7 Considerations When Leaving Your Marriage, Part Two

This is Part Two in a series, to read Part One click here. In the last article I highlighted three important considerations to think about before leaving your marriage: Be sure, be kind, and the guilt you might experience about leaving. These three considerations are very much about you and your internal dialogue and in this post, we’ll see how the next stages are very much influenced by those around us. You’re Going to Be Seen as the Bad Person: Your partner (and Children) will see you as the bad person in this break up because you ended it. No matter how valid your reasons, because you left, they see it as your fault. This blame can be very hard to deal with, especially if you know the reasons you left were because of your partner’s poor behaviors. Accusations may come your way, whether or not true, and no matter how adult, conscientious, and kind you are in this breakup, your name will be mud. Being the one to face all the anger, and vitriol shot your way isn’t comfortable, but this is part of being the leaver. I often tell people to equate ending a marriage to that of the death of a loved one, because understanding the common stages of grief helps put leaving into a different light. These stages are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It doesn’t mean your partner will experience this, or even in this order, but anger is a stage your partner might experience a lot before they accept the inevitable and move on th...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Marriage and Divorce Relationships Self-Help Communication Doubt Friendship Parenting Perspective Projection Source Type: blogs