Being Emotionally Honest With Yourself

The reasons people offer for making a decision often don’t match up with their real reasons. Real reasons are generally emotional, not logical. People hide and guard their real reasons for making decisions. When you quit a job or leave a relationship, how often do you tell your boss or partner your real (emotional) reason for moving on? Even if you try to do that, will the other person accept it as valid? We tend to discount making decisions for emotional reasons, even though that’s really how we make them internally. We act on our feelings and then layer them with logical explanations afterwards. It’s hard to just come out and say, “I’m going with my feelings here.” Could you quit a job because you’re not feeling it anymore? Could you quit a relationship because you feel more inspired to go in a different direction? Sure you could. But who’d buy that if you offered that as your reason for leaving? How would people react if you told the real truth? For instance: It feels good to know that this is my last week of work here. You have no idea how stressful it’s been to keep showing up this past year.I’m relieved that this relationship is over, and I feel so much lighter now that I can finally move on from it. I’m excited about having some time to myself and also about the opportunity to meet new people.I’m thrilled to finally be leaving town. It’s the smell! Even if you offer up lo...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Emotions Source Type: blogs