Prime Your Brain for a Permanent Performance Gain (in a Few Minutes)
Inside your skull is a massive supercomputer. You own it free and clear. With its 100 billion neurons, and with a typical neuron linking to 1000 to 10,000 other neurons, your highly networked brain is incredibly powerful and capable. Pick up a simple object nearby like a pen or a spoon, and look at it. Turn it upside down. Spin it around. Notice that your brain is able to recognize the object no matter how you position it. You can change the lighting by putting the object in shadow. You can obscure part of it from view. You can bend or break it. And your brain still recognizes that object simply and easily. Even a child ca...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 24, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Goals & Goal Setting Intention & Manifestation Motivation Personal Development Problem Solving Productivity Source Type: blogs

Disruptive Innovation
I must admit that I enjoy seeing the disruptive ripples that the Internet inflicts upon traditional business models. The old models do their best to fight to survive. For example, New Jersey recently banned Tesla from selling its cars in the state, mainly so the state’s inefficient auto dealerships won’t have to compete with Tesla’s direct sales model. New Jersey is the fifth state to ban Tesla sales so far. Two other states also severely restrict Tesla sales, and at least two more have pending legislation along these lines. Tesla stirred up a hornet’s nest of resistance. I remember walking int...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 15, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Career & Work Courage & Fear Personal Development Technology Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

Let’s Go Skydiving!
Sometimes I’m asked what drives me most, what inspires me to take action. My answer is curiosity. I’m curious about a great many things. I love to learn experientially most of all. Here’s a list of some things I’ve explored in my life thus far (in no particular order): 30 days of continuous travel 35 days of continuous travel 3 months of comedy improv lessons and two live performances 6 years of Toastmasters (dozens of speeches) competing in several speech contests traveling and speaking internationally 2 years serving as an officer of a non-profit corporation (including CEO) 4 years membership in ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 12, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Goals & Goal Setting Intention & Manifestation Motivation Travel Source Type: blogs

Business Is a Social Game
If you want to be an effective entrepreneur, I’d say you should have at least 10 good friends who are already successful entrepreneurs. If that sounds like a lot to you, I’d say that something is very wrong with your mindset. Few entrepreneurs succeed in isolation. Business is a social game. I’d estimate that about half of the money I’ve made in business (and in my life overall) actually came from other businesses. The other half would be directly from consumers. That includes my computer games business. For my personal development business, a lot more of my revenue has come from other businesses. W...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - March 3, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Business Career & Work Entrepreneurship Passive Income Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

Be an Apprentice for 5 Months
If the following four items apply to you, then you might appreciate this post, which is about a special coaching program. Otherwise, if you don’t qualify for all four, there’s no need to read the rest. You’d rather be self-employed than work for someone else. You recognize that you could significantly increase your income by improving your focus and efficiency. You care about following your path with a heart, so it’s important that you earn your money through meaningful, purpose-driven work that has a positive impact on people’s lives. You’re ready to invest in coaching from an experien...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - February 27, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Business Career & Work Entrepreneurship Passive Income Success Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

How to Build a Strong Work Ethic
There is no fatigue so wearisome as that which comes from lack of work. – Charles Spurgeon If you’ve been stuck in a lazy rut lately, here are some suggestions to get yourself working productively. 1. Accept that many results require hard work. Remind yourself of the simple causality chain from decision to action to results. That middle phase is where most of the work is. If you have no willingness to ever work your ass off, if you have such resistance to the very notion of pushing yourself, if you have an overdeveloped sense of entitlement that all the goodness of life should flow to you with effortless ease, ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - February 24, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Career & Work Getting Things Done Goals & Goal Setting Intention & Manifestation Productivity Self-Discipline Success Time Management Source Type: blogs

Conserving Mental Energy
In a Vanity Fair profile piece from 2012, writer Michael Lewis shared some of President Obama’s productivity habits. One of those habits involved routinizing mundane daily decisions. Since Obama has to make many difficult high-level decisions each day, he doesn’t want to waste his mental energy on smaller decisions. So he puts the mundane choices on autopilot. For instance, the article states that Obama only wears blue and gray suits. He keeps his wardrobe choices simple, so he doesn’t bleed off mental energy fussing over what to wear. Obama follows the same structured daily routine when he’s in the...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - February 19, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Getting Things Done Problem Solving Productivity Time Management Source Type: blogs

