The Alzheimer's Caregiver Blame Game

When you blame a person living with dementia for something they did you should try to remember - it is not their fault.By Bob DeMarcoAlzheimer's Reading RoomI was talking to anelderly woman that was having a particularly difficult timedealing with her husbandwho lives with Alzheimer's disease.When we startedtalking before I knew it she was off and running. She talked non-stop for about twenty minutes. She was clearlystressed out. It did not surprise me,I have seen and heard it before.At the core of what she was saying was a single theme,blame.Learn More -3 Ways to End the Dementia Care Blame GameIn Alzheimer's World persons living with Alzheimer's are different. They often lose some of their social and communication skills; and, the ability to articulate how they feel.Article -Communicating in Alzheimer's WorldThe woman was blaming her husband for all the things you could imagine. But mostlyshe was blaming him for being ungrateful and for a lack of understanding.Subscribe to the Alzheimer's Reading RoomEmail:One of the themes that came out of the conversation, one of the things that seemed to bedriving this woman crazy, was that her husbandno longer appreciated her, or what she was doing for him.I asked her a simple question.Did he appreciate you in the past?She answered yes. I asked, did he tell you he appreciated you in the past? She answered yes.I asked what changed?You might be surprised when I tell you her initial response.She said, I don't know. When she said this ...
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