Getting Over the Guilt of Placing a Loved One in a Home
If we could control events, most of us would never want our elders to be so sick that they need the care of a nursing home, especially homes that are still operating in the dark ages, as some of them still are. Many homes have now moved forward into person-centered care, and reluctant caregivers often find their elders thrive, once they have adjusted. Still, it's hard. For many caregivers, placing an elder in a home spells failure on the part of the caregiver. Even when carers know they've done all they can, a subconscious nagging voice often tells them they are giving up on their parents or spouse. I'm here to tell you that you are not giving up. You are just getting help.
Continue reading on HealthCentral to learn more about the (unearned) guilt that we can feel when we place someone in a nursing home:
Carol Bradley Bursack is the Candid Caregiver
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Source: Minding Our Elders - Category: Geriatrics Authors: Carol Bradley Bursack Source Type: blogs