Speed Up!
Don’t use the “enjoy the process” mantra to justify slogging along even more slowly and watching your goals die. It’s a huge limiting belief to assume that going faster means you’re doing something wrong and creating too much stress. Making goals happen faster is often a LOT more fun. Fast tempo is HOW you enjoy the process. And some goals cannot be achieved slowly at all, so in many cases faster means success while slower means failure. If going faster makes the process of achieving your goals less enjoyable for you, you’ve probably chosen the wrong goals to begin with. If you don&rsquo...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - February 17, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Getting Things Done Goals & Goal Setting Motivation Passion Personal Development Productivity Success Time Management Source Type: blogs

10 Reasons You Should (Maybe) Get a Job
1. You’re stupid. 2. You’re desperate. 3. You’re hungry. 4. You’re scared. 5. You’re unimaginative. 6. You’re brainwashed. 7. You’re a people pleaser. 8. You love taxes. 9. You’re 30 and living with your parents. 10. You’ve earned a degree in student debt. Or you could skip the job and change the world instead. Steve Recommends Abundance for Life Mindfest - FREE online event from Dr. Paul Scheele Site Build It! - Start your own money-making website Lefkoe Method - Eliminate a limiting belief in 20 minutes PhotoReading - Read books 3 times faster (discount for my ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - February 13, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Career & Work Source Type: blogs

Free Business Coaching for Lightworker Entrepreneurs
If you’re interested in starting and growing a lightworker-style business where you get paid to create positive ripples in the world, here are some free resources from top business coach Ryan Eliason to get you off to a strong start. First, Ryan’s new ebook The 10 Best Ways To Get Paid for Changing The World is now available for free. Go download it here: The 10 Best Ways To Get Paid for Changing The World How To Make A Lucrative Career Out of Profound Service Second, Ryan released a new Mind Map today to help you improve your business strategy, so you can focus on the right things while letting go of...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - February 10, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Business Career & Work Entrepreneurship Passive Income Success Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

Clarity
If a lack of clarity prevents you from taking action, then find or develop a process to gain sufficient clarity to act. Stop acting like this is an unsolvable problem. It isn’t. One basic method begins with writing a mission statement that encapsulates the core purpose of your life. Mission Statement Your mission statement is your proposed contract with life. It basically answers two questions: What do you want to contribute? What do you want to receive? I recently updated my company’s mission statement. Here’s the current version. Pavlina’s mission is: to explore, clarify, and elegantly codify c...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - February 5, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Goals & Goal Setting Motivation Planning Productivity Self-Discipline Success Time Management Source Type: blogs

Free Training – Get Paid to Change the World
Is it possible to build a business that serves the greater good AND earns good money at the same time? Of course it’s possible. I’ve been doing it for many years, and many of my friends — and readers — are in the same boat. We love the idea of making the world a better place, and we enjoy an abundant lifestyle as well. Some people feel these goals are at odds with each other. If you feel that way too, go ahead and try the either-or mindset for a few years, and see how it works for you. But if you’d rather do some good in the world and enjoy the process — if you think it’s possible ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 28, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Business Career & Work Entrepreneurship Passive Income Productivity Success Time Management Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

Your Uncommon Diet Is a Social Advantage
I find it ironic (and mildly stupid) when people feel they’re at a social disadvantage if they eat differently from everyone else in a social situation, as if they have to conform to fit in. No, conformity puts you at an enormous social disadvantage. Being different is a godsend. Eating differently can enhance your social life tremendously. As a 17-year vegan and occasional raw foodist (I’m eating all raw this month), I know that eating differently from everyone else puts me at a huge social advantage. It makes people curious, and that frequently slides us into a conversation about food choices. That by itself ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 4, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Health Relationships Source Type: blogs

Trello
I’ve been really diving into Trello this week, which I mentioned in my December 2013 Updates post. I now have 17 different Trello boards for managing various projects. You know me — when I get into something new, I love to fully immerse myself in it. Best way to learn quickly. More than 100 people have signed up for Trello based on my recommendation in the past few days, and I’m sure hundreds more will sign up soon, so I’ll share a bit more about how I’m using it. I don’t get paid for referrals since it’s a free service, but I can see how many people sign up via my referral link. ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 2, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Getting Things Done Goals & Goal Setting Planning Productivity Time Management Source Type: blogs

