Better to be bad than weak?
Some years ago I read Harry Guntrip's Schizoid Phenomena, Object Relations, and the Self. I often think of something he wrote in that book, that many of us would rather be bad than weak. Now that seems paradoxical at first but think about it -- it is often more satisfying to believe that we, in our "badness" ,create the behavior in others that bothers us, because that way, if we become good, then they will change too.If my mother treated me badly because I was bad; if my lover is abusive because I am not good then all I have to do is change, become good and then I will have the mother I wanted, the lover who will...
Source: Jung At Heart - November 22, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

A Moving Target
Yes, changes are still coming. Yes, the look of this site will be changing. No, I don ’t have date for when it happens. So, let’s continue on our merry way talking about psychotherapy, about aging, about body issues. The change will come when all is ready. (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - November 19, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Changes are coming soon
Regular readers know I have been contemplating moving this site to Wordpress. Though I am pretty comfortable with technology, I felt a bit flummoxed about doing the move myself. Today I am talking with someone with whom I will be working to make this move. The move means that what you see now will disappear, be replaced by an Under Construction sign  and then reappear in new dress. The address will be the same but the underpinnings will be new — kind of like a house renovation. So watch for the reappearance of the new and improved (I just had to use that) Jung at Heart. I won’t be gone long. (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - October 8, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

She ’s BACK!
Where have I been, you may ask? And that is a very good question. I decided I really needed to take some time to consider what comes next. And it is taking longer than I thought.  I am not disappearing. There will be changes here as I hope to begin to work to move this site to Wordpress which requires I get some help.  I am thinking even more deeply about the work I want to do, the kinds of issues I want to work with and help with — I will be writing more about that.I have a backlog of things I want to write about — about aging, about fat, about chronic illness, about life in general. There will be po...
Source: Jung At Heart - September 30, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Personal Myth
"I suspected that myth had a meaning which I was sure to miss if I lived outside it in the haze of my own speculations. I was driven to ask myself in all seriousness: “What is the myth you are living?” I found no answer to this question, and had to admit that I was not living with a myth, or even in a myth, but rather in an uncertain cloud of theoretical possibilities which I was beginning to regard with increasing distrust. I did not know that I was living a myth, and even if I had known it, I would not have known what sort of myth was ordering my life without my knowledge. So, in the most natural way, I ...
Source: Jung At Heart - June 10, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

