When You ’ re Right and Everyone Else Is Wrong
What kind of relationship do you have with the judgmental and righteous part of yourself? Some people may not know or acknowledge that you’re right, but you’re convinced of it. On the outside you may have a calibration issue in terms of how much of your righteousness to share and express with the world. You can behave in a more humble way and keep those thoughts to yourself. Or you can promote your viewpoint and let people have their reactions. But here I invite you to focus on your inner relationship with your righteousness. How do you relate to this part of you on the inside? What is it like to be...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 11, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Relationships Values Source Type: blogs

What Is a Spiritual Perspective?
A spiritual perspective on some area of life asks questions like these: What is my current relationship with this part of life?How would I like my relationship with this part of life to be? If you remove the physicality from life, what remains is energy. But energy alone is meaningless. What brings meaning to different energy patterns is how you relate to those patterns. So these questions can pop you up to a spiritual perspective by helping you focus on the relationship you’re experiencing with any aspect of life. The spiritual perspective is the lens that gives you clarity about how you relate to different...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 10, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Creating Reality Emotions Relationships Source Type: blogs

Being a Source of Pleasure
To extend the topic of yesterday’s article on your relationship with pleasure, let’s flip that idea around and consider what it’s like for someone else to relate to you on the basis of pleasure. How do you feel about playing the role of being a source of pleasure for someone else? Such a relationship can be corrupted by weaving in manipulation, lying, abuse, victimization, etc. And just as with yesterday’s article, I encourage you to set aside those aspects because they aren’t endemic to pleasure-based connections. Is it possible to connect with someone simply on the basis of giving a...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 9, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Relationships Source Type: blogs

Your Relationship With Pleasure
What is your relationship with pleasure like? Do you experience and enjoy pleasure when you’re in the mood for it? Do you have an addictive relationship with it? Do you have an on-again, off-again relationship with it? Does your relationship with pleasure feel healthy, supportive, and fun? Is your relationship with pleasure simple or complex? Here’s one of more interesting questions to ask yourself: Do you trust pleasure? And here’s another meaningful question: What kind of relationship would you like to have with pleasure? Pleasure is just pleasure. In its simplest form, it ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 8, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Health Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

The Spiritual Purpose of a Relationship
Each relationship that you’ve had, whether short-term or long-term, can be interpreted through the lens of spiritual purpose. Why are you and your partner in each other’s lives? What are you here to do for each other spiritually? I’d learned of this concept during my 20s but just in a very limited way. The idea was that we’re all spiritual teachers for each other. A relationship is supposedly a spiritual growth experience. I think that framing held me back because it doesn’t fully encompass what’s possible. My first marriage to Erin did seem to have that purpose of being co-t...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 7, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Relationships Source Type: blogs

Is Manifesting a Physical Skill, a Mental Skill, or a Spiritual Skill?
People often frame their manifesting skills as something spiritual, mental, or a combination of the two. Manifesting is often treated as something akin to prayer. Ask the universe for what you desire, and hopefully you’ll receive it. But what if manifesting is actually a physical skill in disguise? Other mental skills, including reading, writing, speaking, and solving math problems, are actually physical skills too. Your physical brain implements these skills on your neural hardware. If your brain is damaged in certain ways, you could lose some of your mental skills. We often overlook the connection between ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 6, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Creating Reality Health Source Type: blogs

Goals of Being
Many years ago one of my goals for public speaking was to design and deliver my own three-day workshop on the Las Vegas Strip. I first achieved that goal in 2009. That was a goal of doing. Another goal I had for public speaking was to develop such strong comfort with public speaking that I could feel fully present in front of an audience, so I could be spontaneous and in the moment and not feel anxiety or nervousness – just enjoyment, fun, playfulness, and connection. I achieved that goal somewhere along the way. I demonstrated it at the three-day 2015 Conscious Heart Workshop, delivered spontaneously with lots of fun...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 5, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Emotions Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

Making Unpopular Decisions
If you’re committed to learning and growing, you’ll need to get used to making decisions that others disagree with. It’s inevitable that you’ll eventually face decisions that are opposed by some social resistance. Maybe you’d love to pursue the path of entrepreneurship, but your family thinks it’s a bad idea. Maybe you’d like to upgrade your diet, but your friends keep trying to talk you out of it. Maybe you’d like to explore an open relationship, but your partner keeps nudging you away from that. If you’re in a situation like this, you’re not alone. T...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 4, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Relationships Source Type: blogs

Pondering a 365-Day Challenge for 2021
Are you thinking about doing a 365-day challenge for 2021? I’m already thinking about doing another one. I still have 4 weeks left on my 2020 daily blogging challenge, which actually started on December 24, 2019. It feels like an easy coast to the finish line after blogging for 345 days in a row. Doing something every day for a year can be transformational, even if you stop after that year, because it creates an empowering reference experience. You gain a memory of achievement that you’ll have for the rest of your life. Knowing that you can do something every day for a year helps you nuke any future exc...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 3, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Lifestyle Source Type: blogs

Your Exploration Baseline
When you explore something new, you’re exploring relative to a previous baseline. When you explore a new diet, your baseline is your previous way of eating. When you explore a new travel-rich lifestyle, your baseline is your previous stay-at-home lifestyle. When you explore a new relationship and you weren’t in a relationship right before, your baseline is being single. Your default baseline is your normal, usual, routine, or expected experience in that particular area of life. Your baseline is your status quo. But does that have to be your baseline? If exploration is relative to your baseline...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 2, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Health Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

Expansion Through Constriction
Some people assume that when constraints are imposed upon their lives, they have fewer possibilities, and therefore life becomes more limiting. This isn’t actually true though. In each case you probably still have a ridiculously high number of possible choices, way more than you could seriously consider, let alone act upon. So for all practical purposes, you’re still dealing with infinities. If you have infinite possibilities and eliminate 50%, 90%, or even 99% of your options, you still have infinite possibilities remaining. So when COVID locks you down… or when you’re running low on mo...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 1, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Creating Reality Source Type: blogs

NaNoWriMo – Day 30
Today is the final day of NaNoWriMo. I added about 2000 more words to my novel-in-progress this morning. My final word count for the month came in at 55,051 words. The challenge of NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) is to write 50,000 words of a new novel in 30 days, so I exceeded this target by about 10%. Here’s my daily progress log, showing my total word count (darker color) versus the daily pacing needed to hit 50K words (lighter color). I surpassed the target pacing by a small amount on Day 1 and then padded my lead every day afterwards. It felt good to always be a little bit ahead throughout the cha...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 30, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Abundance Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs

NaNoWriMo – Days 24-29
I crossed the 50K-word NaNoWriMo finish line yesterday morning, writing 51,262 words in 28 days, so I achieved this goal 2 days ahead of schedule. When I updated my word count yesterday, I received a congratulatory video, a bunch of links to claim the NaNoWriMo “prizes” (discounted promotions for various writer tools and services), and this completion certificate. The way I framed this goal, however, was to add at least 1667 words per day to the novel for the full 30 days, so I didn’t stop after 28 days. After this morning’s writing session (Day 29), the novel is at 53,007 words. So tomorr...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 29, 2020 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Lifestyle Productivity Source Type: blogs