2014 Explorations
As one year ends and another begins, I often like to reflect back on the past year’s lessons and begin the new year with some clarity about what I’d like to explore next. The 2013 year was an amazing one for me, filled with many wonderful growth experiences. Indeed it was one of the best years of my life. I could be quite happy if all I did was have another year like that. I think what made 2013 so great was that I put a lot of energy into improving my relationships and lifestyle. I loosened up on advance planning and opened doors without knowing where they’d lead. For instance, I went to Europe twice in ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - January 2, 2014 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Goals & Goal Setting Personal Development Relationships Source Type: blogs

December 2013 Updates
Here are some updates and announcements to polish off 2013. This past year was one of my best ever in terms of personal growth and lifestyle enjoyment, so I’m in a pretty bouncy mood as I share this… SBI Buy One Get One Free Special – Extended Through January 6, 2014 In case you didn’t notice, Site Build-It extended their 2-for-1 deal until midnight on January 6th, so if you thought you’d missed it, you still have one more week to take advantage of it. SBI is a service that helps you create an online business, and they’re very good at what they do. I’ve been recommending...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 31, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Business Career & Work Entrepreneurship General Goals & Goal Setting Passive Income Personal Development Relationships Success Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

Never Put Profits First
Most ideas I learned from business books were useless. The rest were downright harmful. Intuition and experimentation have been the best guides. The #1 assumption business books tend to make is that the purpose of running a business is to earn and increase profits. Some books really hammer on this point, as if you’re an idiot for disagreeing. I found my decisions and results to be the most idiotic when I bought into that model. I just thumbed through such a book yesterday that someone had sent me in the mail. That book is now in the recycle bin. It will serve a greater purpose as a cardboard box, which is far healthi...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 21, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Business Career & Work Entrepreneurship Success Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

4D Relationships
For the past several months, I’ve been putting a lot of time and energy into exploring 3D relationships with men and women as well as 4D relationships with women. These terms are defined on my Meeting in Person page. As a quick summary… in our human relationships we have 4 basic ways of connecting with each other: physically (body) mentally (mind) emotionally (heart) purposefully (spirit) A 3D connection means that we’re connecting strongly in 3 of these areas. A 4D connection means we’re connecting in all 4 aspects. Holistic Connections A 4D relationship is more than just the sum of its parts be...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 19, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Passion Purpose Relationships Spirituality Source Type: blogs

Resting in Discomfort
At Rich Litvin’s coaching workshop that I attended earlier this month (partly to speak there and partly to learn), Rich talked about how he handles coaching situations where he doesn’t know what to say next. He said that when he doesn’t know what to say to a client, he pauses and says nothing. Rich pointed out that this definitely feels uncomfortable, but instead of trying to escape that discomfort and regain a sense of control and certainty, it’s okay to simply rest in that discomfort and allow it to be there. Eventually new insights and ideas will come through, and either the coach or the client c...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 17, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Public Speaking Relationships Source Type: blogs

Coaching Coming Together – Recap
Here’s a recap of the audio recording project I shared in Coaches Coming Together and Why No Women. The recording project was an amazing success — even better than I expected. Over the course of 3 days, we recorded about 9-10 hours of very unique material. Our purpose wasn’t to create expert-style, how-to material. Nor was the intent to create a fair and balanced, sanitized, politically correct program. Our purpose was to explore the edges of our comfort zones, to talk about the parts of our lives where we didn’t have complete certainty, to share things that could give us a vulnerability hangover th...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 15, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Motivation Personal Development Relationships Source Type: blogs

Overcoming Trust Issues
How easy is it for you to trust other people? Do you trust people easily? Or are you often suspicious of others’ motives? Do you trust life enough that you can quit your uninspired job as soon as you recognize it as such, and know that life will bring you something even better? Or do you need to slow things down and control the process, such as by trying to save up money doing even more work you dislike? Are you paying the price in frustration for your distrust in life? Do you trust that if you leave your uninspired relationship that life will bring you an even better, more fulfilling relationship experience? If you ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 14, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Personal Development Purpose Relationships Spirituality Source Type: blogs

