Philosophical Open Loops
Lately I’ve been thinking about how the concept of open loops (i.e. incomplete tasks and projects) connects with our models of reality. When we have holes and inconsistencies in our mental models, those models remain incomplete. It’s hard to act rationally when we lack a decent model of reality. How are you supposed to make intelligent decisions about your life when you’re not even clear about what kind of reality you’re in? I had to experience and reject various ways of modeling reality till I found an approach that felt more stable and reliable to me. My life flows better with my current mental...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 14, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

Personal Desires
As a follow-up to yesterday’s post on facing personal weaknesses, one step I took to deal with such weaknesses many years ago was to brainstorm a list of qualities I wanted to experience instead of those weaknesses. Here’s what I came up with back then: Confidence – holding a strong belief in my own self worth and my abilitiesCourage – the willingness to face any fear and conquer itPassion – love and zest for my life and my workGratitude – feeling grateful that I have so many gifts and blessingsWorthiness – feeling that I am a worthy person and that I deserve all my success b...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 13, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Emotions Productivity Values Source Type: blogs

Facing Personal Weaknesses
Years before I started blogging about personal development, I would often feel frustrated with my character. I struggled for many years trying to get myself to do what I felt I should be doing. One thing I did back then (which I recently found in some old files), was to create a list of what I perceived to be my personal weaknesses. This is what I came up with at the time: lack of self-disciplineprocrastinationavoiding difficult or tedious workpoor scheduling habitsexcessive socializingpoor time managementpoor task prioritization (working on the most important task to completion)lack of single-handling (sticking w...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 12, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Productivity Values Source Type: blogs

All 65 Stature Lessons Complete
Yesterday I finished creating and publishing all of the lessons for the co-creative Stature character sculpting deep dive. The full course is 16 hours and 20 minutes of audio, with the average lesson being 15 minutes. I wanted to keep the lessons for this course very focused and tight. There’s also a 138-page workbook to accompany the audio lessons, including a one-page summary for each lesson and exercises to apply each lesson. That’s complete as well. Additionally we have full text transcripts published for most of the lessons now, and the remainder will be done within the next several days. And n...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 11, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Lifestyle Productivity Values Source Type: blogs

Silence
In his autobiography Ben Franklin shared that one of his virtues was silence. He included this description: Speak not but what may benefit others or yourself. Avoid trifling conversation. Think about how much time and energy you could save by avoiding trifling conversation and communicating just for the benefit of others or yourself. I suppose this depends on how you define benefit. How beneficial is it to comment on what someone shares for the sake of commenting? So you connect for an extra second or two. How much does that matter? How much of your conversation will even be remembered the next day, let alon...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 10, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Relationships Values Source Type: blogs

Using Paper Tools
While digital tools can be nice for productivity because of their features, they also have many drawbacks: Digital tools tether you to using a digital device, which can be full of highly accessible distractions.Software still tends to be rigid, limited to the capabilities that are actually implemented by the developers.Software tools have a learning curve. The more tools you use, the more learning time you have to invest. For some software it could take a full day or longer just to become modestly productive with it.Software tools often drag you into dealing with upgrades, add-ons, and security and privacy issues.The mo...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 9, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

How Self-Development Protects You
We often think of self-development as a pursuit that builds positive capabilities such as courage, ambition, or a success mindset. And of course it can generate many positive results if we truly invest in it, such as loving relationships, a meaningful and lucrative career, and a rewarding lifestyle. But we can easily overlook just how beautifully self-development protects us from major problems in life, including serious but common problems that drag many people down for years, if not decades. Preventing Self-Destruction I originally got into self-development as a path away from self-destructive behavior when I wa...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 8, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

Daily Templates
I have long resisted making my life too structured and routine because I felt it would become too boring and monotonous, where each day is basically a repeat of the one before, and it feels like I’m trapped in the Groundhog Day universe. One solution I like is to use simple structural templates for how I flow through my days, and then I can just pick a template for each and follow it. For instance, if I want to create a course lesson and a blog post in a day, I can do those in either order. I just want to have both published by the end of the day. Some days I’ll write and publish the blog post first. Some da...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 7, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Finding Cuddle Partners
In Conscious Growth Club, there was a recent discussion about finding cuddle partners – i.e. someone to physically cuddle with when you want – so I thought I’d turn what I shared about this into a blog post with some tips on finding cuddle partners. Obviously this will be more useful when you’re not under a virus lockdown. 😉 Basically what I shared in CGC was a list of tips for increasing the chances of finding a cuddle partner. Here’s a refined version of that: Hang out with cuddle-friendly and touch-friendly people more often. Spend more time around the hugger types. This helps a lo...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 6, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Lifestyle Relationships Source Type: blogs

