Monogamy vs. Infidelity: How to Affair Proof Your Marriage and Create Lasting Love

The parallel experiences of treating hundreds of couples over forty-seven years while at the same time learning how to love one woman well have taught me several enduring truths about marriage:   Marriage has never been, nor will it ever be a solution to loneliness. The “institution” of marriage doesn’t offer a quick and painless path to intimacy and love. Marriage is—if nothing else—a challenge: to your ego, your character, your values, your sense of entitlement, your theories about love and commitmentThere is no relationship more powerful, more aptly suited, and more perfectly designed to facilitate a transformation—toward personal responsibilityfrom demanding to givingto a deeply intimate and loving connection to a life of depth, meaning, and purpose Such is marriage—a complex web of emotion, desire, passion, boredom, conflict, connection, loneliness, obligation, pain, joy, rage, and despair. And, at the center—love. Not the romance-novel, falling-in-love variety, but a love built on struggle, commitment, and, above all else, a deep feeling of friendship and connection that comes from the certainty that no matter how many times we lose our way, we’ll do what we must to return to one other. The Cracks that Lead to an Affair A marital crisis, such as an affair, doesn’t erupt without warning, nor does it explode without a context.  A violent, seismic fracture such as an affair may be the shock that cracks the il...
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