Making Sense of Infinite Possibilities
You could say that one reason we can make simple decisions each day with relative ease is that we only have a handful of options to choose from, and that makes it easier to make a reasonably good choice. For instance, if you only have so much food in your home, or so many stores and restaurants within reach, then you may find it easier to decide what to eat each day. You don’t have to consider infinite options. You narrow your focus to what’s most accessible. But what about making bigger life choices, like what career path to explore next? This is a situation where you may feel like you’re drowning ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 27, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

Retreating to Truth
People often ask me to help them make decisions. Sometimes these are situations where consciously weighing the pros and cons may be prudent. But more often than not, when the options are presented, it’s reasonably clear what the person would like to do. They’ve already decided. What they’re really asking is how to get aligned with the decision they’ve already made. When someone asks me if they should quit their job, they’ve usually made the decision to quit already, even if they’re still showing up to work. When someone asks me if they should leave their relationship partner, they&...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 26, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Emotions Source Type: blogs

Retreating to Truth
People often ask me to help them make decisions. Sometimes these are situations where consciously weighing the pros and cons may be prudent. But more often than not, when the options are presented, it’s reasonably clear what the person would like to do. They’ve already decided. What they’re really asking is how to get aligned with the decision they’ve already made. When someone asks me if they should quit their job, they’ve usually made the decision to quit already, even if they’re still showing up to work. When someone asks me if they should leave their relationship partner, they&...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 26, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Emotions Source Type: blogs

Becoming Aware of Your Reflections
Once when I was going through customs at the airport in Winnipeg, Canada to visit Rachelle, I got pulled aside for extra questioning. The suspicious young agent somehow convinced himself that I was on an errand of ill intent and interrogated me about my reasons for visiting. He went through the files on my laptop, searching for evidence of illegal activity. He read through the recent text messages on my cell phone. Much to his chagrin, I wasn’t actually crossing the border to destroy Canadian society, so he came up empty handed and grudgingly waved me through, although for good measure he gave me a bonus lecture abou...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 25, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Creating Reality Relationships Source Type: blogs

Honoring Negative Predictions
There are situations in life where we develop fairly consistent negative predictions regarding how those situations will turn out, but then we don’t actually honor those predictions. For instance, suppose you’ve had some corporate jobs, and they’ve never turned out well for you. You never really liked them. They’ve never put you in situations where you’ve deeply enjoyed your work each day and where you’ve felt aligned with the company’s purpose. Suppose that something about these jobs always felt off to you. And suppose that currently you find yourself unemployed and wanting ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 24, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

Clarity From Resistance
Why bother with clarity at all? Why focus on goals and directions? Isn’t this a form of attachment? Why not adopt a more flexible and open attitude towards life? Why not just allow all things to be possible in each moment and leave it at that? If you question the value of clarity, goals, or consciously chosen directions, I encourage you to try doing the opposite for a while and see how that plays out. Relax into the current flow of life. Don’t worry about setting goals. Don’t worry about choosing a direction. Just relax and live. Let the universe handle the details. This is a perfectly valid mode of...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 23, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Emotions Source Type: blogs

The Lens of Story
A powerful lens you can use for making sense of life is the lens of story. What’s especially powerful about story is that it beautifully integrates the objective and subjective lenses. There’s the objective side of a story, such as the settings, characters, and events. And there’s the subjective side, meaning your thoughts, feelings, and inner journey. How could you apply the lens of story to help you make sense of complicated situations or decisions? Here are some good questions to ask: How does this fit my overall story?Where does my story want to go next?Which decision would make for intere...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 22, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

Finding Order in Chaos
We could say that we live in a pretty chaotic world and that the desire for clarity is an attempt to impose order on the apparent chaos around us. We tame nature and build cities. We build roads across natural landscapes. We seek scientific rules to predict the behavior patterns of matter and energy. When we bring order to chaos, there’s a certain beauty to it. A well constructed city can be beautiful. A well-organized home or office can be beautiful too. Yet what do we do once we’ve created order? Something feels like it’s missing, so we add some chaos back in – but in a controlled manner....
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 22, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