5G Coronavirus Conspiracies
Why do so many people seem to (mistakenly) think there’s a connection between the 5G rollout and the coronavirus, despite plenty of evidence to the contrary? In this case the evidence points to this originating from a Russian disinformation campaign much like we saw leading up to the 2016 election in the USA. The 5G one in particular has been very effective in duping many people and persuading them to spread the disinformation. Such campaigns breed distrust among citizens, which plays into Russia’s political advantage. Same goes for the anti-trust campaign related to “the media.” So the 5G hoa...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 5, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Health Source Type: blogs

Sprinkle Goals
I think of a sprinkle goal as being a token goal that’s added to a goal list to try to create better balance. It adds the impression of balance, but it doesn’t really connect with deeper meaning or purpose. Picture the sprinkles on top of a cupcake. They look nice, but they don’t really add much substance to the cupcake. And if you only have sprinkle goals, then you have no cupcake at all. You just have some colored sugar. Here are some examples of sprinkle goals: Read 10 booksExercise moreSpend time with my wife / husband / kidsConnect with my friends each weekSpend less time onlineMake a new so...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 4, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

New Goals Mandate New Behaviors
Tomorrow in Conscious Growth Club, we’re having our quarterly planning review call. This is a group video call where I review the quarterly goals that some members have shared in our forums, and I look for potential issues as well as noteworthy items to share with them. It’s similar to a code review, where one or more programmers look over another programmer’s code, looking for bugs or security flaws, calling out good practices, and noting areas for improvement. We all have blind spots, but our blind spots aren’t the same. Having a second pair of eyes to review your goals or plans can help spo...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 4, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Conscious Growth Club Will Open on April 27
In the last week of this month we’ll open Conscious Growth Club for new members. The last time we invited new members to join was in the last week of April 2019, so it’s been a year. I expect the overall structure of Conscious Growth Club, including the private member forums, member portal, coaching calls, quarterly planning sessions, course access, and monthly 30-day challenges to remain largely unchanged. I’m going to review all the features and benefits, decide what to add or tweak, and record a new invitation video for it, so that’s when I’ll share the exact offer details for the upcomi...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 2, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Relationships Source Type: blogs

Writing From the Void
Normally when I want to write a new blog post, I take a few minutes to tune into an idea, and then it begins to flow into writing. Getting an idea involves listening with my inner senses, as if I’m scanning some electromagnetic field for signal matches. When I discover a match, I can lock onto it, and then it’s rather easy to let the idea flow through into words. The idea comes through as energy that I perceive as oscillations in my thoughts, and it combines with memories and other knowledge as I write. So first I get an initial sense of the idea in my mind, but it’s really through the process of writi...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - April 1, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Collecting Memories
Instead of thinking of life as a series of goals or accomplishments, I also like to think of life as a collection of memories. I ponder what kinds of memories I’d like to add to that collection as I age. This helps me get past overly abstract goals and focus on the experiential nature of life. Sometimes achieving a goal is a great experience, but sometimes it can be a boring slog where only the end result matters. If we pay more attention to the experiences we’re accumulating and not just the achievements we’re ticking off, we can acquire better memories and feel more enjoyment from those memories. ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 31, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

Balancing Achievements and Experiences
In Conscious Growth Club, we’re going through our usual quarterly planning process now. This is a five-step process that we go through four times each year as we set goals for each new quarter. It starts by reviewing the previous quarter and seeing how we did, relative to the goals we set three months prior. One of my favorite parts of this process is reviewing the previous quarter and noting what actually got done. When I was younger, this type of review would often serve as a wake-up call regarding all the things I didn’t get done. These days it’s a nice way to remember the previous three months. In ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 31, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

Beverly Hills Rambo
Did you know that Eddie Murphy wasn’t the original choice the play the character of Axel Foley in the movie Beverly Hills Cop? That role was actually given to Sylvester Stallone, but he couldn’t get some of the comedic elements right, so Eddie Murphy was brought in to replace him. And did you know that Clint Eastwood wasn’t going to be the original Dirty Harry? Frank Sinatra was set to play that role. Unfortunately Sinatra broke his wrist and couldn’t lift the gun, so the role went to Eastwood instead. Why couldn’t Sinatra just shoot with his other hand? Who could forget Marty McFly from...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 29, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Values Source Type: blogs

