Vacation Romance: Are You Really Ready for a Summer Fling?

“Summer lovin’ had me a blast. Summer lovin’ happened so fast”. — lyrics from “Summer Nights” in Grease. It’s a delicious fantasy, isn’t it? — falling in love while on vacation or on the summer job at the beach. Movies like Grease and Dirty Dancing make it seem so perfect, so possible, so without consequences so, I don’t know, so, so steamy and dreamy. When people think about having a “summer romance”, they are usually thinking about a fling, not a serious relationship. By definition, a summer romance is intended to last for only the summer. Often it’s a response to being in a temporary place, like an extended vacation or a summer job, where family and friends just don’t have to know. Distant from the responsibilities and relationships of regular life, a fling can allow for experimenting with a different version of yourself, spontaneous fun, casual sex, and intensity without commitment. But it doesn’t always work out that way. Are you looking for a summer fling? Maybe it’s a good idea to think beyond the movies. Are you really capable of having a no-stings attached “fling”? Do take an honest look at yourself. A summer fling is intended to be casual and short term. If you are someone who connects intensely with someone you feel attracted to, especially when sex is involved, maybe you should look for love in your usual life, not on vacation. It’s unfair to yourself and to a summer partner if you tend to fall in love easily when t...
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