Are You Experiencing Emotional Abuse and Not Aware of It?

You may not think you’re in an emotionally abusive relationship or minimize it. You may not consider your partner abusive because they seem caring and loving towards you, until you do not comply. An abusive partner can be extremely loving when you make yourself available to meet all their needs and give them all your undivided attention. In fact, it is when the partner stops meeting the needs of the abuser that the tantrums, tears, insults, silent treatment or other forms of punishment are used to get their way. In many cases, an emotional abuser is co-dependent on their partner to make them happy, and make up for all their feelings of childhood rejection and emotional abuse that they’ve endured. It is when the partner does not fulfill their unmet needs, that they suffer brutal punishment. Do you have a partner who gets upset when you do not comply and respond by sulking so that you drop everything for them, or otherwise you get mistreated in some way? Do you endure the silent treatment or criticism, if you’re true to yourself? Are you made responsible for their feelings and expected to make them feel better about themselves? Are you accused of rejecting them when you do things for yourself? Have you got into the habit of pleasing them or complying by giving into what they want, to avoid being punished or emotionally abused? Are you losing yourself by accommodating them, to the point that you are becoming withdrawn or depressed? In fact, the more you please them, th...
Source: Psych Central - Category: Psychiatry Authors: Tags: Abuse Codependence Narcissism Personality Relationships & Love Self-Esteem Self-Help Emotional Abuse emotional blackmail Punishment Source Type: news