Learn the Subtle Signs of a Loved One ’ s Verbal Abuse

This article will be written as if the males are the abusers and the females are the victims, which is true according to research the majority of the time. However, if you are a male that is the victim or a female who is the perpetrator, please just swap the pronouns in your head. Why Someone Telling You How You Should Feel is Covert Verbal Abuse It is easy to understand that sexual and physical abuse can be traumatic. It is also easy to understand that severe verbal abuse (i.e. yelling, name-calling) can be traumatic. However, there are more subtle types of verbal abuse that can be equally traumatic. The abuser could be doing verbal abuse consciously or unconsciously. The underlying purpose of the abuse is often to make sure the abuser gets his way, stays in control, avoids being the vulnerable one or can believe he is “right”. The victim of the abuse is often the more pliable of the two, trying to adapt and adjust to the relationship situation to make it work. Here are some of the statements I’ve heard from victims of subtle verbal abuse: “I don’t know, maybe he’s right. Maybe it’s me.” “I always feel like I am walking on eggshells around him.” “I always feel like I’m the crazy one.” One particular couple I was seeing was comprised of a very emotional female and a very repressed, yet successful male. She would express some very legitimate feelings about some real issues in the relationship (this w...
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