The Return of Yellow
In 1968, right after I graduated from college, I was maid of honor in my best friend ’s wedding. I had a really pretty yellow dress for the rehearsal dinner (the less said the better about the dresses we attendants wore for the wedding). Then yellow disappeared. I cannot recall anything yellow I wore for 51 years after that event. The reason? None really though when I “had my co lors done” sometime in the late 80s the woman told me I was a winter and that yellow was one of the colors that was not good on me. Or maybe I was afraid it would make me stand out too much - there is nothing subtle about bright y...
Source: Jung At Heart - June 3, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Are you ready for a journey?
“I thought I found an answer when I was older, meditation, yoga, channeling. A way of making use of a talent, a gift. And now it's back worse than ever. No, not worse than ever, but it feels like that because I've been OK so long. It's like unfinished business has come back to haunt me.”  “The gate that opens and closes can't close.”“Two years ago I began medication and it helped, not completely, but relief. Then the sleeplessness started and my doctor suggested I speak with you.”  “Are you ready for a therapy journey?”        &nbs...
Source: Jung At Heart - May 26, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Doors
"The doors to the self are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old story, that is a door. If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door. If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door."Clarissa Pinkola Est és  (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - May 20, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Mistakes
"People do not grow in sterile containers with perfect analysts; they grow in messy human relationships with analysts who try their best to do right by their patients  but whose best must frequently consist of reparative efforts vis-á-vis the difficulties they have created."How do we recover from the mistakes that we make? We recover by recognizing that of course we make mistakes because we are human and it is how we learn. I have been in this work for 40 years and I still make mistakes -- different ones, but mistakes nonetheless.   When things go awry because of something I say or do, initi...
Source: Jung At Heart - May 20, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Time is on my mind
My daughter texted me today to ask me when she had her measles vaccination. She will be 43 this year so it was a long  time ago. Except that in old age, distant events sometimes feel more recent than last year. A trick of time and memory that lends a vividness to long ago. I dream about a little boy and in associating to it in an effort to reveal and understand what my psyche is telling me about my life today, I have a very vivid memory of walking with my son when he was 3. I can feel his hand in mine as we walk along the street and I can almost hear his stream of commentary about things  he sees. Yet that d...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 29, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Sunday Brain Dump
This morning for the first in what feels like weeks I woke up to sun and blue sky instead of rain or threat of rain. It ’s Sunday — no work today except the minor chores around the house. My husband has designs on finally being able to rake the winter debris from the front garden so we can maybe sow seed for summer’s flowers soon. I think about picking up one of the half dozen or so books I am slowly working my way through. And I hear that voice inside that says “It’s a nice day. You should go outside.” And maybe I will later but right now I don’t want to. I even feel a bit de...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 28, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Do I Look Okay?
 In his book,Ways of Seeing,  John Berger,  the English art critic, novelist, painter and poet, writes:  A woman must continually watch herself.  She is almost continually accompanied by her own image of herself.  Whilst she is walking across a room or whilst she is weeping at the death of her father, she can scarcely avoid envisaging herself walking or weeping. From earliest childhood she has been taught and persuaded to survey herself co ntinually. And so she comes to consider the surveyor and the surveyed within her as the two constituent yet always distinct elements of her identity as a wo...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 27, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

I ’m okay. You’re okay.
I obsess now and then about how I am doing what I do  — a little meta obsession —like maybe the mixture I have of posts about knitting and other things unrelated in any direct way to my practice and my work might be unprofessional. I get caught up  in things like this from time to time — is the blog okay? is it all right to have my office in my home? — you know, the kind of annoying and not helpful worrying that most of us do. To complicate matters a bit, I am struggling with tendinitis in my right shoulder so some things I would ordinarily do like write or knit aggravate it. What is ...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 21, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Knitting myself together
I am a knitter. Knitters come in two basic types. The project knitter buys yarn and pattern for a specific project and knits that and only that until it is finished. Process knitters knit to knit. We love to look at, touch and acquire yarn and usually have several projects going at the same time. The finished project is nice but it is the process, the knitting itself that is engaging. Sometimes the project is never completed or it is unraveled and the yarn used again for something else. I love the feel of the yarn as it slides through my fingers as I knit. I stop frequently and pull the fabric into shape and touch it and l...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 19, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

My life with telogen effluvium*
Every morning when I get up, after I brush my teeth, I brush my hair. For months from last summer through this winter, every morning I would find more hair in my brush. Because I was losing hair. Which filled me with grief and embarrassment and, for some reason, shame. I have a very nearly bald spot on the crown of my head, not visible to anyone who does not tower over me. But I know it is there and I cringe inwardly about it every day when I see or remember it..I have always loved my hair. Never wished it were some other color. My hair and my eyes let me feel almost pretty, to make up somehow for being fat. My beautiful a...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 13, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Really?
You do know it ’s Sunday, right? (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - April 13, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

For today, a poem
Walking at NightbyLouise GluckNow that she is old,the young men don't approach herso the nights are free,the streets at dusk that were so dangeroushave become as safe as the meadow.By midnight, the town's quiet.Moonlight reflects off the stone walls;on the pavement, you can hear the nervous soundsof the men rushing home to their wives and mothers; this late,the doors are locked, the windows darkened.When they pass, they don't notice her.She's like a dry blade of grass in a field of grasses.So her eyes that used never to leave the groundare free now to go where they like.When she's tired of the streets, in good weather she ...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 12, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

This is Spring?
Welcome to spring in Maine where it has snowed the last 3 days. (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - April 10, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

