Mother dearest: 20 ways to love your mum

Have a movie night in, say thank you and don ’t blame her… loving your mother can make all the difference – to your own life as well as hersIf you ’re lucky enough still to have her around, there’s no one on earth you go back further with than your mother. The bond between a mother and her adult child can be frenzied and fraught, loaded and exasperating, undermining and energy-sapping. As with all family relationships, so much of what’s going on is unsaid or coded. An outsider can only sense the ripples, while you are only too aware of the tsunami. But whatever it’s like, two things are true. First, this is a relationship that always matters; and second, it can always be improved. Here’s how.1. Accept that you can ’t change her.“You can’t change anyone else,” says Philippa Perry, psychotherapist and author ofThe Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read. “But sometimes, if you change yourself, the other person will change as well. If you decide to be kind towards your mother, and accepting of her, that may shift your relationship. It’s not guaranteed, but it’s a possibility.”Continue reading...
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