10 Songs That Make People Happy
Inc. Magazine shared a recent article about 10 songs that make people happy, based on some findings by a neuroscientist several years ago. I don’t normally find Inc’s articles worthwhile because they publish so many fluffy clickbait pieces (often padding out one minor quote from Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet, or Jeff Bezos into a whole article). But I can say that Rachelle and I listened to several of the songs on this list last night while making dinner, and we did feel happier. Here are the songs (also available on a Spotify playlist): Don’t Stop Me Now by QueenDancing Queen by AbbaGood Vi...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 13, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Source Type: blogs

NaNoWriMo – Days 6-12
I just finished my 12th day of novel writing for NaNoWriMo. Since I started on November 1st, my novel has grown from 0 to 21,087 words. I’ve written 17 scenes so far, so I’m averaging 1240 words per scene. While I had some aspects figured out before I began, I’m mostly pantsing it as I go. I’m not writing the scenes in order, preferring to jump around a lot. So far I’ve written 4 scenes for Act 1, 10 scenes for Act 2, and 3 scenes for Act 3. Words Are Cheap I can usually write a draft of one scene in 30-60 minutes, depending on how long it is. Since it doesn’t take much inves...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 13, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

Will AI Make You an Addict?
The novel I’m writing is set in the future, tentatively in the year 2047, so it’s roughly one human generation ahead of us. For technology, however, that’s many generations ahead. Consider that the first iPhone shipped in 2007 (13 years ago). If you got an iPhone 4S when it first came out, that was 9 years ago, and the 5S was 7 years ago. The iPad is 10.5 years old. The Apple Watch is 5.5 years old. Look back 27 years to 1993. Back then I was using a 486DX 50mhz computer with a 250MB hard drive. I think it was about $2500 when I bought it. I did some contract programming for a local game develope...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 11, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

Is the Republican Brand Dying?
There’s a lot of talk about how supporting Trump may take down the Republican party. Perhaps that remains to be seen, but I wanted to do a little test within my own mind to see what I associate to each of these terms today, at least from a branding perspective. I was curious how the past four years may have influenced what I associate with the word Republican. Before Trump came onto the political scene, I tended to regard Republicans as mostly harmless but also patriotic, religious, and moralistic. I had plenty of friends who identified as Republican, and I found it easy to relate to them. Our interactions were pl...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 10, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Values Source Type: blogs

Sensitivity to Lying
Some people have a high tolerance for lying and falsehood. They can hang out around others who frequently share false information, deliberately or from ignorance, and it doesn’t seem to bother them. Either they don’t notice the falsehoods, or they aren’t much affected when they do notice. I’m not one of those people. I used to be though. When I was younger I could hang around people who spewed nonsense left and right and be okay with it. That’s basically how I grew up, being taught lots of false religious ideas about how the world worked, only later to realize it was a pack of lies. But ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 9, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Emotions Health Relationships Source Type: blogs

Does the USA Need to Heal Now?
In my extended social circle, some people are calling for unity and healing now that Joe Biden will be the next President. Others aren’t so sure that healing is really what’s needed. The offer basically sounds like this: It’s time to repair the wounded relationships between the people who supported a lying, racist sociopath path for President and those who wanted to replace him. That’s a crappy offer. It doesn’t land well. The most airy-fairy people I know seem to be swallowing it and trying to invite people into some awkward reconciliation phase, but most seem to be declining this of...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 8, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Relationships Values Source Type: blogs

One-Minute Relationship Challenges
While you can do lots of different 30-day challenges solo, consider that you can also do them with a relationship partner. Rachelle and I often do 30-day challenges together, especially with other Conscious Growth Club members. This month we’re doing NaNoWriMo together, so we’re each writing novels by chipping away at the word count day by day. For another type of partner challenge, consider doing one specifically to connect with your partner in some pleasant way – emotionally, physically, romantically, etc. I suggest that you make it a super easy commitment – just one minute per day. Anyone can fi...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 8, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Relationships Source Type: blogs

