How to Reconnect with the Things You Used to Love

We quit things we love because we believe ourselves unworthy. Have you given up things you love? Not things you loved, past tense, then honestly stopped loving — such as keg parties or Angry Birds. I mean things — places, topics, whatever — you still love, but let go. Maybe you told yourself you didn’t love them anymore so move on, moron in that mean voice we use only on ourselves. Maybe some aspect of it hurt you somehow, leaving you in grief or shame and shock. Maybe you told yourself you no longer deserved that pleasure, those rewards, that reunion with your true self. Maybe you forced yourself to quit because you weren’t perfect at it, weren’t even as good as Buddy X or Sibling Y. Maybe, because you weren’t an expert or a master or had tons of time to spend with it, you had no right. We quit things we love because we believe ourselves unworthy: too old, too unfit, too selfish, too absurd. Maybe we taught macaws to talk or bounced in barrels over waterfalls but stopped because because because… A relative gave up her favorite foods after becoming disabled and requiring a wheelchair. A cripple who sits around all day, she scoffed, has lost the privilege of enjoying fatty snacks. I gave up traveling for years because I hadn’t traveled when someone was far away and needed me. I’d loved traveling all my life but told myself I’d forfeited my rights. We quit things we love when we see them as too beautiful and ourselv...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Perfectionism Personal Publishers Self-Esteem Self-Help Spirituality Spirituality & Health Love Passion Reconnect self-compassion self-worth unworthy Source Type: blogs