How To Break Free From People-Pleasing
I’m a recovering people pleaser.
I went out of my way to help others, often at my own expense.
I'm also an introvert. Setting boundaries and speaking up isn’t something that comes naturally to me.
The day I realised something had to change was when I found myself sitting on an office floor, sniffing the armpits of men's shirts that had been worn.
A people pleaser is someone who goes out of their way to make others happy. They try incredibly hard to make everything right, often at the expense of their own time or resources.
If you resonate with the below list, you may be a people pleaser:
You can't say no.You say “sorry” regularly.You need others to like you.You don't have your own opinion.You feel responsible for other people's emotions.You will offer to help someone, even if you are busy.
You want everyone around you to be happy. It almost becomes an addiction.
It may start with small things.
You tend to say "sorry" before you ask a question. You shoulder the responsibility for organising three friend's birthday parties. You can't deal with the confrontation of telling a coworker they stole your idea, so you let it go.
Then one day, you look at your calendar and your to-do list and realise that everything in there is for someone else.
You realise that you are bending over backwards for everyone else in your life.
There is nothing left for... you.
That is what led to my situation of being sat on an office floor,...
Source: PickTheBrain | Motivation and Self Improvement - Category: Consumer Health News Authors: daisysimonis Tags: confidence featured happiness psychology self-improvement motivation people pleasers self improvement Source Type: blogs