The Struggle
In August I became very ill and spent 5 days in the hospital. In the process I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, which was the underlying culprit in my whole medical misadventure. So for the last 6 months I have been struggling to come to terms with and learn to cope with now being a diabetic. Not my idea of a fun time.Days of what sometimes felt like endless finger sticks to check my blood sugar leaving my poor fingers looking a bit like they had been through a war — which I suppose they had. Trying to figure out what I can eat and what drives my glucose levels too high. Feelings about myself rising and falling ba...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 9, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

A treat for the eye
I am a fat woman. I was a fat teen and fat child. I have even written a book about what being fat is like and what it is about. It took me a long time and a lot of hard inner work to even begin to feel at home in my body, to claim my body, to love my body.It is only in recent times, and even then pretty rarely do I get to see bodies like mine in ads, on television or in the movies. This week as part of their ad campaign for their women ’s shaver,  Gillette image of plus-size model in bikini sparks outrage — the image of a fat woman in a bikini looking happy drew a slew of hate-filled comments about he...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 8, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

May I ask a personal question?
Personal disclosure is an issue that comes up now and again for therapists and patients — patients wonder if it is intrusive to ask the therapist personal questions, therapists wonder how much to disclose. I have never found this to be an especially difficult issue. Taking a page from an early supervisor, I tell patients early in our work that they should feel free to ask any questio ns that they like of me. I tell them I will answer any that I feel comfortable with *and* that I think it also important that we consider what the question is about for them. Very rarely has anyone asked anything that felt intrusive or t...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 8, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Being the Shape We Are
I love amaryllises. Every year I order a new one. I watch as those from previous years bloom and rebloom. This year when my new one arrived, I got distracted and didn ’t plant it right away. When I finally remembered and rescued it from the paper bag it had been in, it had started to grow but clearly had suffered from my neglect.The stem and bud were almost white. And as you can see the stem was bent almost over on itself. It had done everything it could to realize itself within the confines of the small paper bag.  I felt terrible about what had happened and decided to see if it could recover. So I potted it in...
Source: Jung At Heart - April 7, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Late
Like spring here in Maine, I am late starting a 30 day blog challenge from Effy Wild. And like spring, the amaryllises on my window shelf are ready to blossom, their nice fat buds getting ready. They will open in a few days. And I will be writing posts, maybe not 30 but posts there will be. Meanwhile big juicy snowflakes are drifting down to let me know that the calendar may say spring is here, but in Maine we tend to live life more slowly. (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - April 3, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Ice Cream in the Afterlife
My former mother-in-law died almost 7 years ago.. She was 90 and died  just 6 weeks after her husband. Hers was a long life lived quite well She and I were not fond of one another. We thought the one thing we shared was love for her son and our children. But there is something else we shared -- a long history of being at odds with our bodies.She was tiny -- barely 5 feet tall and her weight hovered around 100 pounds. But she was always anxious about food and eating and her body. I used to joke that she would have a psychotic episode if her weight went above 105 pounds but in hindsight I can see and feel how much that ...
Source: Jung At Heart - March 24, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Exchanging words...
"Exchanging words is the essence of psychotherapy." Nor HallWhen I meet with a new patient, I always have a slight anxiety before this new person arrives -- anxiety and also anticipation Will we "click"? What new doors will open through this person and our work -- because this process changes both of us, though not to the same degree. So there is that tingle of the new and unknown as I answer the door or respond to the call on Skype. And then, once in my office, we sit down and I ask, as i always do, "What brings you here today?" and we begin.It is a curious process, therapy is. I have no visi...
Source: Jung At Heart - March 24, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Why depth psychotherapy?
Someone asked me recently if I really thought that longer term depth psychotherapy was really necessary. Necessary? I don't know that I can determine that for anyone other than myself, but I can say it is valuable for the person who wants to learn more about her dreams and how she came to where she is in her life, what forces are operative in her, understanding which may allow her a wider array of choices moving forward.  Jung said,"Generally speaking, all the life which the parents could have lived, but of which they thwarted themselves for artificial motives, is passed on to the children in substitute form. Tha...
Source: Jung At Heart - March 18, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

