are a size 11, and I wear a 9½–10. I was too impatient to special order ones that fit me. I was going to start skateboarding with c lown shoes on a skateboard I hadn’t purchased yet. What was I thinking? My life has been filled with false starts like this. Intentions the size of mou...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - August 3, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Family Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Accolades, Attributions & Awards
Over the years I have received various awards for my efforts here, as well as interviews. Unfortunately, I've been blogging longer than some of the sites that featured me! I've updated this page with archive links so you can see what the award pages looked like when the award was issued. This is important because each one of these awards leads to a list of excellent sites and wonderful writers who have their own things to say about ADHD, depression, and mental health. Now you can discover them, and, with luck, access them again.Enjoy!~D ˢ2018Healthline2017Healthline2016Healthline2014Top Ten ADHD Blogs2013☞ ShareCar...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - July 17, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Spinning Source Type: blogs

Dreams Mean My Efforts Are Working, but Do They Have to Be so Weird ‽
One of the nice upsides tofixing my insomnia is that I’m suddenly dreaming again. I had forgotten how weird they could get, so of course, I have to share one of them with you! Hang in there for the plot twist.The other night I dreamed that I met a girl and her young daughter at my book signing. I’ve never done a book signing, but there she was. She was 24. This is important information, because she invited me to her home for dinner. In real life, I don’t believe something like this could ever happen even if I became so rich that I wore pants made up of $100 bills sewn together. Also, my oldest daughter is...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - July 13, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Family Goodreads Somnambulating Spinning Source Type: blogs

Best Depression Blog Three Years Running
Duringmy whirlwind Spring, I noticed that I received another award fromHealthline.com. That’s the third year in a row. I was, and still am, greatly honored. I posted about it onTwitter, but haven’t had a chance to share the news with you here.I don’t expect my advice on this blog to be helpful for everybody, but maybe something I write is just what somebody else needed to read that day. It’s all I can hope for, and I am humbled that Healthline recognizes my efforts. My journey here is a personal one. I am not an expert with a degree. I just share my experiences in a humorous and earnest way that I h...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - July 12, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Obstinance or Brilliance
I am still paying the price for pushing myself in June, and I thought it was time to share with you what I’ve been up to, how it went, what worked, and what I could have done better. The TL;DR version is that I did too much, loved almost every moment of it, and then I ended up feeling like a haggard and disheveled octogenarian who had dragged a couch up a mountain trail.To give you an idea of what I’ve been up to, here’s a concise whirlwind from April to present. I have left out my daily duties and medical care for my daughter:I signed up for the conference in April, had to write 6000 words in two days, t...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - July 11, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Family Goodreads Writing Source Type: blogs

ADHD Jumps in Reasoning - When I'm Like Kanye West
I’m sitting here typing deep in the Uinta-Wasatch-Cache National Forest, east of Spanish Fork, and cut off from the internet. I came along to be on hand for my daughter’s girls camp just in case she had a seizure. I don’t have much to do except keep myself busy. I’ve finished a journal. Wrote three articles for submission to a magazine. Practiced my pennywhistle and ocarina daily. Exercised. Went for a hike in the mountains and got lost. Followed a path that became, I assume, a deer trail. Followed the trail deep into the thicket all the way to an animal den. Didn’t get eaten. Made my way back...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - June 25, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Three Ways to Fight the Stigma of Suicide
Last week was a sad week for celebrity suicides. You may not have known much about those who took their own lives, but if your social media timeline was like mine, you were connected with many people whose hearts were touched by the news.We began the week with the passing of Kate Spade, a fashion designer who built a handbag empire and turned her name into a multi-million dollar brand, then finished the week with the passing of Anthony Bourdain, celebrity chef and CNN host whose stories about exotic cultures and food entertained audiences worldwide. They both chose to hang themselves —a gruesome end to their stellar ...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - June 12, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Goodreads Suicide Source Type: blogs