Gentle Wake-up Calls
In February 2018 filmmaker Kevin Smith (aka “Silent Bob”) suffered a massive heart attack and underwent emergency surgery. He’s less than a year older than me, so he was only 47 at the time. Afterwards he switched to a vegan diet and dropped more than 50 pounds. In his latest film Jay and Silent Bob Reboot, he also made his character Silent Bob vegan and weaved that transformation into the plot. It’s great to see how much healthier and younger he looks now. Life gave him a major wake-up call, and he accepted the opportunity to make some real lifestyle changes. I’m glad he’s stickin...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 29, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

How to Cook Brown Rice in an Instant Pot
Here’s an updated version of my hugely popular How to Cook Brown Rice post from 2007, but this version is for people who have an Instant Pot. Here are the instructions: Add 2 cups brown rice to the Instant Pot. Don’t bother rinsing the rice since that’s just anti-starch propaganda.Add 2.5 cups water to the Instant Pot.Stir the water and rice for a few seconds to even out the surface of the rice. Just use a finger if no one is looking and if you’re not infected.Secure the lid onto the Instant Pot, making sure the steam valve is closed.Push the Manual button, and set the timer to 22 minutes by h...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 28, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Source Type: blogs

Fear Is Boring
In the months and years leading up to my bankruptcy in 1999, I was very resistant to going broke. I kept sinking further into debt year by year, and bankruptcy was becoming increasingly inevitable. I kept doing whatever I could think of to stave it off, including selling off lots of items and trying to stay afloat with fewer and fewer resources. Eventually there wasn’t much of a choice. I fell behind on paying many bills, and consequences started happening. Creditors began calling – eventually up to 10x per day. The daily mail filled up with past due notices and collection letters. I had to scramble to find ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 26, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Emotions Source Type: blogs

Digital Fringe Theater
Here’s a nice adaptation for taking theater online and creating an opportunity to support the artists. I love Fringe Festivals and have seen 200+ Fringe plays since 2010, mostly in Canada. Maybe I enjoyed it a little too much since I married one of the performers. 😉 From artist Chase Pajittles: Well #DigitalFringe is here! 10 Fringe shows you can watch on any screen whenever you want. Use the promo code Fringe50 to get 50% off! All proceeds go to the artists!This was a labor of love. I got to use my tech brain to help give other artists solid video of their live work and in the process maybe provide...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 25, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Is a Prediction an Intention?
If you predict what you expect to happen next in the world or in your life, does that mean that you’re also putting out an intention to make it so? Here’s how I like to frame this: A prediction is an acknowledgement and mental exploration of an existing offer. This could be an offer from reality, from other people, or from ourselves.An intention is an offer itself, which could be an existing offer; a counter-offer to an existing offer; or a fresh, new offer. When I make predictions about what reality might do next, such as I shared in yesterday’s article on finding comfort in predictions, I&rsquo...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 25, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

Finding Comfort in Predictions
On March 11 I wrote the following notes in my personal journal: The coronavirus is currently in outbreak mode around the world. There are 125,865 known infections worldwide, with almost 81K in China. In the USA there are already 1281 infections, 7 of them in Nevada. But that’s largely due to severe under-testing.I think the USA is in for a big reckoning, especially with Donald Trump being a complete idiot in his response to this, clearly caring more about the economy and his own self-interests than about people’s lives.The death rate of this virus seems to be about 3-4%, a lot deadlier than the flu. There&rs...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 24, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Health Source Type: blogs

Coronavirus Adaptations for Local Businesses
In Conscious Growth Club, we’ve been discussing the coronavirus situation since February 26, and our discussion thread called “Coronavirus preparation” is now up to 325 posts and still growing. Perhaps a half-dozen related threads have been started as well, as members are discussing topics like self-care in isolation, immunity boosting tips, and sharing updates on what’s happening in different countries. So we’ve had some visibility on it this sooner than most, which gave us a head start on mentally and emotionally preparing ourselves for it. Contrast this with various local businesses that...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 23, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Productivity Source Type: blogs

Trusting the Virus
In November when I did four days of ayahuasca ceremonies in Costa Rica, the first night was really rough. About an hour after drinking the tea, I started feeling very strange, and this feeling continued to intensify. My body began to feel really heavy, and after a while I felt like I was mostly paralyzed and could hardly move. I couldn’t sit or stand up. All I could do was lie down. It was reasonably cool in the room, but I was sweating profusely. Soon I started feeling like it was hard to breathe… like I wasn’t getting enough oxygen. I began to feel concerned. This was my first ever experience of thi...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 22, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Health Relationships Source Type: blogs