Why No Women?
In all the feedback I’ve received thus far about our Coaches Coming Together audio program in the works, the most common question I’m asked is: Why are there no women on your team? The simplest answer is that this happened mainly as a matter of logistics. It wasn’t really a pre-planned choice to put together an all male team. The idea for this program was only conceived several days ago. The team invites were made with a group of friends that I was already going to be meeting up with on Sunday or Monday. So the thinking was: We’re already going to be hanging out together anyway. So why not push our...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 12, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Personal Development Relationships Source Type: blogs

Coaches Coming Together
The purpose of this post is to tell you about a new creative project I’m working on this week and to invite your feedback about it. Last weekend I spoke at Rich Litvin’s sold out Prosperous Coach Mastery Intensive in Marina del Rey, California. It was an amazing program, and Rich and his team did a truly fantastic job. In addition to speaking there, I also went through the program as an attendee. One of the challenges Rich gave us during a 2- hour lunch break was to go out and try to create some money. This is often a challenge for coaches; some of them have a hard time asking for paid clients. Many of the...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 11, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Intention & Manifestation Passive Income Purpose Relationships Source Type: blogs

Enlightenment Fest Starts Today – Free Online Event
Just a quick reminder that the free Enlightenment Fest (hosted by Learning Strategies and Jeddah Mali) has now started. I mentioned it in my last newsletter and wanted to post a note here that the Fest is underway. Today’s session is about Conscious Awareness in the Present Moment. The whole Fest is free. Why is it free? Learning Strategies gives away the material for free over the course of a week, and then people can buy the recordings afterwards if they want to own a copy. Since the whole course is try-before-you-buy, it only works for them if the quality is superb and people want to own the courses afterwards. It...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - December 2, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness General Intention & Manifestation Spirituality Source Type: blogs

How Many Days Can You Go Without Checking Email or Social Media?
Several weeks ago I decided to try a simple experiment. I opted to check email and social media accounts only three times in a week. I wanted to see what effect this less frequent, non-daily checking would have on my productivity and social connections. Many years ago when the web was a lot smaller and email was less popular, this would have been no big deal. In the mid 1990s I could get away with checking email a few times a week, even in business. People often didn’t expect a fast turnaround via email. If they needed a fast response, they’d use the phone. Today it’s become common, especially in the worl...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - November 18, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Getting Things Done Goals & Goal Setting Productivity Self-Discipline Time Management Source Type: blogs

How to Earn Straight A’s
When I started high school, I decided I was going to become a straight-A student, even though I’d never done that before. It seemed like an interesting goal to pursue as a 14-year old. Since school was the center of my life back then, I figured I might as well succeed at it. On my first freshman English essay, I got a C+. I was a bit miffed. I thought I had done my best. Instead of interpreting that C+ to mean that I was going to fail at my goal, I asked, “Why didn’t I get an A? What would an A essay need to look like?” Whenever I got less than an A in a class assignment, I kept asking, “...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 25, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Motivation Productivity Self-Discipline Success Source Type: blogs

Money Mindfest Starts Today – Free Online Event
Just a  reminder that the new Money Mindfest (hosted by Learning Strategies and Joe Vitale) has now started, so you can listen it to right away. I mentioned it in my last newsletter  since this Mindfest ties in really well with the newsletter article I shared about getting aligned with your desires. The whole Mindfest is free. This Mindfest is about how to create more abundance in your life. Today’s session is about the Law of Creating… a step beyond the Law of Attraction. Why is it free? Learning Strategies gives away the material for free over the course of a week, and then people can buy...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 21, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Intention & Manifestation Passive Income Success Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

You Don’t Need to Overcome Approach Anxiety
Many people use the label approach anxiety to describe the fear of starting a conversation with someone new. This is a common fear, and many people identify it as a stumbling block that supposedly prevents them from enjoying a rich and abundant social life. The truth is that working on overcoming “approach anxiety” is largely a distraction. It’s not actually a problem that needs to be solved to enjoy a socially abundantly life. It’s an imaginary obstacle that makes people feel inadequate, and then that inadequacy is used as a puzzle/distraction/diversion to avoid intimacy and to suppress other aspec...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 11, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Courage & Fear People Skills Relationships Source Type: blogs