Stay or Go Decisions
What if you’re currently tolerating a situation you don’t want, but you’re unclear about where to go next? What if your current job, relationship, or lifestyle is a mismatch for you, but you feel hesitant to leave it behind? Imagine being stuck on an island, but you don’t like it there. It’s too small. The weather is often bad. And it smells like rotting fish. And suppose that when you climb to the tallest point on this island and look around, all you can see is the vastness of the sea in every direction. What do you do? Well, you have two options. You can stay or you can leave. If...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 21, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Emotions Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

Clarity and Planning
What’s the point of planning? The point of planning is ultimately to help you create a result, so planning is a means to an end. And some other purposes of planning are to reduce risk and increase efficiency. You create plans in order to achieve your goal with less effort and less risk. Now a good plan requires making predictions. If you take these particular actions in this particular order, you’ll get this particular result. In fact, a plan is really a collection of predictions. Another word for prediction is expectation, so we can also say that your plan depends on your expectations and especially on the ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 20, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Chasing Clarity
What does looking for clarity actually look like? Let us first note what doesn’t qualify as looking. Waiting for clarity is not looking. Sharing your lack of clarity is not looking. Distracting yourself is not looking. Only looking is looking. How can you tell if someone is looking for clarity? What would you expect that person to be doing? What activities would you classify as “looking for clarity” if someone else were doing them? Are you regularly engaging in similar activities? I can tell you what it’s like when I’m looking for clarity. I’m reading books and listening to a...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 19, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Lowering the Price of a Transition
Why do so many transitions have annoyingly high price tags? Why can’t we just transition with ease whenever we want? Imagine the opposite for a moment. Suppose that major transitions could always be made with grace and ease, and none required a price to be paid. Suppose you could make big changes whenever you wanted. Switch jobs. Switch cities. Switch relationships. Switch anything at the push of a button. If transitions could be undertaken at little or no cost, it stands to reason that people would transition more often. There’d be less opportunity to delve deeply into stable experiences because reality ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 18, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

My First Facebook Live
I just did my first ever Facebook Live video within the past hour, speaking about character sculpting versus traditional goal setting. Here’s a recording of the video if you’d like to watch it: Enjoy the video! Note that the Stature character sculpting course launch discount (save 70%) is good for another 7 hours, so if you’d like to join us for it, now is a good time. More than 300 people are already signed up. Read My First Facebook Live by Steve Pavlina (Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog)
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 17, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

More Than 300 Have Now Joined Stature
So far 304 people have joined the new character sculpting deep dive since the start of the year, which is terrific to see. You can see the real-time sign-up count at the top of the Stature page if you’re curious… at least during the initial launch. Since today is the last day of the launch discount, I’m sure we’ll see more people joining by the end of the day. This is a truly unique, one-of-a-kind course, especially since we’re co-creating it with the people going through the experience right now. Get the details and sign up here: Stature: Character Sculpting Deep Dive Experience ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 16, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Creating Reality Emotions Lifestyle Values character sculpting stature Source Type: blogs

Improved: Receive my Blog Posts via Email
Thousands of people have been receiving my blog posts via email, but with the recent upsurge of blogging due to my daily creative challenge, many have been unsubscribing since the daily frequency of emails is too much for them. I understand the desire to reduce the number of emails, so I found a way to let you set the frequency. Now you can receive an email for every 1, 5, or 10 new articles – your choice. So you can drop it down to 3 emails per month if you prefer to receive the 10-article digest version to get the highlights. The original feature was provided directly by WordPress and didn’t allow any r...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 15, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Source Type: blogs

Stature Progress Update
The new Stature character sculpting course is coming along beautifully during our co-creative phase. I just published the 13th and final lesson of Module 1: Awareness, and I’m about to start on Module 2 next. At the start of the year, there were only 4 lessons published, and now we have 13 lessons in the Stature member portal. By the time the course is fully completed, there will be dozens more. I aim to continue adding about 5-6 new lessons per week till the full course is done. That pacing feels good to me. The intention is to create a truly deep, worthwhile, and transformational deep dive experience for peop...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 15, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Source Type: blogs

Podcast Interview with Hans Comyn
My friend Hans Comyn, author of The Way of a Seducer, recently interviewed me for his podcast, The Seduction Show. The theme of Hans’ podcast is seduction, and in this episode we talk about what seduces us, such as the recent 365-Day Challenge that seduced me into committing to it… and how Hans was seduced into his own 100-day challenge. Listen to the interview Our conversation is lively and enthusiastic and has lots of juicy insights about courage, alignment, character sculpting, and personal growth, so I think you’ll enjoy it. Read Podcast Interview with Hans Comyn by Steve Pavlina (Source: St...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 15, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

