Stop Hiding From The Holidays With Ailments

Yesterday I posted alist of a holiday to dos:Be present, don ' t buy presentsWrap someone in a hug, instead of wrapping giftsSend love, not giftsDonate food, don ' t shop for itMake memories, not cookiesBe the light, instead of hanging lightsThen I started thinking (sorry). I know I am guilty of not being present at holidays. At Thanksgiving, hosted here, I got tired and ended up lying down in our bedroom for long enough that my mother came down to lie down for a minute and talk to me because I was gone so long.I really have limited abilities and get tired or end up in pain and need to rest. Normally, I would sit down and let everyone else do all the work. But if we are hosting, I never get to sit down because people keep asking for something so I have to get up. Now that I have had a chance to think about it I realize that I am not being present. I am hiding away.So I have to come up with a plan. First of all I will talk to my husband and siblings because I know I can ' t do everything. I can also enlist one of my nieces and nephews to help.I think I have dealt with my health for so long that I have learned to hide away so much that I start hiding away too soon. I need to work on staying out with everyone else and relax and let everyone else do the work and delegate.That is actually pretty funny because last week I talked to an old friend who was stressing about the holidays. I told her I thought she should delegate part of the work to her husband and let him do it. I ran in...
Source: Caroline's Breast Cancer Blog - Category: Cancer & Oncology Tags: ailments coping hiding holidays Source Type: blogs