D/s Play vs. Fairness and Equality
After posting my previous article about D/s Play, which many readers seemed to enjoy, someone asked about the point of playing the roles of the Dominant and the submissive. Why do this sort of thing? I think there are some other questions behind this question too: Aren’t fairness and equality in relationships much more sensible? Shouldn’t every decision be made mutually? Why would anyone want to submit to the will of another? I know that some people get a little turned off by the labels here. I get that, but the labels don’t matter much. Let me ‘splain. D/s = Driver and Passenger Here’s a simp...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 6, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Relationships Source Type: blogs

D/s Play
Many of us live in a repressed world. We don’t feel safe enough to share our truest, deepest desires with each other. We keep certain fantasies strictly to ourselves, hiding them where no one else is allowed to look. These desires are not allowed into the light — they’re our secret shame, our darkness denied. But privately they remain very rich and real to us. What if you could explore some of those fantasies though? I know you can’t, but what if? What if you could connect with a willing partner where there was such a deep and powerful bond of trust, that you could share more of yourself than you th...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - October 5, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Relationships Source Type: blogs

How to Meet Your Needs Without Being Needy
On the one hand, we’re taught that we have certain needs as human beings, including survival needs (food, water, shelter, etc), emotional needs (belongingness, love), self esteem needs, etc. Whether or not all of these concepts qualify as true needs is debatable. The idea of there being a clear hierarchy of needs, such as Maslow’s, is debatable too — and as far as I can tell, that model has been pretty well debunked. But we can probably agree that some non-essential aspects of living can preoccupy us at times, giving us the perception that these unsatisfied elements qualify as unmet needs. On the oth...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - September 24, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: People Skills Personal Development Relationships Source Type: blogs

Lifestyle Connect – Sep 28 in Bucharest, Romania
Here’s a pleasant surprise for anyone in or near Bucharest, Romania this Saturday. I’ve been in Europe for about 3.5 weeks now, most of it spent in Bucharest. While I’ve been here, enjoying a whirlwind of amazing social connections and new experiences, I saw that there was some serious demand for a live personal growth event. Dozens of people expressed interest in this during my first week in town. I’ve even been recognized on the street three times in the past week (in the USA I get recognized on the street maybe once per year). And two of those people asked me if I’d be having any events he...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - September 22, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Career & Work General Motivation Passion Passive Income Personal Development Public Speaking Relationships Success Travel Source Type: blogs

Feedback on the Last Post
Let me share some of the feedback I received about my last blog post and the new web page it links to regarding Meeting in Person. In those texts I shared in great detail what types of connections I’d like to explore with men and women who want to meet up face to face. I shared my thoughts, feelings, and desires honestly, in such a way that people with similar interests can more easily determine how compatible we’re likely to be in terms of a personal connection. My motivation was to receive fewer but more compatible invites, so as to save myself and other people some time if we’re not that compatible &md...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - September 16, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Relationships Source Type: blogs

Meeting in Person
This is a personal follow-up to my last article about Enjoying Rich and Abundant Relationships. Basically I took that article and went even further with it, which led to a decision to undertake a significant recalibration of my social and relationship life, starting now. This decision was partly inspired by my time in Europe (I’ve been here for 2.5 weeks so far), but it’s also an extension of a path that’s been unfolding for years. I spent most of yesterday and half of today journaling, writing, and rewriting my most honest desires for the types of social connections I want to experience in my life going ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - September 14, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Intention & Manifestation People Skills Relationships Source Type: blogs

Enjoying Rich and Abundant Relationships
How abundant can your relationship life become? Are there any real limits to what you can experience and enjoy with willing partners? In this article I’ll share some candid thoughts about creating more depth in open relationships, including what I’m interested in exploring next. I really appreciate this exploration of open relationships that I’ve been undertaking for the past 4 years. It’s been a transformational experience to say the least, not all at once but as a gradual process of unfolding and maturing over time. What was once outside my comfort zone is now firmly within it. This is a beautiful...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - September 11, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Relationships Source Type: blogs

Embrace the New
When I don’t have strong clarity about what I want to experience next in my life, I like to explore something new. I know that I want to keep growing, so I seek out new growth experiences, new places, new people. Anything new. This default decision to embrace the new has been a powerful heuristic in guiding my life path. I find myself leaning into many experiences for the simple reason that they’re new. If I receive an invitation to try something I’ve never tried before, I tend to say yes fairly often. If I’m not sure, I nudge myself towards the affirmative. I figure that exploring something new is ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - September 8, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Personal Development Source Type: blogs