Feeling Grounded in the Midst of Spiraling Changes
As much as you’ve seen unfold this month already, this is still the early game for the virus, so there will be even more changes coming up quickly. The last 10 days of the month could be even bigger than the first 21. With so much uncertainty, how can you still feel grounded? Is that even possible? Or do you have to simply surrender to the feeling of being uprooted, knowing that it’s going to last for a while? I think it’s entirely possible to continue feeling grounded in this situation, but in order to do that, you have to ground yourself to something permanent – something that remains consta...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 22, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Emotions Relationships Source Type: blogs

Some Coronavirus Predictions
The USA is currently reporting 16,796 coronavirus cases. Based on the growth curve I’m seeing, I predict we’ll pass 100,000 cases in about 1 week. And I predict that we’ll pass 1,000,000 cases in about 2 weeks (from today). If we move to total countrywide lockdown immediately, we can slow this, and we must. Each day we wait is a huge mistake. Note that 1 week ago we were at 2247 cases, and 2 weeks ago we were at 319 cases. Where we are today is still early, early, early game for the virus. If we don’t lock down right away, we’re looking at tens of millions of infected within a month. ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 20, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

The Elephant and the Virus
With respect to the coronavirus pandemic, I am concerned about India. Given their population density and more than 1.3 billion residents, the virus situation there could soon make what’s happening in Italy and Spain look tame. Earlier this week India was reporting only 129 infections and 2 deaths. Today it’s at 249 cases and 5 deaths. While those numbers may seem ridiculously low relative to India’s population, they appear to be starting out much the same as any other country. While mathematical illiterates might dismiss these numbers as trivial, fortunately India’s Prime Minister and their Na...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 20, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Source Type: blogs

Virus vs Culture
Some people may be surprised to learn that most viruses don’t have much respect for the following: Optimism, blind or otherwiseFearlessnessMathematical illiteracyFeelingsOpinionsConspiraciesSpring breakJobsEconomicsLyingDenialIgnoranceIrrationalityInsultsPoliticsExcusesIncompetenceToilet paper abundance Relative to human beings, who may be compassionate and understanding about some of the above, the behavior of viruses could be considered by some to be borderline rude. For example, the recent coronavirus has shown a most unpleasant disregard for Italian culture and optimism, now claiming 3405 lives in Italy ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 20, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

The Stun Setting
Lately I’ve been feeling like we’re living through a particular Star Trek: The Next Generation episode. No, not “Contagion” – that’s about a computer virus. Not “Thine Own Self” either, but that’s a good guess. I’m thinking of “The Ensigns of Command.” That’s the episode where Data, the android character, must convince a bunch of stubborn colonists that they need to immediately pack up and leave the colony they worked so hard to build. The human colonists must leave because thanks to a treaty, the planet where they’ve built thei...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 18, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Health Values Source Type: blogs

All Vegas Casinos and Hotels Closed
Nevada Governor Steve Sisolak announced tonight that all Nevada casinos, hotels, and more businesses must close. So the Las Vegas Strip is effectively going dark. This also includes closing all bars, gyms, beauty salons, barber shops, malls, and restaurants that don’t do takeout and delivery. I’m glad he did this because while some casinos like Wynn and MGM Resorts properties announced that they were closing, others declared that they were going to stay open but with reduced operations – a huge mistake that would have only cost more lives. So I’m grateful that our Governor shut that down toda...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 18, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Fast Adaptation From a Fitness Studio
TruFusion is the local fitness studio that Rachelle and I joined a little over three weeks ago. We love the studio but stopped going to classes a week ago due to the virus situation, and they decided to shutter their locations not long after that. Today I got an email from them sharing that they’re already starting online classes on Wednesday. Now that’s fast! They provided members like me with a login and password to their website, and so far it lists 4 online classes starting tomorrow afternoon: 2 flow yoga classes and 2 pilates classes. The local studio was running up to 240 classes a week (65+ dif...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 18, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

Facebook Is Removing My Coronavirus Posts
I have to report that the coronavirus information and news posts that I’ve been sharing on Facebook have been getting removed by Facebook today. This includes several posts I’ve shared there from my blog, news items from other sources, and even reshares of other people’s posts. Other people have also been telling me that when they try to post links to my website articles, Facebook is now blocking them from doing so. I’ve been getting notifications like this one throughout the day there, informing me of the removals. When I click through, I see a notice claiming that a post was removed a...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 18, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Source Type: blogs