How Long?
People often ask me how long therapy should last. Usually I say it should last as long as it is working. And I often go on to say a lot more about that because no one can determine how long therapy goes on except a given patient and therapist working together to decide. Certainly managed care companies can't really know, though they can set arbitrary limits.  I hate when site I liked disappears — today it is a site by Jean Hantman, someone I used to enjoy reading when there was an active listserv for psychoanalytic studies. She is on the psychoanalysis side of depth psychology, which means we have somewhat diffe...
Source: Jung At Heart - March 17, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

One of these women is not like the others
The photo is from the Lane Bryant site today. They are having a sale on underwear so I went to look. As I scrolled through, something jumped out at me -  while most of the models shown were like the one on the left, the heavier looking models were all shown without heads. Now showing fat women without heads is not a new phenomenon.  You have seen her, or others like her, many times, the "headless fatty", a term coined by Charlotte Cooper in 2007. When journalists run stories on television and in print about the evils of obesity, there she is, a fat, usually a very fat woman on the street or the bea...
Source: Jung At Heart - March 9, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

New group!
New combination writing/personal growth group for writers of all abilities opening soon. Learn about and register for Writing From Inside Outhere. (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - March 4, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Writing our story
Woman must write her self: must write about women and bring women to writing, from which they have been driven away as violently as from their bodies-for the same reasons, by the same law, with the same fatal goal. Woman must put herself into the text-as into the world and into history —by her own movement.  – Helene CixouxStories are how our ancestors wove the fabric of meaning and existence as they made their way in their lives. Telling your story helps you to explore yourself, your roots, and your journey through life. Think about taking out your notebook to begin. "One day, this is what happened.....
Source: Jung At Heart - February 28, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

