How to Overcome Victim Thinking: 3 Powerful Steps for a Happier Life

“Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world.” Helen Keller How do you react if something in your life doesn’t go as you wish? Well, at first you’ll probably feel pain of some sort. But what happens after that? What do you do after the initial pain? Do you think of yourself as a victim, as someone with little or no control or power? Do you slip back into a familiar headspace where you feel sorry for yourself and where you feel like someone – or the whole world – is against you? I used to get stuck in that destructive and self-esteem sucking way of thinking quite often. And I know that many people get stuck in it from time to time. Or more often than that. So this week I’d like to share 3 steps that helps me to move out of that headspace and replace it with something better. Step 1: Recognize the benefits of the victim mentality. The victim mentality can be pretty beneficial in the short term and for instant gratification. A few benefits are: Attention and validation. You can always get good feelings from other people as they are concerned about you and try to help you out. But it may not last for that long as people get tired of it. You don’t have to take risks. When you feel like a victim you tend to not take action. And so you don’t have to risk for instance rejection or failure. Don’t have to take the responsibility. Taking responsibility for your own life can be hard work, you have to m...
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