After the Fight — Repairing Your Relationship

Emotions run high during a fight. Yet sometime later, we may have forgotten what triggered our rage in the first place. We recall fighting, but what was it about anyway?  Lauren later remembered the details about a fight with her husband because she’d written about it in her journal. “Though I don’t like the word ‘fight,'” she said, “because we don’t hit or anything like that. But I was so furious it felt like a fight.” The Fight Lauren had told Jim a number of times not to interrupt her while she was praying. Praying was a sacred time for her, like meditation. Whatever he wanted to say could wait. It was never an emergency. More likely, he just wanted her to stop right then and listen to him. Often, he hoped she’d hurry up because he wanted her attention very soon. The last time that happened, Lauren tried to ignore him but was too upset to focus. When finished, she approached Jim, who was now in the kitchen washing dishes. “I’ve told you more than once not to interrupt me when I’m praying,” she said irritated.  “There’s no law that says you can’t talk to someone who’s praying,” he shot back. “I still don’t want you to interrupt me,” she said, taking in his arrogant tone.  Then she noticed that Jim was using a dish soap said to contain toxic chemicals instead of the safer one she bought to replace it. She reminded him to use the new dish soap, whic...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Relationships arguments Conflict Resolution Dating Source Type: blogs