Retreating to Truth

People often ask me to help them make decisions. Sometimes these are situations where consciously weighing the pros and cons may be prudent. But more often than not, when the options are presented, it’s reasonably clear what the person would like to do. They’ve already decided. What they’re really asking is how to get aligned with the decision they’ve already made. When someone asks me if they should quit their job, they’ve usually made the decision to quit already, even if they’re still showing up to work. When someone asks me if they should leave their relationship partner, they’ve usually left already, even if they’re still living together. Is this true all of the time? No, not always, but it’s pretty common. How can you tell if you’ve already decided and you’re just blocking yourself from following through? One way is to ask yourself this: If you could snap your fingers and be on the other side of your pending transition, would you feel relieved? Would your preferred option be relatively clear then? If so, that’s a hint that you’ve already decided, and you’re just working on coming to terms with that decision. When people haven’t figured out the how, such as how to transition, they often frame their challenge as if it’s still about the what, such as what decision to make. When the power aspect of a given path looks scary, we frequently go back and question the truth aspect. We tell our...
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