How Do I Want To Feel?

Great question from on of my adult ADHD coaching clients that she has started to ask herself to help her change her life. I suggested she use it as a mantra. Ask the question often. It will provide clarity. It’s helped her get more stuff done, do less of certain things and clarify what’s important and what to do. Also who to be to get the feeling she wants. We ADHD adults often have trouble thinking about the future. We often just live in the now or the not now. We’re often time blind. Asking ourselves how do we want to feel? Can help us ADDers think about the future more often, and in a less stressed, anxious way, and a more useful, calm way. It can help us think about what we need to do and not do and be and not be to get that feeling. It can also reduce the ODD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder that many adults with ADHD have to some degree or another even if it’s just subclinical. It can reduce resistance and friction from other sources too, because we’re focused on what we want, a powerful emotional state and a positive outcome vs the traditional negative ADHD guilting, process, I have/must/should do this. It’s a delusion that we humans are mainly driven by logic. We’re often mainly driven by emotion and often use logic after the fact to rationalize our decisions. Why not cut out the rationalizations? Say you’re going away on a weekend trip, how do you want to feel when you come back home? Maybe relaxed. What do you have to d...
Source: Adult ADD Strengths - Category: Psychiatry Authors: Tags: ADD / ADHD Coaching Source Type: blogs