Immune-Boosting Meditation
Here’s a meditation and instructions from meditation expert and author Dawson Church to significantly boost your immune system and reduce cortisol levels. Do this daily for a week to double your immune response. Meditation starts at about 7:35. Read Immune-Boosting Meditation by Steve Pavlina (Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog)
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 17, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Source Type: blogs

To My Influencer and Marketer Friends
This is not remotely a “business as usual” situation. Please open your eyes to what’s happening. But more importantly, please open your heart to what’s about to happen. This isn’t a time to be working on your launches. This isn’t a time to work on your campaigns. The focus on business needs to be put on hold right now. We all have something much more important to work on right now. We have the leverage to greatly reduce a tremendous amount of suffering and loss of life that’s about to unfold. That this will happen is unfortunately inevitable, but we can absolutely have a mean...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 16, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Announcements Health Values Source Type: blogs

This Will Not Be Over Quickly
Italy provides a glimpse of what’s coming soon to the rest of Europe, the USA, and other parts of the world. Here’s what’s happening in the Italian city of Parma: The intensive care units are now all full. Hospital wards are spilling out into corridors, tents, car parks, gardens and commercial warehouses. We are hearing words – like “triage” – which are usually associated with warfare. Medics and nurses are having to make decisions on which patients to prioritise. Some doctors have died, and others have compared the numbers of admissions to dealing with “an earthquake e...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 15, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

We Need to Align With What ’ s Coming Next
We’ve seen a lot of changes in the world this week due to the coronavirus situation. I think what many people don’t yet realize is that the rate of change isn’t going to be linear. It’s going to accelerate. Despite all the changes you’ve seen this week, next week’s changes will be bigger still… and the changes coming the week after that will be even bigger. So if your head is spinning now, it will spin twice as hard next week. In the USA I see people making some adaptations, but they seem to be mentally making minimalist ones. By this I mean that they’re taking in what...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 15, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Values Source Type: blogs

When a Virus Derails Your Plans
This will be a quick add-on for the recent post on framing the coronavirus. Obviously this situation has derailed many people’s plans, some more than others. So how do you frame a situation like this where reality seriously derails your plans? First off, reality can do that, as it’s obviously demonstrating right now. This is true whether you use an objective or subjective framing. The simulation doesn’t have to obey your intentions. It has a mind of its own. This is why I like to view intentions and goals as offers to reality. Reality gets to respond in kind. It can accept my offers, reject my...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 14, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Relationships Source Type: blogs

The Opposite of Fear
Based on what I’ve been seeing regarding people’s reactions to the unfolding coronavirus situation, many seem to be trying to keep themselves out of fear mode. Instead of fear, they suggest to adopt a mode of thinking and being they typically describe with words like optimism or love. Stay positive. Don’t be afraid. Don’t panic. Turn towards love. Yet when you look at their responses and attitudes, what they’re really doing is one of more of these: Hoping that everything will be okayGuessingWaitingIgnoring or downplaying risksMaking claims based on mathematical ignoranceReposting d...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 13, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Values Source Type: blogs

Thoughts on LGBTQ
People who know me well won’t likely see any surprises here, but I don’t think I’ve done a good enough job of clearly sharing certain values publicly, so I’d like to correct this now. I’m pro-LGBTQ rights. I think LGBTQ people should have the same rights as anyone else, and I don’t think they should be discriminated against. I feel this should be a worldwide right, not a local issue. I think everyone should be free to marry whomever they want. Truth be told, I’m even in favor of poly marriages that include more than two people. I think people should be free to choose their...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 11, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Relationships Values Source Type: blogs

How to Frame the Coronavirus
At the individual level, you have many options for how to frame the coronavirus situation. You could continue to see it as some meaningless objective event, remaining detached from assigning any meaning to it. It just is. A virus is simply doing what a virus does. And people are reacting to it as people do. It has no special personal meaning for you. Or you could see it as some kind of spiritual sign with a very personal meaning for you. Or you could see it as a subjective reality event within your simulation, in which case it could have personal meaning as a form of communication from the simulator. Within that s...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 11, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Health Source Type: blogs

