The Worst Advice for Alleviating Anxiety —And What Actually Helps

Anxiety is a common emotion. Everyone experiences it. Which is why everyone assumes they know how to deal with it. Which means that when someone is struggling with anxiety—excessive anxiety or worries that won’t go away—they may get an assortment of advice. But this advice may not be helpful. In fact, it might even amplify their anxiety. We asked clinicians who specialize in anxiety to share the worst kinds of advice for anxiety—which you’ll find below, along with what actually does help. Look on the bright side. When you’re anxious and riddled with worries, well-meaning friends and family may suggest you refocus on the positives. They might say statements like, “You are so negative. Why don’t you count all the good things in your life?” said Deb Owens, LPC, a psychotherapist with a private practice in Philadelphia. They might give “at least” responses, she said. That is, you say, “I’m really worried about job security.” The other person replies: “At least you have a job.” You say, “I’m really anxious about my loved one’s health. The other person replies: “At least you have a relationship.” Focusing on the bright side doesn’t address or acknowledge the anxiety. Plus, like other emotions, anxiety has three components: thoughts; feelings/physiological arousal; and behavior, said Kevin Chapman, Ph.D, a psychologist with a private practice in Louisville, K.Y. “[M]erely thinking positively is not sufficient in many cases due to the...
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