The Basics of Self-Love

“It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.” – Sidney J. Harris It is very difficult to find a loving partner if you don’t love yourself. Yes, love. Love means acceptance, compassion and a general positive, even affectionate feeling about who you are. Finding unconditional love from someone else is almost impossible. Everyone has some conditions. But acknowledging and deserving unconditional self-love is the basis for having a loving adult relationship. Why? Because you can’t expect others to love you if you don’t. Self-love isn’t selfish or self-centered or self-deluding. It acknowledges your basic worth but also requires that you take care of that worth by actively nurturing yourself and others through loving behavior. Self-love is the foundation for being loving and attracting love. 7 basics for self-love Believe in your essential worth: No child is born unlovable. You weren’t either. Whatever has happened to your lovability since then is the result of the sum total of all your experiences — both positive and negative — and the conclusions you drew about yourself as you grew. The good news is that your core self is lovable. Believing that is the foundation for self-love. Anything about you that is unlovable has been learne...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: General Habits Happiness Holiday Coping Perfectionism Self-Esteem Self-Help Confidence Forgiveness Gratitude Loneliness Optimism Personal Growth Positivity Self Image Self Love self-compassion Unconditional Love valenti Source Type: blogs