Open Relationships and Friendship
One thing that surprised me about getting into open relationships for the past several years is that my relationships with my male friends improved markedly as well. When I was in an exclusive mono relationship for 15 years, I got into the habit of limiting how I shared intimacy. Physical and emotional intimacy were restricted to my marriage, so everyone else was “just a friend.” Most of the time, I saw nothing wrong with this. It was just the way things were. Of course I’d expect to be closest with my primary partner. It seemed unreasonable to share that level of closeness with anyone else. That’s ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - August 26, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Relationships Source Type: blogs

Relationship Abundance – Video
Here’s the full video of my talk on Relationship Abundance from last year’s Morten Hake Summit in Oslo, Norway. Topics covered include: cultivating a positive relationship with reality as a whole (including receiving the financial support you desire) overcoming relationship neediness how to invite and enjoy relationship abundance being transparent and authentic in your relationship life owning your desires (especially the naughty ones) and letting go of fear, shame, and guilt filtering for quality partners and experiences connecting with love and appreciation The video ends with a demonstration of how to give...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - August 20, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Passion People Skills Relationships Source Type: blogs

Don’t Pay Your Bills
What if you really want to quit your job and go independent, but you’re worried about paying your bills? Today I’m able to enjoy the best of both worlds. My bills are easily paid from my passive income streams, and I get to do work I love and enjoy tremendous freedom. But when I was first starting out, it was often an either-or situation. Sometimes I had to not pay credit card bills, legal bills, utilities, rent, etc. Many times I just didn’t have the money. Obviously not paying bills creates consequences. My credit rating was trashed for many years. I had to sell off a bunch of my stuff for food money. I...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - August 16, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Business Career & Work Courage & Fear Entrepreneurship Passive Income Success Wealth & Money Source Type: blogs

Minneapolis Meetup Details
Here are the details for our upcoming Minneapolis / St. Paul meetup. When: Friday, August 9th, 2013 at 5:30pm Where: Crowne Plaza, Minneapolis West, 3131 Campus Drive, Plymouth, MN 55441 (meet at the cozy couches in the hotel lobby) What: Our meetups are very informal. This is a chance to hang out in a relaxed atmosphere, meet new people with similar interests, make new friends, and talk about personal growth — and of course share some hugs with family you didn’t know you had. Rachelle and I will both be there, and there’s a possibility that  some folks from the Learning Strategies re...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - August 7, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: General Source Type: blogs

Synchronicity
I’ve written many times about how synchronicities tend to increase when I’m in the flow state. I often think of synchronicities as acknowledgements from the universe when I’m successfully following my path with a heart. Let me share some specific examples of what these synchronicities look like. Lately I’ve been enjoying speaking about social skills, relationships, and sexuality. I love the intrinsic rewards of this work and keep leaning into it more and more. I recently returned from a weeklong trip to New York City, which including hosting a meet-up in Central Park and speaking at the Direct Datin...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - August 3, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Intention & Manifestation Metaphysics Spirituality Travel Source Type: blogs

World of Energy
Perhaps the biggest core mistake you’ll make along your path of conscious growth is subscribing to the belief that you live in a world of objects. You don’t. You live in a world of energy. Objects are separate. Energy is continuous. Objects have gaps between them; they can appear to be apart and not touching. Energy is always connected to itself; it is always in touch. Objects can sit still. Energy is always moving, even in apparent stillness. If you work at a job you dislike and exchange your energy for bits of colored paper or for more digits in a computer database, you are mistaking objects and numbers for e...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - July 31, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Metaphysics Source Type: blogs

New York City Meetup Details
Here are the details for the New York City meetup that I mentioned in the last post. When: Friday, July 26, 2013 at 6:30pm (usually these meetups last for around 2 hours) Where: Sheep Meadow, Central Park, New York City (map showing exact location, the pin shows the spot) Who: Anyone who’s interested in personal growth and wants to meet like-minded people Why: See the last post for details on why you may want to attend if you can. We’ll meet on top of the hill in the southwest part of Sheep Meadow, which in on the west side of Central Park, within easy walking distance of Columbus Circle. It’s n...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - July 25, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: General Source Type: blogs