High-Trust Pricing
Many entrepreneurs find pricing decisions for their products and services really challenging. You’ll often hear such people asking each other, “What should I charge?” I’ve read a number of books about pricing with complex ideas on how to do it correctly. Most involved some form of testing and optimization. They all shared the same underlying assumption though: that the optimal prices are those which extract the most long-term profit. Since that’s extremely difficult to predict, testing is essential. Testing of that nature can be dreadfully boring though, and you still won’t know if...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 13, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Productivity Source Type: blogs

Money and Success Goals Are Social, Not Personal
One of the biggest traps is life is trying to achieve goals that only you will care about, such as making money or achieving success in your career. Yes, those kinds of goals can still create some ripples for others, but if your intention is mostly about you and your personal gains, I’d predict a lot of stuckness and stagnation for you. I fell into this trap as well. In my 20s I thought my goals were well-intentioned enough. I was trying to get my computer games business going, make some money, and have a nice life in the field of game development. I certainly wasn’t trying to hurt anyone. But I didn’t...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 12, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Productivity Source Type: blogs

Zones of Clarity
There are multiple zones of clarity. Let’s consider them. First, there’s clarity with yourself – clarity about who you are, what you are, and about your skills and capabilities. This zone of clarity could be called self knowledge, self awareness, and self understanding. Second, there’s clarity about this reality – about the world, the universe, and life in general. What is this place you find yourself in? What is its nature? What’s possible here? How does it work? What are its laws and rules? And third, there’s clarity about your relationship with this reality. How do you ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 12, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Relationships Source Type: blogs

Inspiration Beats Procrastination
Inviting a stronger flow of inspiration kicked off by the 365-day creative challenge is helping me get more done than I expected, including completing some stale to-do items that I never felt inspired to do before. This morning I updated all of my YouTube videos (42 of them) to have end screens that invite people to visit my blog, subscribe to my channel, or check out other videos on my channel. For instance, an abundance-related video will now invite people to watch a Deep Abundance Integration invite video next. I also set most videos to invite people to watch my latest video, which is currently the Stature invite ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 10, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity creativity inspiration procrastination Source Type: blogs

Stature Video Live Premiere
Today I made a version of the Stature invitation video for YouTube. When I went to make it public, so people could watch it there, I noticed a different setting that I hadn’t seen before – the option to host a live premiere with a live chat. I wasn’t quite sure how it worked, but I like to dive in and try new things, and this sounded like a fun way to publish a new video, so I checked the option and made it so. Within two minutes, YouTube was displaying a countdown timer, and it notified some of my subscribers to come check it out. I also quickly shared about this in Conscious Growth Club and in the St...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 10, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Video character sculpting stature Source Type: blogs

Live Stature Invitation Viewing with Open Chat
A live viewing of the Stature invitation video with open chat with me is happening on YouTube right now. Join us! Read Live Stature Invitation Viewing with Open Chat by Steve Pavlina (Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog)
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 10, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Stature Course Update
Here are some updates on the new Stature character sculpting course: New Stature Invitation Video Published The Stature invitation video is now available, and I invite you to watch it. The video covers a lot in just 35 minutes: What character sculpting is and why it mattersThe purpose of the Stature courseWho the course is for (and who it isn’t for)Format of the deep diveAbout the deep dive exercisesThe vibe and style of the course5 core transformations people requested for this deep diveTips on doing character sculpting on your own (what to focus on)Pricing (and launch discount pricing)The honor code for...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 9, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Being Overruled by the Universe
I feel like I’ve had a hefty dose of wrestling with the universe’s timing this week. I had wanted to get the invitation video for Stature’s launch done much sooner – several days ago – but I also tried to do this video differently than the other course invitation videos. Mainly I wanted to make it shorter and more succinct. My previous invitation videos for Deep Abundance Integration, Submersion, and Conscious Growth Club were all more than a hour long. I wanted to get Stature’s invite video down to about 35 minutes and still cover all the same bases as the longer videos. Well, ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 9, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Productivity Source Type: blogs

