How to Accept That Time Doesn ’ t Heal All Wounds

Wounds don’t heal with time; you just get better at living with them. I never like to be the bearer of bad news, but unlike a scrape on the knee or a cracked femur, emotional wounds do not heal with time. It’s a nice, thoughtless cliché that people resort to when they feel like others need hope or comfort, but it isn’t true. You Need To Know The Differences Between Healthy And Unhealthy Relationships I get that all this sounds very pessimistic, but hear me out: I’m of the firm belief that looking at life’s storms directly is what prepares us for any type of weather. Instead of struggling to “move on” from something that pains us (and wondering what’s wrong with us when we can’t), why can’t we learn that less-than-perfect feelings aren’t so scary and that we can coexist with the darker parts of ourselves? Once, when talking to a former lover about what went wrong with us in our brief fling, I attempted to shield my still-very-raw emotions about him by presenting the buffer: “Well, it’s been almost a decade since all this happened…” to which he quickly replied, “Yes, but the heart knows no time.” I’m glad we were talking via text so he didn’t think I was rude when I stopped everything to stare into the middle distance, awestruck and pondering the truth bomb with which he’d just annihilated how I process my past. He was absolutely right. When love is involved, time is never a factor regarding our emotional connections with someone el...
Source: World of Psychology - Category: Psychiatry & Psychology Authors: Tags: Grief and Loss Happiness Publishers Self-Help YourTango acceptance Cliche comfort emotional wounds Feelings healing with time hope Liz Pardue-Schultz Love Pain Past Perfectionism Present Relationships self-compassion Source Type: blogs