It ’s the relationship...
Many, maybe most people believe that therapists “do” something which makes patients feel better because it is hard to believe that it is the relationship between the therapist and the patient which is the healing factor.If I go to the dentist because I have pain in my mouth and the dentist doesn't help, I likely will seek help elsewhere, and that seems reasonable. But I look to the dentist to *do* something to make me feel better. The dentist does not usually, at least in acute situations, require of me that I do more than be cooperative and hold my mouth open. But psychotherapy is a different thing altogether....
Source: Jung At Heart - February 25, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Twitter, Trump and Fat Space
Over the weekend, after days of jabs and complaints  on Twitter about the news that was released following President. Trump’s recent physical, Jon Cooper, Chairman of the Democratic Coalition, called his 239,000 followers to tweet using the hashtag #MarALardass. By Monday morning the hashtag was at the top of the trending list on Twitter. Cooper’ s followers enthusiastically embraced the hashtag and there followed more fat shaming, crude anti-fat humor than I could count. I and a number of others began to post responses to the worst of the fat bashing, only to be met with a chorus of justifications because...
Source: Jung At Heart - February 19, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Baby It ’s Cold Outside
It is a snowy day here in Maine. In the northern part of the state they had record lows — one town was at -24F this morning and that is air temperature, not wind chills. Right now it is above zero at a not exactly balmy 24F and big fluffy snowflakes are floating about.Inside I look at this and suddenly it doesn ’t seem so wintery! (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - February 18, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Therapeutic Space
Last summer I had to make some changes in my office. So that occasioned some serious thought about therapeutic space.  In the process, I encountered some of the writing of Yi-Fu Tuan, a geographer. Tuan wrote a very interesting little book,Space and Place: The Perspective of Experience in which he muses about how people think about space and place, home and neighborhood. One of his thoughts is that space is what we encounter when we are someplace new and unfamiliar and it becomes place as we learn its features and landmarks. This leads me to contemplate the fact that every time a new patient comes to see me, not only ...
Source: Jung At Heart - February 17, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Suddenly cool!
The NY Times seems to have discovered that older women are more than cute little old ladies. Last Monday they published a review of Mary Pipher ’s new book, Women Rowing North: Navigating Life ’s Currents and Flourishing As We Age and what ’s not to like, for us older women anyway, with the headline for the review — 70 and Female Is the New Cool! I purchased the book that very day. And I recommend it to any woman over 60.If after reading the review, you, like me, feel moved to read it and would like to be able to discuss it with a group of women, let me know.   (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - February 9, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Aging: Task 3
Defining Life Realistically - the third of Jung ’s tasks of aging.I hope that you are beginning to see how these tasks flow together. All involve looking at the life we have lived so far — our regrets and triumphs sorrows and delights. And doing so without judging ourselves, which can be the hardest part. The only way to get to where we are now is the route that we took. This is the time for making peace with ourselves and our biography. We cannot start over again as perhaps we mi ght wish. Instead we need to find acceptance.“Thoroughly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life. Worse still,...
Source: Jung At Heart - February 2, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Jung on Aging
Carl Jung, at 85 yrs.,reflecting on the aging process:“Old age is only half as funny as one is inclined to think.It is at all events the gradual breaking down of the bodily machine, with which foolishness identifies as ourselves.It is indeed a major effort – the magnum opus in fact– to escape in time from the narrowness of its embrace and to liberate our mind to the vision of the immensity of the world, of which we form an infinitesimal part.In spite of the enormity of our scientific cognition we are yet hardly at the bottom of the ladder, but we are at least so far that we are able to recognize the small...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 30, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Perfection or completion?
Every day of 2008 I took a photograph first thing every morning out my dining room window.  I didn't know why and I didn't know if I had the discipline to follow through every day for a year - after all I started Bonnie Craig’s 21 day shape-up program at least 5 times and never got past day 8 (and never did the whole thing).  But something in me knew it was an important undertaking fo r me and so, day by day, every day, I took my picture.I made myself be content with the pictures as they came out, altering them only to saturate the color a bit to compensate for the compression of the jpeg format. I was frus...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 30, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Aging: Some points to ponder
What to call this period? Today I am 72. I am not middle aged. I am not old old either. Yet I am different from when I was in my 50s or 60s. I have this keen sense about the onrushing end, that I have perhaps 15 years or so, and not likely more, of active life ahead. That changes things. I see myself well  within the last quarter of my life. But who knows? That is one of the issues of this stage.Some factors I reflect on --* Men continue to be able to sire children into old age; for women, menopause marks the end of reproduction -- how does this affect the last quarter?  *There are so few places to see bodies sho...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 27, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Aging: Task 2
Task #2 of Jung ’s 7 tasks of old age isLife Review. Life Review involves looking back over the course of one ’s life, at the good things and the bad and everything in between. It is, as someone once told, coming to terms with one’s own biography, which then makes way for embracing what is to come.Sit with this for a while. Where are you with reviewing your life, at taking on this task? How are you doing it? Are there some parts of your life you avoid looking at?In this next week I will offer you some more structured ways to work on your life review. For now, you might write in your journal about it. As a...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 25, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Tools for the journey