NaNoWriMo – Days 4-5
Here are my latest progress updates for my novel: Day 4 I had a very pleasant writing session on this day, now at 6872 words total. I’m starting to enjoy this more as the scenes are coming together, and I’m getting more familiar with the key characters. I spent some time organizing the manuscript scene structure before I wrote any scenes this time. I created placeholders for the remaining signpost scenes, found a cleaner way to arrange my existing notes, and did a little more journaling with my characters. In general I find that journaling with my characters and asking them what we ought to write today is a...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 6, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

Here ’ s Why Nevada ’ s Ballot Counting Is So Slow
So lots of people are asking: Why is the counting so slow in Nevada? I’ve lived in Nevada since 2004, so I was curious about this too. You’d think the home of Las Vegas would be superb at counting – money at least – and the population of the state is only about 3 million… so what gives? Last I checked the count has been stalled at this: 588,252 votes for Biden580,605 votes for Trump So that’s only 7647 votes difference. And the state has a lot of mail-in ballots still to count. One reason is that any ballots postmarked by November 3rd and received by November 10th are legally valid h...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 5, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Values Source Type: blogs

Obedience Test Results
Four days ago I posted a simple obedience test. I’m still getting more responses each day, but it looks like the patterns have become clear enough to share what I’ve learned thus far. The basic idea was that I commanded people who read that post to read 5 more articles from my website on that same day and then to send me feedback about their experience. They could choose to obey the command or not. Why the Obedience Test? It was a simple idea that popped into my mind at the time, and I opted to run with it. That’s likely because I’ve been thinking about the theme of obedience lately. Much o...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 4, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Relationships Values Source Type: blogs

NaNoWriMo – Day 2
On Day 2 of NaNoWriMo, I wrote 1743 more words, so I’m at 3439 words for my novel so far. Today I’ll pass 5K words. While the challenge is technically to write 50K words in 30 days, I’m framing it as a daily commitment to write at least 1667 words per day. So I’ll surely end up with more than 50K words by the end. My approach is less flexible since I won’t be taking any days off, nor will I reduce the daily quota based on my ongoing word count. It’s easier for me this way since I’ll never let myself fall behind, so I’ll avoid the trap of having to write thousands of extra ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 3, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

NaNoWriMo – Day 1
I did my first day of NaNoWriMo yesterday, writing the first 1696 words of a new novel – basically one full scene from start to finish. It took an hour with a 10-min break in the middle, so it was 50 minutes of writing time. And oh it’s bad – so hideously bad – but it’s a start. It introduces a couple of characters, including the protagonist, sets up the theme, and has a bunch of dialog, but as far as fiction writing goes, it needs a lot of work. I made some editing notes too, just to jot down some changes and improvements that popped into my mind along the way. I put those in a different section of the doc...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 2, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

Starting NaNoWriMo
NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) begins today, and this is the first year I’m participating. Shortly after posting this, I’m kicking off a 30-day challenge to write at least 50,000 words of a novel this month, which works out to 1667 words per day. Here’s how I’m framing it: I’ve never written a novel before, and I’ve always wanted to. It’s something I want to add to my life resumé. While I could do this entirely on my own, it’s more fun and engaging to ride along with the energy of NaNoWriMo. I’ve thought about doing this for many past Novembers, and the ye...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 1, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

A Simple Obedience Test
I want to try a little experiment today regarding something I’m curious about. This test is valid on whatever day you read this post, not just on the day I originally publish it. This is a simple obedience test. I’m going to command you to do something – just a simple command with no extra reward or punishment – and I just want to see if you do it. The only reason to do it is because you choose to obey the command I’m going to give you. This is a test with just two core options. Either you obey the command, or you don’t. Let’s see what you end up doing. Here it is: I command yo...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 31, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

My 2020 Election Prediction
Here’s my prediction for the U.S. election, which is just 4 days away… and also some predictions for what I think will happen in the months after that. I expect that Biden is going to win by a landslide and that it’s not even going to be close. Yes, Trump and the Republicans will continue doing their best to suppress the vote, especially in the swing states, but I don’t think it’s going to make enough of a difference to change the election outcome. The fact that they’re doing this at such an unprecedented scale is a sign of incredible desperation. Even with such overt attempts to c...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 30, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Values Source Type: blogs