Does Your Muse Trust You?
I just finished 14 days of daily blogging (15 if we include this post), publishing an article called Sculpting Your Character 7 minutes before midnight last night. That was fun piece to write. 🙂 The commitment of this one-year daily blogging challenge is energizing and motivating. And my writing is becoming faster, easier, and more flowing. Previously I’d prefer to blog in the morning. I love the early morning hours and like to get up around 5am. But with the current Stature course launch happening (2 days left to go), my blogging time has shifted to later in the day sometimes, like starting at 9 or 10 pm or...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 7, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Creating Reality Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

Sculpting Your Character
Obviously you’ve been through a lot of character sculpting already. You started as a baby, and you’ve grown into the person you are today. But much of that sculpting process was done to you, such as by your family upbringing, the culture you were raised in, and the education you received. Up to a certain point, you were sculpted by the world. How well did the world do its job? How do you feel about your character’s values, behaviors, habits, identity, lifestyle, and overall place in the world? How pleased are you with your internal state of being? How delighted are you with the results that are curr...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 7, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Creating Reality Emotions Health Lifestyle Productivity Relationships Values character sculpting stature Source Type: blogs

Stature Has First 7 Lessons Published Now
The new Stature character sculpting course now has the first 7 lessons published in the portal. The first 4 lessons already have full transcripts available too. We’re co-creating this course with those who are enrolling now. So far 134 people have signed up for Stature. I’m sure a lot more will join on Tuesday and Wednesday since the 70% off launch week discount is good through Wednesday, January 8. Join us! Read Stature Has First 7 Lessons Published Now by Steve Pavlina (Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog)
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 7, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Stature at 109 Sign-ups and Climbing
I’ve been receiving some delightful feedback on our new Stature character building deep dive. Some people are already finding it transformational in just the first few lessons. So far 109 people have already signed up for it, with more still joining each day, so that’s great to see. 🙂 The current sign-up count is displayed at the top of the Stature page, so you can see how may more people have joined at any point during the launch week. Today I added a new lesson to the course called “Summon Your Power.” The launch discount (70% off) is good for 3 more days, through Wednesday, January...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 6, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Swinging the Pendulum
What if you think you need to maintain an old situation that you’re only tolerating for the secondary gains, and you don’t feel you can afford to quit immediately and lose those gains while you seek a better situation? For instance, what if you don’t think you can afford to quit your job and have no income coming in while you search for something better? Or what if you don’t feel you could leave a so-so relationship while you look for a more aligned partner? It will probably slow you down if you remain stuck in those situations, but it doesn’t have to derail your progress completely. ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 6, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Relationships Source Type: blogs

Impossible Invitations
Today I recorded and added a new 16-minute audio lesson to our current Stature deep dive called “Impossible Invitations.” It’s about those times when some greater power inside us invites us to step into a whole new level of experience, usually by nudging us to do something we don’t think we can handle yet. When these invitations happen, I have this sense of knowing or believing that I can accomplish something without logically seeing how it’s even possible. I may feel there isn’t enough time, or I lack the skills, or I don’t have the resources or support necessary to pull it off...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 5, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

Mental Models for Happiness and Results
The objective modeling approach also recognizes that the world has a say in our results, but it makes a huge, unprovable, and probably false assumption: that your world is the same as other people’s worlds. But what if that isn’t true? What if our worlds are different? Is your reality the same as mine? If not, then in order to be effective, objective models would need to acknowledge the differences between these worlds and provide some kind of translation matrix between them. And they usually don’t. Even when we look at people’s worlds from a purely objective standpoint, it’s hard to cal...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 3, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

The Universe ’ s Timing
The objective model looks okay on the surface, but the results are just deadsville when I try to achieve anything meaningful with it. So we did the Subjective Reality course, called Submersion, again in co-creative fashion but this time as a more introspective audio course of 60 lessons in 60 days. People loved that course, and more keep signing up for it. A few signed up for it today in fact. I feel awesome about it too as I really poured my heart into that one, and I think it shows. I felt super locked onto the inspired, creative, aligned energy I wanted to experience. I enjoyed the creative process immensely. It was ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 3, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

