D/s Play vs. Fairness and Equality

After posting my previous article about D/s Play, which many readers seemed to enjoy, someone asked about the point of playing the roles of the Dominant and the submissive. Why do this sort of thing? I think there are some other questions behind this question too: Aren’t fairness and equality in relationships much more sensible? Shouldn’t every decision be made mutually? Why would anyone want to submit to the will of another? I know that some people get a little turned off by the labels here. I get that, but the labels don’t matter much. Let me ‘splain. D/s = Driver and Passenger Here’s a simple metaphor for understanding the value of D/s: getting into a vehicle (car, bus, etc) where one person drives. D/s simply means engaging in activities where you have a driver and a passenger. One person leads. The other follows. Why would anyone want to follow? Because s/he trusts the driver to take them on a mutually desirable journey. It’s done for the benefit of both. You submit to letting someone else lead you (or drive you), when you think it will benefit you to do so. You submit for selfish reasons. And when you lead, you’re doing it not just for yourself but for the benefit of others as well. Whenever I get into an airplane, I’m submitting. After I take my seat, the flight is out of my control. I let the pilot lead me, trusting that he’ll take me to my intended destination. I do this when a friend drives me somewhere too. Some...
Source: Steve Pavlina's Personal Development Blog - Category: Life Coaches Authors: Tags: Relationships Source Type: blogs