It is one thing to suggest that the first task of aging is to accept that we are old or getting old and that death is the inevitable conclusion of this stage of life, it is another to seriously reflect on this task, and all of the tasks we will explore. We need tools to help take us down inside ourselves, down inside where the chatter and distractions of daily life fade to a mere quiet hum. So here are 2 tools to facilitate this inward-turning, more to come later:Quiet: How many of us have the television or radio or music on all the time — not because we are watching or listening, but to provide background sound so t...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 21, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Fat: Guidelines for Therapists
A note on nomenclature: I deliberately use the term “fat” not “obese”. In groups of people who have been marginalised on the basis of race or sexual orientation, an important part of claiming agency is declaring the right to choose what members call themselves. Similarly it is the practice in the fat community to reclaim the term “fat” fr om the pool of epithets directed against us, as segments of the gay community have reclaimed “queer”. Therefore in what follows, I use “fat” rather than “obese” except when quoting or referring to research reports.I h...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 19, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Coming My Way
This time tomorrow this is what I will see out my window — expecting somewhere between 10 and 18 inches of snow. Lots of time to write - stay tuned! (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - January 19, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Aging: Task 1 of Jung ’s 7 Tasks of Aging
Task 1: To face the certainty of death, the reality of aging and dying.It isn ’t easy to fully accept what it means to be aging, to accept it beyond the intellectual level. Sure, we all know none of us is immortal but it isn’t until later life that the full impact of our finiteness and the unavoidability of death hits. To do so psychically and emotionally is another matte r when we are surrounded day and day out with images and messages that we should be young looking and youthful no matter our age. Wrinkles are bad. No one talks about sagging skin. Or a decline in mobility. White hair. Illness. These things ha...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 18, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Psychotherapy: In the darkness
I think often of this powerful quote from Jung on therapy:"The principle aim of psychotherapy is not to transport one to an impossible state of happiness, but to help (the client) acquire steadfastness and patience in the face of suffering. " -C.G. JungHow very different this view of therapy is from what most people seek. Jung understood that suffering is a part of life, that it has meaning and that to live fully is to know that suffering will be a factor in one's life throughout life. If I look back on my own life, I know that I have learned most from those times which were difficult and often painful, not becau...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 15, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Ch-ch-ch-changes
In addition to the new look for Jung At Heart, it is now also mobile-friendly. So those of you who like to read on your phone will now be able to more easily read it.Please let me know what you think in the Comments. (Source: Jung At Heart)
Source: Jung At Heart - January 15, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Aging: Does “Old” Mean No Longer Fully Alive?
As one born at the beginning of the Baby Boom, I am used to having the preoccupations of my generation becoming fodder for media preoccupations with us, much as the Millennials are experiencing now. And now that we  are in or approaching later life, this focus on us emerges again.70 million of us Baby Boomers are facing what it means to be in later life. And many of us begin to fret about how old is old? Am I old? What does it mean to be old? How is it that so many of us recoil from knowing ourselves as old?One researcher, Serge Scherbov, says in a recentNYTimes article for Americans, it ’s roughly 70 to 71...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 14, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Psychotherapy: When not doing is doing it best
It ’s hard to sit with someone who is crying or angry or yearning or silent for long periods and not want to do something to make them feel better, to break the tension in the room. But most of the time if that desire to do something is acted upon, the outcome is not what we hope. For me, this is a l esson I have had to learn again and again.I have been thinking about this a lot lately. What comes to me is the image of an infant in the throes of colic. You try everything to make them stop because that cry is distressing, because it makes you feel impotent and frustrated and even angry. Rock the baby. Pat the baby. Si...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 14, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

Fridays are for reflection
Back in the early 80s, Jungian analyst Jane Wheelwright wrote about the tasks of late life —To live fully as we age, we must meet and acknowledge if not master at least seven specific tasks. These tasks are more evident, more urgent and perhaps more possible in the autumn of life. But it must be remembered that these tasks of aging are also tasks of living, for old age is not separate from life. Old age is rather, the time for finding one ’s essence. This is material for life and we will work with these tasks until our last breath.I will take  one of these seven tasks on each of 7 Fridays starting next wee...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 11, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs

What is your bear?
Bear In Mind by John MartinA bear is chasing me through a meadowand I ’m running as fast as I can buthe ’s gaining on me—it seemshe ’s always gaining on me.I ’m running and running but alsothinking I should justturn around and say,“Stop it! Stop chasing me. We bothknow you aren ’t going to catch me.All you can ever do is chase me. So,think about it —why bother?”The bear does stop,and he sits on his haunches and thinks,or seems to think. And thenthe bear says to me,“I have to chase you, you knowthat. Or you should. And, sure,we both know I ’ll never catc...
Source: Jung At Heart - January 10, 2019 Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Source Type: blogs