Stature Course Is Now Open for Enrollment
Good news – The new Stature character sculpting deep dive course is now open for enrollment. You’ll also find it listed on the Courses page and the Courses menu on this website. I plan to add an invitation video to the website tomorrow, so if you like those video invites from past courses, you may want to wait about 24 hours for that to be added. I like video for conveying the vibe of a course, while text is good for sharing the full details. The post-launch price of this course will be higher than our previous courses, mainly because it’s a weightier course, and it will take a genuine commitment...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 2, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Trust in Human Relationships
Imagine being in a relationship with a partner you don’t trust. Would you be able to have good clarity in such a relationship? If you don’t trust your partner, you won’t be able to trust that they’ll do what’s mutually beneficial for your relationship. This will make it harder to invest in your relationship. You’ll feel inclined to hold something back. You’ll feel a need to protect yourself against the risk of dishonesty, betrayal, harsh judgment, and so on. But the odd truth here is that if you knew for certain that you couldn’t trust your partner, you could still expe...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 1, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Relationships clarity trust Source Type: blogs

How Many Goals Should You Have?
How many goals should you have? How many is too many… or too few? Does it even make sense to ask this type of question? Suppose we try to come up with a decent number. We could say that the answer will depend on many factors: What types of goals you’re consideringHow accessible or inaccessible your goals areHow well your goals complement each otherThe time and energy you have to actively work on your goalsHow much resistance you’re likely to encounter as your pursue your goalsHow quickly you’re able to achieve your goals on averageHow much social support you have from other peopleHow much ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 31, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity goals purpose Source Type: blogs

Creating a More Action-Oriented Character
Do you ever feel that your character is too hesitant and self-censoring? Maybe you get an idea to take action or to share something, and then another voice pops in your head and talks you out of it. Perhaps you straddle the fence for a while, pondering whether it’s wiser to take action or hold back, and much of the time you hold back. Perhaps you start to take action and then undo or delete what you’ve done because of that voice chiming with objections like these: I don’t really need to share this.This isn’t important.Someone might not like what I have to say.What if I’m wrong?What if th...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 30, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Lifestyle Productivity Values action character sculpting Source Type: blogs

New Stature Launch Group on Facebook
Today we created a new Facebook group for the upcoming Stature course launch, which begins on January 1st. Everyone who’s interested in sculpting and improving their characters for the New Year is welcome to join now! Just visit the group, request to join, and we’ll approve you ASAP. You’re welcome to invite friends, colleagues, and anyone else to join as well – as long as they have a keen interest in personal growth. The intention is to make this launch more social and fun by providing a place where my blog readers, previous course participants, and other growth-oriented people can connect...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 30, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Investing in Your Core
Which investments in your education, skills, work, and lifestyle will be most valuable to you in the long run? A lot is going to change in the next 10 years for you, both personally and professionally. The problem is that you can’t accurately predict what will change and how it will change. This makes it difficult to know where to invest your time, energy, and money today. It’s hard to be sure what will pay off in the long run. But now consider what isn’t likely to change. What can you say about yourself, the world, and other people that will likely remain essentially the same 10 years from now? Wha...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 29, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Lifestyle Values bruce lee Source Type: blogs

Tidying Up Your Trust Clutter
I listened to Marie Kondo’s The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up audiobook this week. I know it’s a super popular book, but this is the first time I’ve checked it out. I liked it! It also strikes me that the way she relates to possessions would be an interesting way to handle trust wounds as well, as both can be resolved through a decluttering process. The problem with both areas that creates stuckness is that such a process isn’t usually done thoroughly enough to fully fix the recurring problem (recurring clutter or recurring trust wounds). Not doing a truly thorough, one-time tidying proces...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 28, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Relationships marie kondo tidying up trust Source Type: blogs

Becoming a Person of Stature
The word stature can mean your physical height, but here I’m more interested in a second definition. Your stature is the quality of character you’ve developed as a result of your achievements, experiences, and personal growth. I know this word may seem a bit old-fashioned to some, but there’s something I really like about it. You might think of stature as a reference to one’s social status, and it can be used in that way, but let’s focus on your own private, personal sense of stature first. How do you feel about the person you’ve become thus far? How do you feel about the quality o...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 27, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Values stature Source Type: blogs

365-Day Challenges
I shared a version of this post in the Conscious Growth Club forums and on my Facebook profile yesterday. Now I think it’s time to share it with my blog readers too, along with an additional update. I’m considering a 365-day challenge for 2020 that might be a little crazy – okay, a lot crazy – but could also create tons of extra ripples. I’m on the fence about doing this but currently am leaning towards it. The challenge would be to publish a new blog post every day of 2020, so 365 posts for the year. A post could be text, audio, or video. If it’s video then I’ll likely po...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 26, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Source Type: blogs

NPC to Player
Yesterday I shared a blog post about the 5 major characters transformations my readers want to experience as we transition from 2019 to 2020. After extracting those original 5 transformations, I pondered whether they could be compressed a bit further. Could they be summed up as a single transformation? Each time we compress, we lose some detail, so it’s not going to be perfect if we squish this down to a single transformation. But one answer that Rachelle and I came up with together is that the transformation is about shifting from NPC to player mode. Let me ‘splain. In a video game, an NPC is a non...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 25, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

5 Character Sculpting Transformations
Last month I asked my newsletter subscribers to share their biggest challenges and desires with respect to their current characters. This is because I’m working on a new character sculpting deep dive course (which will launch on January 1st, 2020), and I wanted to get clear about the real transformations that people want to experience. The questions helped people consider who they are now, who they desire to become, and the gap between those. In this post I’ll share what my readers said they wanted to improve about their characters (without revealing anything personal that people shared in confidence). I rec...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 25, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Values character sculpting Source Type: blogs

Little Luxuries
If you took all the money you spend on luxury lattes each year and saved it instead, you’d have a little bit more money but a less luxurious life. But you’d also risk getting more entrenched in a scarcity mindset because scaling back your lifestyle just to save a little extra money is mostly a waste of thought. You’re better off enjoying little luxuries when you can appreciate them. Instead of directing your mind to fuss over small expenses, focus that thought energy where you’ll get a more magnificent return, such as pretty much any area of life improvement that’s meaningful for you. T...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 28, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Source Type: blogs

Lessons From Ayahuasca
Last week I was in Costa Rica, engaging in four nights of ayahuasca ceremonies with a group of friends who invited me to share this experience with them. This was the first time I’ve taken ayahuasca. It’s illegal in the USA and most other countries, but it’s legal in Costa Rica. Taking ayahuasca four nights in a row was physically challenging – nausea, vomiting, dizziness, and more – but I gained many insights from the alternative perspectives it provided. I actually count last week among the most cherished weeks of my life. I’d like to record a video (or a few videos) to share the...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 13, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

Matchers and Mismatchers
Sometime during the 90s, I listened to an audio program that explained the differences between matchers and mismatchers.Matchers are “yes, and” people who see the upsides of an idea more prominently than the downsides. If you share a new idea with them, they’ll see how the idea could work and may offer suggestions for what else you could do to make it even better.Mismatchers are “wait, but” people who see the downsides of an idea more prominently than the upsides. If you share a new idea with them, they see what could go wrong and may point out the risks and drawbacks.I’m a matcher. I fi...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 21, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Deep Abundance Integration Ebook Volume 2 Published
Volume 2 of the Ebook version of the Deep Abundance Integration course is now published to that course’s portal. All DAI participants will find a link to this bonus on the course’s Gifts page, so you can download it now or read it online. It’s yours to keep.This new volume covers lessons 11-20 and is 144 pages. The previously published Volume 1 (added in June) covers lessons 1-10 and is 155 pages.The third and final volume covering lessons 21-30 is well underway and will be added to the portal when it’s ready.Turning an interactive video course into an ebook has been a real challenge. If we’d ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 17, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

15 Years of Blogging
Today (Oct 1) is my blog’s 15th birthday. I wrote my first post on Oct 1, 2004, starting with WordPress 1.0.Tomorrow (Oct 2) is the 10-year anniversary of our first 3-day workshop (the original Conscious Growth Workshop in Las Vegas). That’s also the day my wife Rachelle and I first met. Since then we’ve done 16 3-day workshops on a variety of different themes.I’ve really enjoyed this past decade. I’m especially glad I leaned into taking more trips, which comprise some of my fondest memories during this time period. Before 2009 I’d never traveled outside the USA. Now I do so pretty regul...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 1, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs