Sibling Caregiver Criticism Can Be Worse Over Holiday Visits

Photo credit Tniklas Hamann Dear Carol: My 93-year-old mother lives in a nursing home and I visit her several times during the workweek, moreover the weekends. She seems as content as she is capable of being and she’s getting excellent care. My two siblings only visit Mom for the holidays. I understand this since they are each on different coasts and traveling is both time-consuming and expensive. What’s hard to handle is their pressure to have me take Mom into my home. They seem unable to grasp the idea that I can’t give her the care that she needs while I’m working, and we don’t have the money to hire 24/7 in-home help. They stay in motels when they’re here and we get together at the nursing home for holiday meals. This meal can be fun, but afterward, while Mom is resting, they start to pressure me. I’m nearly sick over the thought of going through this whole ordeal one more time, and I’m running out of willingness to keep explaining reality to them. Do I somehow owe them more?— PE Continue to read on Inforum to learn more about how to handle sibling complaints about your caregiving - especially during the holidays: Support a caregiver or jump-start discussion in support groups with real stories - for bulk orders of Minding Our Elders e-mail Carol                      Related StoriesDad's a Veteran: How Do I Manage His Momentos With His Move to Care?Ve...
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