Too Proud to Have ADHD?
Are you too proud for ToDo lists? Don't like to admit you have ADHD memory issues? You aren't alone.I have afamily member who has ADHD. They never write anything down. They don’t make reminders. They insist that they have to remember everything on their own, and of course, they seldom do. I’m so glad I don’t have that hangup anymore.It reminds me of the hard time we had with my daughter in middle school. Her teacher —supposedly trained to teach learning disabled children—insisted my daughter had to remember to complete all her homework assignments on her own. She wouldn’t tell me what th...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - April 21, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Family Goodreads Journaling Writing Source Type: blogs

Mormon Musings: A Reverent Moment with the Brownie
I don’t shy away from mentioning my religion here. I’ve even discussed LDS doctrine and how it intersects with mental health, but today I just wanted to capture a moment and share it with you.“Dad, you’ve got silver things in your sweater,” my daughter whispers out loud. Perhaps it only sounds loud because we’re sitting in church waiting for the sacrament to come our way. I turn to my right to see my daughter picking at my new Irish Aran sweater. There’s a look of disgust on her face as she pulls out a silver strand.“Yes, that’s because it’s made out of sheep hair...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - April 12, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Family Goodreads Writing Source Type: blogs

ADHD: Playing Cat & Mouse with Catfishers
She was a total stranger. She was cute and posed with a kid in her profile pic. She had an aversion to punctuation. Suddenly, she said,“Hi Douglas”, and I was off.Today is technically Day 42 of my bout with adenovirus. Some aspects of the cold linger like our obstinate Winter this year, but I’m feeling better. This was fortunate, because today was the last day my daughter, the Brownie, would be wearing a home EEG to capture a seizure. She had gone the entire week seizure free, so I spent the day trying to induce one. I finally resorted to flashing a strobe light in her face. When that didn’t seem to...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - April 6, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Spinning Writing Source Type: blogs

A Moment ’s Respite from Pressing Thoughts
Finding moments of beauty can help alleviate stress and depression.Sometimes all I need to feel right is a moment ’s peace with a beautiful sunset. Anxieties fade, and my spirit is lifted. That ephemeral moment of beauty has so much power for me. I wonder at the richly saturated colors spreading across the sky as twilight casts shadows over the color of the world below.Some may claim sunsets are trite, but I do not find them so. I have trained myself to use them as cleansing moments. It is as if I have pressed pause on my day. I focus on something outside of myself. At that instant, the sunset becomes a grand, positi...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - March 23, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Visualizing Source Type: blogs

Dolores O'Riordan and I Have Something in Common
Just a few thoughts before my day takes me away.The other day, I thought I’d celebrate St. Patty’s Day with The Cranberries. Dolores O’Riordan has been on my mind lately, and her voice was just the Irish taste I was looking for. However, I couldn’t listen to her voice and not remember what had recently happened to her. We won’t know officially how or why she died until next month. In the meantime, rumors swirl from police at the scene of fentanyl and suicide.People pay a heavy price for addiction. Dolores struggled with depression, suicide, and addiction for years, then paid with her life. She...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - March 19, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Writing Source Type: blogs

A Funny Thing Happened to Me on My Way to the Mailbox
When humor is a coping strategy for mental health, sometimes people miss the joke. Are some subjects simply not funny?Alright. I keep miscounting. Today is Day 22 of my dance with Adenovirus. I checked it with the calendar. Thrice. Last week I announced on social media that I had been sick for 20 days, not 26, but both counts were wrong. I had announced the 11th day correctly. How I thought last week that I was sick for a month when it had been only two weeks …well, there’s no explanation for it. I was sick. I’m still sick. This bug will never end.If you think I ’m exaggerating, the doctor cheerful...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - March 19, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Goodreads Source Type: blogs

ADHD - Of Cocteau Twins and Shoujo Title Generators
Ever wonder what it was like to have ADHD? I can help you out with that.I ’ve recently made a goal of tagging all my published blog articles so I can see which ones haven’t been published. OS X allows me to tag files with colored dots. That way all the untagged files will stand out. OS 9 used to allow the entire filename to be colorized so that it would shout out at m e from the din, but now we are living in the future where small dots of color are considered more noticeable than one inch long filenames in pulsating bright green. Regardless, now that I’ve slogged through the past three years of posts, I h...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - February 21, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Spinning Writing Source Type: blogs

What Does Self-Esteem, Arranged Marriage, and Ramen Have in Common?
This will be a phenomenally busy week with doctor visits, writing, and preparations for a symposium. Then punctuated by a presentation at BYU just when things get really crazy in the middle of the week. I ’ve been asked to talk about publishing e-books, and I’ll be joined with my editor. I did this class two years ago, but unlike last time, I’ve been preparing. We have some ideas we think will be fun, including putting together a very quick& dirty ePub. I also spent the weekend finishing projects like the paperback edition of my Pok émon book, and writing articles that I plan to submit here and...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - February 21, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Hobnobbing Writing Source Type: blogs

What Does Self-Esteem, Arranged Marriage, and Ramen Have in Common
This will be a phenomenally busy week with doctor visits, writing, and preparations for a symposium. Then punctuated by a presentation at BYU just when things get really crazy in the middle of the week. I ’ve been asked to talk about publishing e-books, and I’ll be joined with my editor. I did this class two years ago, but unlike last time, I’ve been preparing. We have some ideas we think will be fun, including putting together a very quick& dirty ePub. I also spent the weekend finishing projects like the paperback edition of my Pok émon book, and writing articles that I plan to submit here and...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - February 16, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Hobnobbing Writing Source Type: blogs

Beating Off Depression with Distractions
Comorbid is an icky word. Say it with me.“Ko-’Mor-Bid”. It means people with mental health issues usually have to carry more than one condition on their backs. I lug aroundADHD,Major Depressive Disorder, and Adult Tourette’s. It’s a lot of fun, and you should see the muscles on my legs. Atlas would be jealous.Last Saturday, Tourette ’s was the issue that ruled my day. I had so much work to be done, including posting an article on this blog, but instead I was in slow motion. Everything was harder to do than usual—as it usually is when my brain feels as if popcorn was leaping to life...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - January 30, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Another Pot Slaughtered in the Name of ADHD

I may need to change my name toDouglas Cootey, Pot Assasin. I ’m not sure who drew first blood years ago, or why we battle in the kitchens of my life, but for decades we have vied for dominance. I must admit it is not usually the fairest of fights. The pot is striving to fulfill its destiny, sitting on a burner, heating the contents inside. Then I come along and slay it.The worst incidents usually involved ramen or eggs with smoke detectors going off, but the absolute worst was the time when I set water to boil, became distracted in my studio, and came out of my reverie when strange pinging sounds began to irritat...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - January 17, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Source Type: blogs

You Can Choose to Not Be Depressed for the Holidays
I posted something on Facebook this past weekend that didn’t have the effect I wanted.“My recent timeline is filled with baking cookies, reviewing children’s picture books, and now I’ve discovered I’m spending tonight& New Year’s Eve home alone reading a book. Something is terribly wrong with my life. 😜 ”I had intended it to be snarky. That’s what the emoji was for. I wasn’t feeling sorry for myself. It’s nobody’s fault but my own that I don’t have a special somebody to spend New Year’s Eve together. I’m not logged into online dating...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - January 1, 2018 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Family Goodreads Suicide Source Type: blogs

Do Fidget Spinners Cure ADHD?
By now, Fidget Spinners are collecting dust in bargain bins across America, marked down to $1.99 or 3 for $5. My local Walmart is selling them for $1 each! The fad hit America like a whirling tornado. In April and May, they were selling out faster than you could say “pet rock”. By June, dealers had palettes of them stacked to the ceiling. It was easy to see there’d be a glut. Now that they’re so cheap to get, are they worth it? Thetl;dr answer is“Yes”, but you can be forgiven for cocking an eyebrow of doubt.After all, most online ads for Fidget Spinners on Amazon.com read like this:Figit...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - December 12, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Source Type: blogs

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By now Fidget Spinners —those miraculous toy objects helpful for people with ADHD —are collecting dust in bargain bins across America, marked down 3 for $5. The fad hit America like a whirling tornado. In April and May, they ’d sell out faster than you could say “Tickle Me Elmo”, while people shelled out $10 or more for them. In June, dealers had palettes of them stacked to the sky. It was easy to see there’d be a glut. A prudent shopper would have waited. Unfortunately, I am anything but prudent, so I experimen ted with Fidget Spinners for you. My daughter begged me for one. T...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - November 29, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Source Type: blogs

ADHD: Writer's Roadblock
Sometimes Writer’s Block is due to Road Work Ahead.I wish the roadblocks of life would announce themselves better. Then I could chart my detours in time to avoid them. Maybe they could have mechanized arms to wave at me, catching my attention as I rocket from Point A to Point B. Most roadblocks in life do give me advance warning. It’s the ones that family members throw up in my way that catch me off guard. It is as if they announce the upcoming construction by standing on the side of a road with a postcard filled with tiny hand scratchings that somewhat resemble English. They don’t even so much as nod the...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - November 13, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Family Goodreads Writing Source Type: blogs

ADHD: So You Screwed Up. What Else Is New?
Ever feel like you just can’t do anything right? Maybe it’s not just you.I’m sitting here in my car, stunned and quite embarrassed. I just showed up to yet another appointment on the wrong day. You would think I’d be used to this by now, but the truth is that it comes as a surprise every time. And here I was thinking the worst I had done today was be seven minutes late.Let’s RewindI began the morning sick again. This has been going on for weeks, and I’ve seen a roulette wheel of symptoms instead of any healthy payout. I wondered if I should even go, but I canceled the last two times beca...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - November 6, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Source Type: blogs

Down in the Dumps? Here Are Seven Steps To Beat Depression
I knew I was in trouble when I looked at the time. It was 12:30 already. Half past noon, and I was still in bed. I was just lying there feeling as if a giant weight was on top of me. I couldn’t move. I didn’t want to. Eat? Nah, too sad. Go to the bathroom? Too much effort. Even social media seemed tiresome. I put my iPhone down and thought in stunned, heavy silence,“I’m depressed.”Savage bouts of depression can still jump out at me and catch me off guard.I have clinical depression, yet I manage my depression on a daily basis. It doesn’t often get the better of me anymore. There was a tim...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - October 21, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Source Type: blogs

The Tale of the Corrupted Kingdom
Once upon a time, and long before the evil, fanged Facebook consumed the conversations of the internet, readers could leave comments on my blog. Most readers left intelligent and insightful comments on what I wrote about that day. They were delightsome to behold. Thanks to vigilant knights, trolls didn ’t often blunder into our edifying conversations, but whenever they did stumble upon our happy kingdom, the trolls were quickly vanquished. Then one day, the king (which is me) decreed that Disqus would be the new conversation system for all because the old one didn’t work. Except that Disqus di dn’t work v...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - October 14, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Spinning Source Type: blogs

Four Things You Can Do to #StopSuicide
As National Suicide Prevention Week comes to a close, I wanted to share a few words.I was once suicidal. I hated myself. I hated my life. I was blind to the love of people around me. I was virtually on the precipice, but stepped back at the last moment because of their love. They mattered to me, and I mattered to them. I remembered that at the moment it would do the most good. I survived that dark period, and other dark periods that followed. I survived, healed, and now I try to help other people as desperately miserable as I once was by opening up aboutdepression,ADHD, and suicide with my writing.In fact,I wrote a book to...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - September 17, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Suicide Source Type: blogs

Proving You Can't Even Give a Book on Suicide Away for FREE? #StopSuicide #NSPW17
During#NSPW17, my ebook for the suicidal (& their families) is FREE for iBooks, Kobo, B&N& Kindlehttps://t.co/qkcmqt8PkC#suicide Plz RTpic.twitter.com/JsFVDEy7T5— Douglas Cootey (@SplinteredMind)September 14, 2017Another year; anotherNational Suicide Prevention Week has passed. This year I thought it would be a good service to the community if I offered my ebook,Saying“NO” to Suicide, for FREE throughout the week. Since I’d never made my ebooks FREE before, I had no idea what an ordeal this would become. I started last Saturday, and soon Kobo reflected the new price. Yes! Excitement! By ...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - September 15, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Suicide Writing Source Type: blogs

Life Is a River of Drama
This has been a tough year for me. I’ve kept my struggle mostly secret because the drama that ails me relates a story that I cannot share. The results of it are fairly obvious to those who observe me day to day, however. I’m less cheery; I’m more stressed; my sleep is horrible; I’m way behind in my writing; my finances have thrown up a white flag; I don’t find relief in social media anymore; and my real social life has evaporated like water in the hot, Utah sun. The most unfortunate aspect of the drama is that the more stress I encounter, the worse my Tourette’s becomes.Still!During all ...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - June 23, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Family Suicide Source Type: blogs

Slay ADHD Tardiness with These 5 Tips
I have to admit. I haven ’t been the most punctual of guys. I’ve tried, but I failed a lot. Last Tuesday, I had an appointment to meet a counselor at my daughter’s school. I left on time. I maneuvered through traffic like I was in the Indy 500 (without breaking the law!). I arrived early! Two minutes early! Then I rem inded myself to put up the sunshade before getting out.I ’ve written before about the effect sun-heated cars have on my noodle. So up went the sunshade. Is this the right way? No, it ’s upside down. Wait, I should really put up the side window shades, too. There. Looks great! No ...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - June 13, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Suicide Catches Us All Unaware: Lessons from The Passive Voice
I've got a new blog going up soon, but I came across something tonight that I felt compelled to share with you.Over onThe Passive Voice, PG wrote about the turmoil his family has been going through due to the suicide of his son and the death of his brother — both within the same few weeks. Any death in the family can be devastating. I recently stood over the grave of my brother on Memorial Day, teary-eyed with a tight throat, even though its been nineteen years since the car accident. We don't forget those we loved. His son's suicide has pushed PG b eyond the limits of his strength. Then he lost his brother to cancer...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - June 9, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Family Goodreads Suicide Source Type: blogs

ADHD, Bookmarks, Tabs, and Me
Do you have a lot of bookmarks on your browser? What about open tabs? I just love them. I like to keep dozens of them up at any give moment, to go along with my hundreds upon hundreds of bookmarks. Don’t want to forget anything, right ⸮ Just now I discovered that my daughter had been on my computer again and had closed yet another window filled with dozens of tabs. There was the usual moment of panic, followed by a loud, wailing sound very much like the sound Luke Skywalker made in that movie where he met a long lost relative. All my research! Gone! Doesn’t she realize I use open tabs like a ToDo list on my b...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - May 21, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Source Type: blogs

Depression: The Magic of Shrubbery
This article was shoddy journalism; the report bordered on wishful thinking.Anybody looking for a quick fix for their depression by hitting Home Depot’s garden department may be disappointed in the results. It’s not that greenery is a bad idea. If you find aromatic plants stress-relieving and uplifting, you may experience benefits to having those plants around you. If you can get out to the forests and mountains for a hike, the fresh air and abundant nature will do you good. Do it often enough, and you might be able to manage mild depression that way. However, a tree in and of itself isn’t going to lift y...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - April 20, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Check Out These Great Depression Blogs for 2017
HealthlineEvery once in a while, out of the veritable blue, an announcement arrives in my inbox that stands out from the noise. Usually, I receive spam from desperate, out of work infographic makers or eager guest bloggers who pretend to read my site, then think I want their guest post about their experience herding yaks. The other week, a guy asked me if I still posted on my blog these days, offered to guest blog for me to promote his book on depression, then told me that I could really use it. Yeah, not a great pitch.DELETEThen today I discovered thatHealthline had featured me in their yearly list of top depression blogg...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - April 18, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Depression Goodreads Source Type: blogs

ADHD: Who Are You Again …and Again?
If there is oneattribute of ADHD that embarrasses me the most, it is my inability to remember names. Like many adults with ADHD, I have problems with short-term, or working, memory. I forget what I’ve heard all the time, unless I make an extreme effort to force the information into long-term memory. When it comes to social events and names, I’m simply horrible at it.I still remember an incident in college where I saw somebody I recognized from a quarter mile away. I made way across the quad, rushed up to them making waving motions, and promptly forgot their name mid-sentence as I said,“Hey …(insert...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - March 21, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Fighting Depression: The Beast We Have in Common
Chapter OneLearned Optimism Thought #1:I am grateful for beautiful daughters who made my 50th birthday a memorable one.If you can’t take medication to combat depression or suicidal depression, how do you cope? Do you resign yourself to desolation, or do you fight back? Can you fight back? How ‽ This was the dilemma I faced years ago when anti-depressants had failed me and my life was worse off because of side-effects. What I learned in my battle against depression not only changed my life for the better, but helped me change other lives, too. Fighting off depression seems like hard wor k, but when you break down th...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - March 21, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Goodreads Source Type: blogs

Upsides to ADHD: Overcoming Your Sense of Underachievement
One of the distinctive aspects of ADHD in adults is an overwhelming sense of underachievement. Sometimes this is due to them never getting out of the gate while their peers race ahead, and sometimes they have actually accomplished a great deal, but from the wrong ToDo lists. Both examples can leave ADHD adults with a pervasive feeling of underachievement, even if they accomplish a great deal more than their peers.I imagine the skeptics out there are sitting up and asking,“But doesn’t everybody miss goals? Don’t even overachievers miss goals? Everybody misses goals!” I ’ve heard similar comment...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - March 6, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Goodreads Journaling Writing Source Type: blogs

Life, the Universe, and Everything 2017 Was Just What I Needed
Entry 18 – 11:46 PM: Just a quick update before I head off to bed. Finally, sickness left me so that I could attendLife, the Universe& Everything. It’s an academic symposium on science fiction& fantasy held every year in Provo, Utah. I used to help run it when I attended BYU. There isn’t anything else quite like it out there. I missed yesterday’s programming (economics of the undead and a discussion on folklore withJessica Day George andDene Lowe, and I worried that I simply wouldn’t be able to shake off this virus. In a fit of unusual slumber, however, I retired to bed at 7:50pm and w...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - February 18, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Hobnobbing Writing Source Type: blogs

500,000 Unique Visitors!
Sometime before midnight on January 31st, my blog crossed a threshold that I’ve been waiting for a long time to see.A Splintered Mind has hit 500,000 unique visitors. Considering the blog just had it’s twelfth birthday on January 2nd, this seems a fitting month to achieve such a milestone.Thank you, one and all, for your support over the past twelve years. I’ve grown so much as a person and as a writer. In fact, we’ve come so far together since the days years ago when I would blog about my wet socks, and you could leave comments —back before my blog template became damaged beyond repair. Maybe...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - February 1, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: Goodreads Spinning Source Type: blogs

Don't Forget To Plan for Detours
Day 17 – 11:56 PM: I’ve put together a heavy schedule —a roadmap—that will lead me towards achieving my goals, but as usual with lists, life has a way of giving them a flat. Fortunately, the lists still work as roadmaps, even if distractions and responsibilities put detours in front of my deadlines.The point of writing openly like this is to share a bit of the process. I believe strongly that if we identify our stumbling blocks, we can learn to work around them. Some people who don’t have mental health issues look upon that belief as letting my diagnosis limit me —as if I could suddenly,...
Source: The Splintered Mind by Douglas Cootey - February 1, 2017 Category: Psychiatry Tags: ADHD Depression Family Goodreads Journaling Writing Source Type: blogs