New York City Meetup and Other Updates
Here are a number of updates regarding upcoming events that may interest you. New York City Meetup First off, I’m heading to New York City on July 24th, and I’ll be there until July 30th. I haven’t been there since 2007, so it’s been a while. On the weekend I’ll be speaking at Sasha’s Direct Dating Summit. If this type of event interests you — it’s for men looking to improve their dating and social skills — I encourage you to attend. It’s a lot of fun, and as you might expect based on the title, the speakers will help teach you to be direct and honest in your comm...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - July 24, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: General Source Type: blogs

Your Beautiful Personality
This is a follow-up to the recently posted article “Do Your Goals Conflict with Your Personality?“ In that article I shared how understanding the core aspects of your personality can help you set better goals and help you achieve your goals more easily. In the 2+ weeks since I shared that article, I’ve spent a lot more time delving into this subject, including reading feedback from dozens of people about it. Now I’ll share some nice refinements that I think you’ll find very helpful. Evolving Your Personality List Your first stab at a list of personality attributes probably won’t be ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - July 18, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Consciousness & Awareness Goals & Goal Setting Motivation Passion Personal Development Productivity Purpose Relationships Source Type: blogs

How to Attract Quality Relationship Partners
On my Google+ page, I recently shared the following: To attract a happy relationship, define what you want in a partner, tell the whole world, and then filter and select for matches. It’s important not to waste too much time dealing with partial matches. Once someone has shared something about themselves that’s a mismatch for what you want, let go and move on quickly. Don’t try to force a mismatch to look like a match. So for example, if you desire a partner who’s vegan, geeky, and openly affectionate and you’re talking to someone who says… “I love a good steak.” … &l...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - July 16, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Consciousness & Awareness Courage & Fear Intention & Manifestation People Skills Public Speaking Relationships Source Type: blogs

Marketing Your Product
When you release a new product, plan to spend at least as much time promoting it as you did creating it. A common mistake people make is that they’ll spend 500 hours creating a product and then 20 hours promoting it. Then they wonder why no one is buying. Usually no one is buying because virtually no one knows the product exists. Another mistake is to keep promoting to the same people over and over, like your social media followers, and little else. Repeated exposure is fine, but branch out too. Find ways to reach people who’d otherwise never know about your product. Jack Canfield recommends the Rule of 5, whic...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - July 12, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Business Entrepreneurship Passive Income Source Type: blogs

How to Fall Asleep in Less Than 30 Seconds
Does it take you a while to fall asleep at night? Do you find your mind dwelling on various thoughts before you’re able to finally drift off and relax into sleep? Do you find that you just aren’t sleepy enough when it’s time for bed? Realize that if it takes you 15 minutes on average to fall asleep each night, that’s more than 91 hours per year that you’re wasting. This is the equivalent of spending more than two 40-hour workweeks just lying in bed waiting to fall asleep. And if you have insomniac tendencies and take more than an hour to fall asleep each night, you’re spending more than ...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - July 10, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Productivity Sleep Time Management Source Type: blogs

Do Your Goals Conflict with Your Personality?
Since today is the start of the second half of the year, it’s a good time to update your goals. How are you doing so far with the goals you set (or refreshed) at the beginning of the year? Are you making good progress? Are you drifting or stuck? Did you fail to set intelligent goals to begin with? In my experience, choosing the right goals to begin with is incredibly important if you want to make real progress and enjoy a feeling of flow. So let me share some of my recent discoveries on how to set goals more consciously. The Classical Approach In the past I used to set goals with a focus on covering the different are...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - July 1, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Goals & Goal Setting Motivation Passion Planning Productivity Public Speaking Success Time Management Source Type: blogs

Add the Best; Drop the Worst
When you realize that you have many bad or mediocre habits that are holding you back in life, you may start to feel overwhelmed. Where should you begin? Should you upgrade your health habits? Attempt a 30-day supertrial? Commit to working an hour a day on your online business? Here’s a simple heuristic that will help you identify which habits to change first: Add the best. Drop the worst. Let’s start with the first part. Can you identify some of the absolute best habits you could add to your life, such that if you maintained these habits every day for the next 20 years, it would make a huge difference in your r...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - June 28, 2013 Category: Life Coaches Authors: Steve Pavlina Tags: Balance Personal Development Productivity Self-Discipline Success Time Management Source Type: blogs