This Isn ’ t January ’ s Reality Anymore
The latest news in the world reminds me of this scene from Airplane 2, when a host of problems culminates in panic. Today the we have the coronavirus spreading rapidly, the stock market plummeting to the point that trading was halted, and the usual sexist egotistical lying hypocritical bigot making it all worse. These are uncertain times. It’s hard to predict what the world will be like a few months from now, but people are getting the sense that big changes have occurred and will continue to mount, whether fueled by rational responses to real problems or otherwise. It feels like we’re living in a d...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 9, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

Reducing Mental Effort – Part 7
Our series on reducing mental effort continues. This is the final piece in the series. Reduce decision fatigue Consider how many times you may ask yourself questions like these during a typical week: What should I do now?What should I eat?What should I wear?Do I feel like exercising today?What should I watch now?Should I go out or stay in? Even if you don’t ask that question consciously, your subconscious mind still has to address it. Or do you ever have thoughts like these come up? I should go shopping soon.I really ought to do laundry.I should catch up on emails.I need to remember to pay my bills ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 8, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Reducing Mental Effort – Part 6
Our series on reducing mental effort continues. Do less One often overlooked way to reduce mental effort is simply to do less. Pull back from obligations. Decline invitations. Withdraw from projects till your plate is less full. Working with a very full plate can be stimulating, but it’s best as a short-term condition. In the long run, it’s great to have excess capacity, especially for developing fresh creative ideas, investing in some long-term projects that will never be urgent, and rejuvenating yourself. When everything on your plate becomes a have-to, especially when there’s constant urgen...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 7, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Reducing Mental Effort – Part 5
Our series on reducing mental effort continues. Minimize context switching During a normal workday, it’s easy to begin new tasks without fully finishing previous tasks. Sometimes we do this for the sake of variety, but this can be a very inefficient approach. Each time you switch contexts, your mind has to release the previous context and load in a new context. Think of a context as all of the key ideas that link with the task at hand. It often takes 15-30 minutes to load in a new context well enough to feel like you’re in the flow of good productivity. Before you’ve loaded the relevant contex...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 7, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Reducing Mental Effort – Part 4
Our series on reducing mental effort continues. Solve problems fully Incompletes and stress go hand-in-hand. When we’re stressed, we often want to race to the end of a project or task and call it done when it’s really 90% or 95% of the way to done. But even 99% done isn’t actually done. Some projects – like Disneyland – are never fully done because they’re ongoing and always evolving. But other projects like writing and publishing an ebook can be fully completed. And of course there’s a gray area in the middle with some projects having a reasonably well-defined completion ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 5, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Reducing Mental Effort – Part 3
Our series on reducing mental effort continues. Pre-process distractions What do you do when you’re distracted by emotions or other circular thoughts, and you can’t be very productive? Some people say to just push through and do your work anyway. I’ve tried this and found that it hasn’t worked well for me. I can work a bit, but if my mind keeps dwelling on something else, I’m certainly not working at full engagement. But nor do I like taking a full day just to deal with emotional processing. So here’s a good solution: Devote a modest amount of time to pre-process whatever is ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 5, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Reducing Mental Effort – Part 2
We continue the series on reducing mental effort. Distracting thoughts are a major source of wasted mental energy, so in this part we’ll cover a few ways to reduce internal distractions. Empty your head One reason we dwell on certain thoughts is that we’re trying to remember certain to-dos, ideas, and items that require deeper consideration. Refreshing these items in our minds sucks up extra neural energy and doesn’t necessarily move much towards completion. If your brain is using its working memory to continually bring up distracting thoughts, you can often free up extra processing power by a...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 3, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Source Type: blogs

Reducing Mental Effort – Part 1
Cognitive load is the mental effort required to complete a task or project. If you can reduce the average cognitive load of your days, your days will feel easier and less stressful, you can get more done, and you can end your days feeling less fatigued. You’ll also have extra mental resources to apply to your most difficult tasks. Moreover, with a lower cognitive burden from your routine tasks, you’ll gain some excess mental capacity, which you can use to set and pursue more ambitious goals or tackle major transitions. When your cognitive load is high, it’s difficult to add more to your plate wit...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 2, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Productivity Source Type: blogs

Side Quests
In yesterday’s article about different types of quests, I defined side quests like this: A side quest is an optional side project that doesn’t directly support your main quest, but completing a side quest could make it a little easier to tackle your main quest or a subquest, such as by building up your skills or gaining additional resources.In a game a side quest may involve doing a favor for a townsperson to earn some extra gold, weapons, or items, none of which you actually need to complete the main quest. I want to delve into the value of side quests a bit more here. A side quest fits somewhere betw...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 1, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs