How to Reduce Your Social Nervousness: 3 Simple Steps

“Do not anticipate trouble or worry about what may never happen. Keep in the sunlight.”
Benjamin Franklin
One very common question I've gotten over the years goes something like this:
“I always get nervous before a date/meeting/social gathering and that holds me back from being my true and best self and from doing and getting what I want. What can I do to overcome this?”
This is an issue that used to hold me back in the past and I've more experience with it than I would have ever wanted.

Back when I was still single I often got quite nervous before a date.
And before that, when I didn't have a date at all in a long time, I got nervous before most social situations.
It was no fun.
Things weren't hopeless though. And today I would like to share three small habits and steps that, simply put, totally changed my life.
Step 1: Slow down.
A few minutes before you step into the meeting, job interview or date that makes you nervous slow down.
Walk slower to the meeting place. Move slower.
Then stop.
Step 2: Breathe.
Stand still or sit down for a minute. And then just breathe. Take a little deeper breaths than usual.
Make sure you breathe through your nostrils and with your belly.
Focus on just your slow in-breaths and out-breaths for 1-2 minutes.
This will calm your mind and body down and make it easier to think clearly and normally again.
Plus, that singular focus on your breathing will draw you back into this moment instead of leaving you lost in the thoughts of past failur...

Source: Practical Happiness and Awesomeness Advice That Works | The Positivity Blog - May 8, 2019 Category: Consumer Health News Authors: Henrik Edberg Tags: Habits Happiness People Skills Personal Development Source Type: blogs